03/17/2026
Tonight! 7pm PST. A conversation with yours truly on The Wired Ape podcast.
https://youtu.be/d2RH-e8KkV4
In 2005, I bathed my mother's body after she died. I anointed her. Dressed her. Laid her in honor in the home she had lived in for decades.
Neighbors came by. Friends brought tea. The house became the funeral parlor. And everything about it felt right.
That experience changed my life. I realized families had given away one of the most profound healing rituals available to them. We handed our loved ones to professional strangers because nobody told us we had another choice.
I founded Sacred Crossings to give that choice back.
For nearly 40 years, starting during the AIDS crisis in the late 1980s and continuing to this day, I have sat with the dying and the grieving. I have learned that death midwifery is not really about death. It is about creating a container so safe and so full of love that everyone in it, the dying and the living, can feel everything and know they are held.
I recently had a beautiful conversation with for their series The Firekeepers. We talked about what I witnessed at bedsides during the AIDS crisis. What my mother's death taught me about dying well. What a three-day home vigil actually looks like and what it does to the people who experience it. Why we gave the most powerful healing ritual in human history to an industry. And what it costs us every single day that we do not take it back.
The full episode drops March 17 at 7pm EST on The Wired Ape's platforms.
If this resonates with something deep in you, visit sacredcrossings.com. We offer home funeral guidance, vigil support, green burial, sea burial, and Death Midwife training through the Sacred Crossings Institute.
Death is not something to be afraid of. It is something we can learn to do well. Together.
Share this with someone who needs to know there is another way to say goodbye.
