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Ever brought forward a concern or disclosure only to be met with statements like:

- Talking about this to others is gossip
- Bringing this up is causing division
- You need to search your own heart first
- That's just your trauma talking
- Forgive and forget
- No one is perfect / We all make mistakes
- Suffering produces holiness
- Don't be driven by fear
- Love covers a multitude of sins

Author and GRACE Executive Editor Wade Mullen defines these reality-bending phrases as those that "make what is dangerous appear holy, what is protective appear sinful, and what is abusive appear loving. These phrases do not simply end thought, but reshape the playing field and the rules of engagement in which dialogue occurs."

If you've ever experienced the use of one of these phrases, we encourage you to check out Wade's full article on "The Wheel of Reality Bending Phrases" over on his personal substack at wademullen.substack.com/p/the-wheel-of-reality-bending-phrases

Maya Angelou—

In her newest essay, "Mothering MySelf Home", Patria
reflects on the deeper work that comes after self-connection: learning to stay, to tend what's been neglected, and to offer yourself the same patience you've always given to everyone else.

This is one of her most honest and tender pieces yet. It's
for anyone who has spent years knowing how to care for
others, and is only now learning to turn that care inward.

Read it here: https://www.thebrokenandbeautiful.com/post/mothering-myself-home

And if you're ready to go deeper, Patria's workshop —
*Coming Home to Yourself: A Journey Into Secure Belonging* —
is happening June 13. Registration link is in the post.

Mothering Myself Home: On Learning to Stay

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In a special post this week, Patria explores a question she hears often: "If I know this pattern isn't helping me…why do I keep doing it?"

The answer isn't always about what happened to us. Sometimes it lives in what was absent - what was longed for but never securely received.

And the patterns we formed to survive that absence don't let go just because we've grown wiser.

This one is for anyone quietly wondering if something different is possible. Details for the virtual event “Coming Home to Yourself” on June 13 are at the end of the post.

Why We Stay Stuck in Patterns We Don't Love: An Attachment Story One of the questions I hear most often sounds like this: "If I know this pattern isn't helping me anymore, why do I keep doing it?" The answer rarely lives in what happened to us. Sometimes it lives in what was never fully given — what was absent, inconsistent, or longed for but never securely rec...

Kate Petersen is back with Part 2 of her powerful series — and this one asks a question that might stop you in your tracks.

What if your body isn't breaking down? What if it's been speaking the truth all along, and you've just never been given permission to listen?

Writing from her own experience with pregnancy loss and years of unheard body signals, Kate walks through what it actually looks like to build self-trust from the inside out — not as a concept, but as a lived, embodied practice.

If you've ever felt alone in a room full of people, or wondered why your system keeps responding to things that "shouldn't" be a big deal — this one is for you.

"The Truth Your Body Is Telling You: Self-Trust, Grief, and Coming Back to Life" For years, my body was speaking. The anxiety that arrived like weather I couldn't predict. The exhaustion sleep couldn't touch. The way my system would lock up around the people I was supposed to feel safest with. I called it confusion. I called it malfunction. What if it was never either of those t...

What if your body isn’t broken? What if it’s been trying to tell you the truth all along?

In part 2 of her series, Kate Petersen writes about what happened when a miscarriage cracked open years of unheard signals from her own body. Not just grief - but clarity. The kind that comes when you’ve been too afraid: too conditioned, too busy surviving to listen.

This piece is for anyone who has wondered why their body keeps responding to things their mind says are fine. Why the anxiety arrives. Why they feel alone surrounded by people.

Learning self-trust isn’t about having the right answers. It starts with being willing to stop, notice, and ask: “What if my body is responding to something real?”

Read today’s post at the link in bio.