Dr. Renea

08/28/2026

𝐎𝐊𝐀𝐘. 𝐈𝐓’𝐒 𝐇𝐀𝐏𝐏𝐄𝐍𝐈𝐍𝐆.

𝗠𝗲𝗮𝗻 𝗚𝗶𝗿𝗹𝘀 𝗚𝗿𝗼𝘄 𝗨𝗽 is not officially out yet. But I’m letting you read the first part now.

And I am so excited that 𝘉𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘢 𝘙𝘪𝘥𝘨𝘭𝘦𝘺 of Whole You with Brenda Ridgley wrote the foreword. She understood exactly why this book needed to exist.

Fair warning: you’re going to recognize the mean girl in your life.

She hugs you like she loves you, then starts acting weird the second something good happens for you.

She leaves you out, takes little shots at you, and says things that sound innocent enough when you repeat them later.

That’s her specialty: hurting you so quietly that you feel ridiculous trying to explain why it hurt.

Then you go home and replay the whole thing 47 times, wondering if you imagined it, misunderstood it, or were just being “too sensitive.”

You weren’t.

And listen, I didn’t write this book because I’ve never been the mean girl. I wrote it because I’ve dealt with her, been hurt by her, and had to take a hard look at the times I may have been her too.

Mean girls grow up and they get better at making you look like the problem.

𝗪𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗯𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗼𝗼𝗸 𝗶𝘀 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱?

Comment 𝐎𝐔𝐂𝐇 and I’ll send it straight to your Messenger.

08/27/2026

𝗢𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝗶𝗻 𝟭𝟵𝟵𝟳, 𝗜 𝗲𝗻𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗔𝗶𝗿 𝗙𝗼𝗿𝗰𝗲.

I was 17 years old.
Seventeen.

I didn’t have a mapped-out life plan. I barely had enough life behind me to understand what that kind of commitment meant.

I raised my right hand, stepped into a life I couldn’t fully understand yet, and figured it out while I was living it.

I eventually earned my commission and retired as an officer after 22½ years of active duty.

That looks nice and tidy in a paragraph.
It was anything but.

Some days made me proud. Some days brought me to my knees. Some days did both before 9am.

I learned how to lead when I was tired. How to keep moving when things got heavy. And how many times the phrase “temporary solution” can be used with a completely straight face.

The Air Force gave me opportunities that 17-year-old girl couldn’t have imagined. It also demanded more from her than she could have known.

𝗜’𝗺 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗱 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿 𝗜 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝗺𝗲.

But today, I’m thinking about the girl who raised her hand before she had any idea how much that one decision would ask of her - or how completely it would change her.

She had no clue what she was getting into.

𝗔𝘁 𝟭𝟳, 𝗜 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝘀𝗮𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗔𝗶𝗿 𝗙𝗼𝗿𝗰𝗲. 𝗜 𝗵𝗮𝗱 𝗻𝗼 𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗮 𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝘀𝗼 𝘀𝗮𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗜 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲.

Maybe that’s the lesson.

You won’t always feel ready when the moment arrives. You won’t always know where one decision will take you.

Sometimes you say yes with the courage you have - and grow into the person that yes requires.

08/26/2026

Being disrespectful back can feel like standing up for yourself.

Sometimes it’s letting someone else decide who you become for the next five minutes.

𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻’𝘁 𝗰𝗹𝗮𝗽𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸𝘀.
They’re sentences that end the nonsense without turning you into the nonsense.

That’s why I write ShiFt Happens. Every Sunday.

𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗦𝗛𝗜𝗙𝗧 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗜’𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗸. ⬇️

08/25/2026

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘀𝗮𝘆 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗶𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗱𝗶𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗹𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸, “𝗢𝗵. 𝗜 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝗜 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂.”?

What phrase does it for you?

08/24/2026

Some of y’all are writing a full dissertation to explain a boundary to someone who understood it the first time.

𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗱𝗶𝗱𝗻’𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗶𝘁. 😂

Pick one. Say it. Then stop talking. That last part is where the magic - and the emotional damage prevention - happens.

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱𝗻’𝘁 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝗮 𝗣𝗵𝗗 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮 𝟭𝟮-𝘀𝗹𝗶𝗱𝗲 𝗣𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗣𝗼𝗶𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗻𝗼.

𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗦𝗛𝗜𝗙𝗧 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗜’𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗸. ⬇️

08/21/2026

𝗜’𝗟𝗟 𝗕𝗘 𝗔𝗧 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗣𝗔𝗥𝗞𝗘𝗥 𝗖𝗢𝗨𝗡𝗧𝗬 𝗟𝗜𝗧𝗘𝗥𝗔𝗥𝗬 𝗙𝗘𝗦𝗧! 📚

📅 𝗦𝗔𝗧𝗨𝗥𝗗𝗔𝗬, 𝗦𝗘𝗣𝗧𝗘𝗠𝗕𝗘𝗥 𝟭𝟵
⏰ 𝟭𝟬 𝗔𝗠–𝟰 𝗣𝗠
📍 𝗔𝗟𝗘𝗗𝗢 𝗖𝗢𝗠𝗠𝗨𝗡𝗜𝗧𝗬 𝗖𝗘𝗡𝗧𝗘𝗥
🎟️ 𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘 & 𝗢𝗣𝗘𝗡 𝗧𝗢 𝗘𝗩𝗘𝗥𝗬𝗢𝗡𝗘

I’ll have 𝗔𝗟𝗟 of my books with me - but this is also the 𝗢𝗙𝗙𝗜𝗖𝗜𝗔𝗟 𝗕𝗢𝗢𝗞 𝗟𝗔𝗨𝗡𝗖𝗛 for…

💋 𝗠𝗘𝗔𝗡 𝗚𝗜𝗥𝗟𝗦 𝗚𝗥𝗢𝗪 𝗨𝗣 💋

And for now, this is the 𝗢𝗡𝗟𝗬 place you can get it early.

Come buy a book. Bring one you already own and make me autograph it like I’m famous. Take a picture with me. Give me a hug. Or just stand near my table so it looks like I have friends. I am not picky. 😂

You’ll also get to meet some incredible authors, illustrators, and other wildly creative people who decided writing a book was a perfectly reasonable way to spend several years of their lives.

A HUGE thank-you to William Chandler (another amazing author) for putting this event together and partnering with Vellichor Bookshop, right here in Aledo, to make it happen!

Come see me. Take a picture. Support local creatives. Your face in the room would mean more to me than you know.

But if you want to be one of the very first people to own 𝗠𝗘𝗔𝗡 𝗚𝗜𝗥𝗟𝗦 𝗚𝗥𝗢𝗪 𝗨𝗣… this is where you need to be.

Some women are about to feel 𝗩𝗘𝗥𝗬 seen.
And some women are about to get real nervous.

→ 𝘾𝙝𝙚𝙘𝙠 𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙛𝙞𝙧𝙨𝙩 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙞𝙣𝙛𝙤!

08/20/2026

08/19/2026

𝟭𝟴 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗳𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹𝘀. 𝗢𝗻𝗲 𝗿𝗼𝗼𝗺 𝗶𝗻 𝗦𝗲𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗹𝗲. 𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝗮 𝘄𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗲 𝗹𝗼𝘁 𝗼𝗳 “𝗢𝗛…𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗶𝗻𝘀 𝗘𝗩𝗘𝗥𝗬𝗧𝗛𝗜𝗡𝗚.”

I just delivered a True Colors® Certification Training at the beautiful Seattle Preparatory School. This is a 𝗛𝗨𝗚𝗘 step in their journey to becoming facilitators.

Here’s the thing: We already know people are different. But when you finally understand 𝙝𝙤𝙬 they’re different? Whew.

You learn how to say things so people can actually hear you. You stop expecting everyone to think, respond, work, and communicate like you do. And suddenly, that person who has been driving you absolutely nuts makes a little more sense.

They didn’t just learn the colors.
𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗗𝗢 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺.

That’s the part that changes everything.

𝗦𝘂𝗽𝗲𝗿 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗱 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺!

Want this for your team or organization? Send me a message.

08/18/2026

𝗢𝗞𝗔𝗬. 𝗜 𝗖𝗔𝗡 𝗙𝗜𝗡𝗔𝗟𝗟𝗬 𝗧𝗘𝗟𝗟 𝗬𝗢𝗨. 👀

I wrote this because 𝗜’𝗠 𝗧𝗜𝗥𝗘𝗗 𝗢𝗙 𝗪𝗢𝗠𝗘𝗡 𝗪𝗛𝗢...

→ Talk behind your back then smiles to your face
→ Goes quiet when everyone else is happy for you
→ Leaves you out... then makes sure you see the pictures
→ Uses something you told her in confidence as gossip
→ Hurts you, then calls you “too sensitive” for being hurt

Somehow, she does the hurting...and 𝗬𝗢𝗨 end up apologizing.

Come on. 𝗪𝗲’𝗿𝗲 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘄𝗻. So yeah...

𝗜 𝗪𝗥𝗢𝗧𝗘 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗗𝗔𝗠𝗡 𝗕𝗢𝗢𝗞.
👑 𝙈𝙚𝙖𝙣 𝙂𝙞𝙧𝙡𝙨 𝙂𝙧𝙤𝙬 𝙐𝙥.

And TOMORROW, my 𝗦𝗵𝗶𝗙𝘁 𝗛𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝘀 subscribers get the very 1st look: the intro + opening pages. Yep. 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗔𝗖𝗧𝗨𝗔𝗟 𝗕𝗢𝗢𝗞. 👀

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𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗡𝗘𝗘𝗗 𝗧𝗢 𝗕𝗘 𝗢𝗡 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗟𝗜𝗦𝗧 𝗧𝗢𝗗𝗔𝗬.

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08/10/2026

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗱𝗶𝗱 𝘀𝗵𝗲 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝘀𝗮𝘆?! 😂

Caption this conversation.
𝗜 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗳𝗮𝗰𝗲. 👇