08/21/2026
I was at a networking event last week, chatting with a therapist, and she said something about college admissions that caught me off guard. She said also of the families she works with treat the whole process like a chore. Something to grit your teeth through and check off the list, the same way you’d handle taxes or a dentist appointment.
And she’s not wrong. That’s how it feels for a lot of families I meet. Dread it, do it, move on.
But here’s what I’ve watched happen, over and over, with families who go through this differently. When you slow down and actually start with values, what matters to your child and your family, what kind of environment helps them thrive, what they’re even excited about, the whole process shifts. It stops being a chore and starts being one of the first real conversations a parent and teenager have about who that kid is becoming.
I’ve had parents tell me the process brought them closer to their kid. I’ve had students tell me it’s the first time an adult asked what they wanted instead of what they should want.
That’s not because I have some secret trick. It’s because when there’s a calm, structured guide holding the process, the family gets to actually be present in it instead of just surviving it.
If this season feels like a chore in your house right now, it doesn’t have to stay that way. Comment GUIDE and I’ll send you the link to talk it through.