11/11/2023
Are you under 40 and have trouble “getting it up” or “finishing off?” Have to use your hand even with a hot guy? Do you think this happened to guys before online videos were a thing?
Even if you know many guys who have the same problems, it does not mean this is normal. These videos can cause damage to our brain reward pathways, and using them can even cause physical damage and desensitization as well. Good news: it’s reversible! There are many reasons to cut down, but if your biggest motivation is the external validation of being a “good lay” then start with that! That’s what started me off 3 years ago, and since then I’ve focused so much more on the other benefits such as time and self-esteem regardless of being in the bedroom.
I used to have problems getting it up and finishing off, but for years now no amount of nerves or self-doubt can get in the way of my body doing what it’s supposed to do 💦 Hooking up has never been something I truly cared about, and I’ve stopped trying to force myself into that box. There are plenty of ways I’m happy to fit the gay stereotype, and there are plenty of ways I don’t resonate with as well. You may really enjoy hooking up, or you might feel similarly to me and only do it to “fit in.” Either way, cutting out these videos will help you out.
Next time you’re feeling the urge, try another piece of advice I believe in wholeheartedly: Do the deed with yourself in the mirror! I can’t think of a more literal form of self-love!
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