Maya Nehru Coaching

Maya Nehru Coaching Therapist for the ‘pleasers’ & ‘I’m fine’-ers. You ignore your needs…then resent it later. I help you stop abandoning yourself.

If you’re really good at giving everyone else the benefit of the doubt but immediately put yourself on trial…oh hey!👋🏽 😆...
09/20/2026

If you’re really good at giving everyone else the benefit of the doubt but immediately put yourself on trial…oh hey!👋🏽 😆

Self-validation can feel weird when you’re used to looking outside of yourself for confirmation that your feelings are “reasonable.”

So you text the friend.
Replay the conversation.
Explain all 47 details.
And wait for someone to say, “No, I’d be upset too.”

Sometimes self-validation is much less profound than we make it.

It’s literally just:

“Okay, that hurt.”
“Yeah…I didn’t love that.”
“I’m allowed to be annoyed.”
“That was a lot for me.”

And then resisting the urge to immediately build a legal case for why you’re allowed to feel that way.

You can be curious about your reactions without constantly putting them on trial.

Save this for the next time you’re three texts deep into asking someone else how you should feel.

And don’t forget to say hello in my comments and join the fun by following along!

If conflict makes you immediately think, “Oh god, are we okay?” …this one’s for you. 🫠When you’re used to people-pleasin...
09/19/2026

If conflict makes you immediately think, “Oh god, are we okay?” …this one’s for you. 🫠

When you’re used to people-pleasing, someone being upset with you can feel like an emergency.

But healthy relationships can actually handle a little friction.

Someone can be annoyed with you AND still love you.

You can disagree AND still be okay.

You can take a minute before responding.

And you don’t have to make yourself smaller just because someone you love is disappointed.

Turns out, conflict doesn’t always need a winner, a loser, or a 3-hour post-conversation spiral. 😅

Come back to this when someone else’s disappointment has you questioning your entire personality.

And if anxiety, people-pleasing, or relationship overthinking has been running the show lately, I’m currently accepting new therapy clients in Washington. Come say hi. 🫶🏽

Secure love can feel a little...dare I say it…suspicious when you’re used to overthinking. Like wait, you’re quiet and I...
09/18/2026

Secure love can feel a little...dare I say it…suspicious when you’re used to overthinking.

Like wait, you’re quiet and I’m NOT supposed to immediately assume you’re mad at me?

I don’t need to reread your text 14 times?

I don’t need to monitor your tone, facial expression, punctuation AND general vibe to figure out if we’re okay?

Wild.

And maybe you’ve never learned this, but a part of emotional safety in a relationship is not having to constantly search for clues about where you stand.

People say what they mean.
Needs can be talked about.
Disagreements don’t automatically mean disconnection.
And someone else having a mood doesn’t immediately become your problem to solve.

And yes, even in a secure relationship, your brain might still occasionally go, “Okay but… are we SURE everything is fine?”

Stop telling yourself you need to become someone who never overthinks.

You’d just be a lot calmer if you stopped abandoning yourself every time the overthinking shows up.

So do yourself a favor and keep this somewhere safe for the next time you find yourself trying to read between lines that might not actually be there. 🫠

And if anxiety, people-pleasing, or relationship overthinking has been running the show lately, I’m currently accepting new therapy clients in Washington. Come say hi. 🫶🏽

09/17/2026

Money can’t buy happiness, but it can buy…options. And I’m sorry but options are VERY good for my mental health. 😂

Because money isn’t just about having nice things.

Money can buy access.
Access to childcare.
Access to healthcare.
Access to rest.
Access to experiences.
Access to getting the hell out of a situation you don’t want to be in.

And yes, access to a therapist who will lovingly teach you how to set a boundary, advocate for yourself, and survive the absolutely devastating experience of someone being mildly disappointed in you.

Money can also give you something people don’t talk about enough: agency.

The ability to say:
“No.”
“I don’t want to.”
“This isn’t working for me.”
“I’m leaving.”
“I’m going to choose something different.”

Does money guarantee happiness? Obviously not.

But can it give you more access, more options, and more freedom to make choices about your own life?

Yeahhhh. I’d say that matters quite a bit.

“Money can’t buy happiness” was apparently missing several paragraphs of context. 😂

Send this to someone who also thinks “money can’t buy happiness” needs an asterisk. 😂

For the days when you’re running on caffeine, responsibility, and the fact that apparently everyone still needs things f...
09/17/2026

For the days when you’re running on caffeine, responsibility, and the fact that apparently everyone still needs things from you. 😮‍💨

You don’t have to earn rest by completely exhausting yourself first. ( I learned this the hard way).

You’re allowed to do less.
You’re allowed to say no.
You’re allowed to move a little slower.
You’re allowed to have a day where “good enough” is actually… good enough.

And maybe the goal today isn’t to push through.

Maybe it’s to stop treating your capacity like a character flaw.

This is a reminder for those days when your brain says “keep going” but your body is very clearly saying “girl, absolutely not.”

Don’t forget to say hello in my comments and join the fun by following along!

09/16/2026

I do NOT play about saying no when I mean no. 😆

Does that mean it always feels comfortable? Absolutely not.

Sometimes I still feel guilty.
Sometimes I worry they’re disappointed.
Sometimes a part of me really wants to add three paragraphs explaining why.

But I’ve learned that feeling uncomfortable after saying no doesn’t mean the no was wrong.

Sometimes it just means you’re practicing choosing yourself without immediately trying to make everyone else okay with it.

And if saying no is easy in theory but sends you into a spiral in real life…yeah, we can work on that. 😆

Comment BOUNDARIES and I’ll send you a little boundaries packet you can use as your cheat sheet.

I’m currently accepting new therapy clients in Washington. Link in bio to learn more.

Sometimes anxiety has REALLY good manners. 😆It says “whatever works for you!”“I don’t mind!”“No worries at all!!”Meanwhi...
09/16/2026

Sometimes anxiety has REALLY good manners. 😆

It says “whatever works for you!”
“I don’t mind!”
“No worries at all!!”

Meanwhile, you absolutely do mind.

But when you’re used to paying close attention to everyone else’s feelings, being “considerate” can quietly turn into constantly editing yourself to avoid disappointment, tension, or the possibility that someone might think you’re difficult.

And listen…I’m not telling you to stop being thoughtful.

I’m asking you to notice when being thoughtful requires you to disappear from the equation.

You get to have preferences.
You get to inconvenience people sometimes.
You get to say no without presenting your case to the jury.
You get to let someone be disappointed without immediately trying to fix it.

Being considerate includes considering yourself, too.

Pull this up when you find yourself wanting to default to “whatever you want!” when you very much have an opinion.

And if this is the kind of work you’re ready to do in therapy, I’m currently accepting new clients in Washington. You can learn more through the link in my bio.

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