09/17/2026
Grades can tell us how a young person is doing in school.
They can't tell us everything about how a young person is doing.
As the school year gets underway, make room for questions about more than assignments, tests, and homework.
Try:
“Who did you sit with today?”
You might learn about belonging and friendships.
“What felt hard today?”
You create an opening to talk about challenges before they become overwhelming.
“What are you looking forward to?”
You get a glimpse of where they're finding joy, connection, or purpose.
“When did you feel most like yourself today?”
You learn where—and with whom—they feel comfortable being who they are.
You don't need to ask them all at once. Pick one. Listen to the answer. And, when you can, remember to follow up later.
Because knowing how our kids are doing means paying attention to much more than what's on the report card.
Find more conversation starters and practical ideas in our free Back-to-School Mental Health Guide at cathedralhome.org/back-to-school