Clinical social worker + certified life coach. Reinvention for women in midlife.
06/12/2026
As we end the week and move toward the weekend, take a moment to celebrate your wins and/or something good that has happened to you this week. (Does something need to go in your Good Things folder?)
Remember, small wins are as significant as the large ones! 🎉
06/11/2026
𝙏𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙝𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙙 𝙙𝙪𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖 𝙨𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙬𝙚𝙚𝙠.
A client shared how she had taken on the expense of a significant new monthly expense with the purchase of a new car. We both cringed as we acknowledged how some car payments can easily equal a monthly mortgage.
She added that, when budgeting for the new car, she made certain to budget to continue working with me.. Continuing our work together wasn’t even a question.” It was nonnegotiable.
All I could do was smile.
There is nothing quite like someone telling you, in the middle of their own financial reality, that what you do together matters enough to protect.
I never take the work I do with my clients lightly.
I encourage all my clients to have nonnegotiables in their life. These are the things we quietly decide are too important to negotiate away, even when life gets expensive or complicated or exhausting.
For her, right now, her growth is one of them.
𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩’𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨?
If you’ve been thinking about coaching and you know there’s something you need to work on — something you’re ready to stop putting off, I would love to talk.
Because sometimes the most important investment you make isn’t the biggest one. It’s the one you refuse to give up.
Drop a comment or send me a DM. I’d love to connect.
06/10/2026
I've been thinking about the concept of receiving.
Receiving help.
Receiving gifts.
Receiving compliments.
Receiving love.
A large majority of people struggle with the act of receiving. It can show up as believing they don't need it (help or gifts) or believing they don't deserve it (compliments, opportunities, or love). For many, receiving can feel surprisingly vulnerable.
Most of us desire blessings, abundance, and meaningful connections, yet at the same time we carry limiting beliefs that tell us we are not worthy of them. As a result, the narrative we've created can push away the very things we hope to receive.
I've had clients tell me they automatically decline when someone offers to help them. When I ask why, the answer is often the same:
"I don't want to be a burden."
Using an analogy, I encourage them to imagine that the person offering help is presenting them with a beautifully wrapped gift. By declining it, they are pushing the gift away before ever looking inside.
What if accepting help isn't being a burden?
What if receiving a compliment isn't arrogance?
What if accepting love isn't weakness?
What if life is presenting you with gifts, but your struggle is believing that you are worthy of receiving them?
Today, I invite you to consider:
How many gifts have you been pushing away?
And perhaps more importantly:
What might change if you allowed yourself to receive one of them?
P.S. The next time someone offers a compliment, help, encouragement, or support, try resisting the urge to deflect it. Simply say, "Thank you." Notice how that feels.
Many of our struggles with receiving begin with the thoughts we think about ourselves. If you're ready to challenge those limiting beliefs, my recorded online masterclass, Mastering Your Negative Self-Talk, provides practical tools to help you quiet your inner critic and build a more compassionate inner dialogue. Course link is in the comments.
06/09/2026
Burnout doesn't usually happen because people work too hard. It happens because they never stop.
Our energy is meant to ebb and flow throughout the day. Yet many people spend hours moving from task to task, meeting to meeting, without even taking a moment to stand up, stretch, or take a bathroom break.
By the end of the day, their energy is in a downward spiral.
Rest is essential. It is not a luxury.
Unfortunately, many of us have been taught to treat rest as something that must be earned—something we can do once the to-do list is finished.
The problem?
The to-do list is never finished.
I can relate. I've spent much of my life as an overachiever and have paid the price from a health perspective.
That experience is one of the reasons I've spent the past six years helping people recognize that the small daily habits and routines they have created are often leading them directly toward burnout.
The truth is that rest is not the opposite of productivity.
Rest supports productivity.
Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is pause.
What is one small way you recharge your energy during the day?
06/08/2026
Today I invite you to pay attention to the predictions you're making.
🔹Not the weather forecast.
🔹Not the stock market.
🔹Your own forecast.
What are you predicting about this week?
✓ It will be stressful.
✓ Nothing will go my way.
✓ I'm already behind.
✓ 'll never get caught up.
Or...
🪄Something good is waiting for me.
🪄I'll handle whatever comes my way.
🪄There will be moments of joy.
🪄Opportunities will appear.
Our brains are scanning the world to search for evidence that supports what we already believe.
What are you predicting for yourself this week
06/07/2026
Not every day deserves a gratitude list.
Anyone who knows me knows knows how much gratitude plays a role in my life and may be surprised I am saying this.
Not every difficult feeling needs to be reframed immediately.
Sometimes life is hard.
Sometimes life is painful.
Sometimes life isn’t fair.
Sometimes things don’t go your way, and you’re left feeling hurt, disappointed, frustrated, exhausted, or overwhelmed.
Skipping the hard feelings doesn’t make them go away.They go underground. They show up as anxiety you can’t explain, irritability that comes out of nowhere, or a general numbness that makes it hard to feel the good stuff too. You can’t selectively numb. When you shut down the hard, you shut down all of it.
Sitting with the sadness, frustration, disappointment, or grief is often the first step toward moving through it.
In fact, there are times when I encourage my clients to have a pity party.
Acknowledge it.
Feel it.
Be frustrated.
Be sad.
Sometimes you need to cry.
Sometimes you need to scream into a pillow.
Sometimes you need to curl up on the couch with a blanket and admit that today is just hard.
Every good party has an ending time - even a pity party.
You don’t have to rush yourself through the hard feelings. You don’t have to force gratitude before you’re ready. You don’t have to pretend everything is fine.
But eventually, the party ends.
You take a deep breath.
You get up from the couch.
You wipe your tears.
And you ask yourself, “What’s my next step?”
Not because the pain magically disappeared.
Not because everything is suddenly okay.
But because you deserve more than staying stuck in the hurt.
This week, if life feels heavy, give yourself permission to acknowledge it.
Then, when you’re ready, turn the page and take the next step forward.
06/01/2026
Happy June 1st.
New Month
New Week
Summer Energy
It is the perfect time to ask yourself: what decisions am I making RIGHT NOW that my future self will feel?
The most valuable math is not on a test. It is your daily choices.
What is one goal you're committing to this June?
05/31/2026
I spent two days power washing my deck this weekend.
Somewhere in the middle of it — wand in hand, watching that first clean stripe appear across the gray — I realized I'd forgotten what a clean deck even looked like.
And I started thinking about how much we are like that deck in midlife. How we adapt. How we adjust. How we tell ourselves it's not too bad. And how, before we know it, we forget what's underneath.
I wrote about it this morning. About what uncovering really looks like — and why it's not the same as starting over.
Link in comments
05/27/2026
What do you do with the compliments, the thank yous, the gratitude that you receive from the world?
It is easy to pay little attention to the positive, love and good things that happen to us. Yet, our brain can easily remember all of the negative.
This is why I encourage everyone to create a "Love and Good Stuff" folder. This is the place—digital or handwritten—where you save the encouraging texts, the heartfelt emails, the moments someone said “you made a difference,” or the little wins you’re proud of. (I have both an email folder and desk folder)
Because on the days when the doubt creeps in… when the inner critic f in your head gets loud… when you temporarily forget who you are - this folder becomes your anchor.
It’s your proof.
Your reminder.
Your soft place to land.
So today, if you don't have one already, start creating a folder with all of the love and good stuff that enters your life. And when you need it—and we all do—go back and read it. Let it remind you of what’s true about you, even when your feelings tell a different story.
PS: Look for the Good Stuff that is going to happne today.
05/26/2026
Don’t scroll by without trying this - and then do it again. 😉
