Rachel Skye

Have you ever felt unnoticed, unseen or unappreciated? Maybe by your boss, a co-worker, your partner, friend or family member? How damn frustrating or lonely does that feel?!

That's what we're going to be talking about in this month's Fierce Woman's Circle. When you're the one keeping the whole thing together at work or at home, and no one notices until something breaks–what's that costing you?

The Fierce Woman's circle is a monthly in-person gathering for women who are done shrinking, done waiting and done performing a version of themselves that’s easier for everyone else to handle.

Every month we go deep on one theme. Honest conversation. Embodied movement. The kind of raw, real talk that most rooms are too scared to make space for.

This is not a networking event. Not a book club. Not another thing you leave feeling vaguely inspired and completely unchanged.

It's a room full of women who are serious about getting out of their own effin way.

Join the circle on Wednesday, June 17 from 7-8:30pm.
📍 Urban Arts House, 430 W Orange St, Lancaster
🎟 $30 (1 seat) or $50 bring a friend (two seats, save $10)

Check the 1st comment for the link to sign up. 👇

Yes woman, wear the damn dress.

You didn’t buy it so it could become permanent, emotional decor in your closet.

Wear it before you lose 10 pounds.
Wear it before that vacation.
Wear it when you have no where important to go.
Wear it before your confidence magically arrives one day.

And no, you are not “too old” for that cute dress.

The dress is ready now.
Your life is happening now.
Stop saving pieces of yourself for later and go wear the damn dress.👗

They called me intimidating. I called it a Tuesday.
There's nothing wrong with your energy. Here's what's actually going on...

You've been told your whole life that your energy is "a lot." Too direct. Too opinionated. Too confident. Too loud. And somewhere in between all that feedback, you started wondering...is my intensity actually a problem?

It's not. But nobody told you that.

Listen. I’ve had people avoid me like I walk around with a sword in one hand and a mirror in the other. Case in point: A friend of mine wanted to introduce me to his girlfriend. She stalked my Instagram and decided I was “too intimidating” to meet.

Girl, what?! I’m 5’ nothing. I live in stretchy pants, talk to my plants, and cry during really emotional romcom scenes. But yes, I also have a strong voice, bold energy and zero time for small talk about the weather. If someone’s nervous system can’t handle a little power in a crop top, that’s a them thing.

🤔Here’s what I’ve come to realize: when people say you’re intimidating, what they actually mean is, “You make me feel small, and I don’t know how to regulate my insecurity in your presence.”

Let me say it louder for the people in the back:
✨ Confidence doesn’t intimidate secure people—only insecure ones. ✨

Same goes for dating. There were times I wondered, “Why is this so effin' hard?” A lot of men saw me, felt my energy, and tapped tf out. Not because I was mean, but because I didn’t shrink to fit the room.

I've been in rooms with people who had serious "don't mess with me" energy. A past boss. A clinical director I interviewed with. Both had a presence that could've made me shake in my boots but I didn't flinch. I stayed in my energy. And after the interview, the clinical director looked me dead in the eye and said: "I like your energy."

When you don't back down from confident people, something magical happens. You realize they're not scary. They're just strong. And strength recognizes strength.

So if someone calls you intimidating, take it as a freaking compliment. What they really mean is:
→ “You seem to like yourself and I don’t know how to do that yet.”
→ “You take up space and I’ve been trained to shrink.”
→ “You radiate realness and I’m still hiding.”

You are not here to dial it down so others feel comfortable in your presence. You are not a dimmer switch. You are the sun. Shine on, babe. Let ‘em squint.😎

Don’t be fooled by all the Instagram highlight reels. Life is full of highs and lows. The lows teach you lessons and the highs remind you what you're capable of when you stop playing small.

THE HIGHLIGHTS
✨Hosted a fun as hell Galentine’s Night with my gurrrls.

✨Invited to be a guest speaker for ASSET’s Incubator program. And was invited back 2 more times to speak and teach over the summer.

✨Sold my first house that came with a crispy commission check.

✨Performed at Hypnotic Pole Fitness’s grand opening (my only live performance in 2025).

✨Worked on a film project—1st one since 2019, and spoke at the film premiere.

✨Relaunched my online coaching business.

✨Went indoor skydiving for my birthday!

✨Harvested my first tomato. (I know...such an adult thing to be proud of of.)

✨Improved my Pickleball game. (Again...such an adult brag.)

✨Visited a Hindu temple in the middle of Jersey.

✨Walked in the Velocity Fashion Show and felt luck a f*ckin rockstar! (10 years later after 1st performing at Velocity).

✨Landed my first online coaching client.

THE LOWLIGHTS

💩Fired a client for being unreasonable.

💩Spent a sh*tload of money on advertising that did not yield any ROI.

💩Realized that running an online business isn’t as easy as I thought it, and sooooo much different than running a brick &
mortar business.

💩Launched a Facebook group that flopped.

💩Constantly battled with comparison—comparing my success with others. (Yes, I know comparison is a losing game and yet I still struggle with it.)

💩Cried over a lot of heartache.

💩Gained weight, lost muscle strength and forgot a lot of people’s names. (Perimenopause sucks!)

💩Had a least 2 panic attacks.

Ever notice how the same heartbreaks, challenges, or frustrating situations keep showing up in your life? Here’s the uncomfortable truth babe: the common denominator isn’t your luck. It’s how you show up in your body, your boundaries and your choices.

The good news is...you can break the cycle. You can step into a version of yourself that moves through life grounded, magnetic and unapologetically confident.

This isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about reclaiming your power and showing up fully. And yes… it feels fu***ng good when you do.

In my 8-week Fierce Confidence program, I guide ambitious women to connect with their bodies, own their space and step into the confidence that changes everything—from their decisions to their career, relationships, and life. If you’re ready to feel grounded, sexy, and unstoppable, this is your next step.

Book your complimentary 15-minute Clarity Call with me to find out what's holding you back. Tap here👉 https://bit.ly/3M6fWlc

💋Rachel Skye

My 40s wishlist is a whole different lifestyle. Comfort runs the show now. Control top black leggings, every kind of biotic my gut can handle, a heating pad I treat like a best friend, a memory foam pillow that changed my life and the boujee pajamas I found in a boutique. I still love a sexy heel, but it needs to support more than just the outfit. This is the era of cozy, sustainable, grown-woman energy.

Tell me your 40 without telling me you're 40. 😝