Marcy Holder Coaching

Marcy Holder Coaching Find joy as kids leave home…even if they don’t call! Peace is in reach. I can teach you how! 💗 Heaps of failure. Mountains of abandoned dreams. Loads of grace.

Midlife mom writing through transition to discover God's goodness, no matter what. Everything after this is God's plan, because it sure wasn't mine.

It’s been a minute. I’m not even sure why I’m sharing today. But when I know God is asking me do something, an actual s...
09/01/2026

It’s been a minute.
I’m not even sure why I’m sharing today.

But when I know God is asking me do something, an actual space just below my right collarbone fires with a mixture of warmth and holy anxiety.

The imperative following this feeling compels me to obey, because a million times over I’ve learned the hard way what happens when I don’t.

The thought might sound like my voice, but it’s not, it’s God’s and so here I am.

This photo is my vantage point from a comfy rolling office chair in my garage.

Life has built a bonfire with my dreams and at this very moment, it’s manifesting in what my younger self would have considered a Midwestern low class cliche.

Side note: There’s actually a reel floating around of an HOA banning a homeowner from porch-sitting in his own garage. 🙃

So let me repeat: It’s 11:08 am on a Tuesday morning and I am sitting in my garage like it’s a southern veranda.

You’ve seen this quote before??

“If you tell God never, He’ll have you never nevering like you’ve never nevered before.

Sometimes my whole life feels like that random fire in my chest: unexplainable.

But then who ever told us life should make sense…
Or be predictable.
Or ordinary.

Most of us are walking around with giant holes in our hearts.
Some of us can name them.
Some of us ignore them.
Some seem blissfully unaware of the ache.

All of us have no idea just how much of our lives God is holding together in the background.

This morning I’ve been praying for someone in the process of losing everything.

As I considered what might encourage her, I thought back to the many times in my adult life I believed in the idea of Hope but couldn’t imagine I would ever feel genuinely hopeful.

I knew God loved me.
I knew he said he had a good plan for my life.

But I was living in the middle of a heap of evidence, including an entire dumpster fire of shame and unworthiness. which didn’t seem to line up with this idea.

I sit here this morning holding hope for her and realize I’m undone because I don’t have to will myself to believe in God’s goodness anymore.

I’m living it……

Con’d ⬇️

What if you stop looking for answers and start looking for possibilities? What if everything you’ve walked through happe...
01/01/2026

What if you stop looking for answers and start looking for possibilities?

What if everything you’ve walked through happened for you not to you?

What if God means it when he says he can take the thing meant to harm you and turn it into good?

What if God doesn’t expect you to have the path mapped out because he wants to surprise you with his goodness.

What if you dared to sit in the middle of every unanswered question with the eagerness of a child on Christmas morning.

What if he really IS that good?

Less wondering,
More wonder.

Less restlessness,
More rest.

Less white knuckles,
More wide open palms.

Reject anxiety and speak the promise before you see it and a peace that defies all logic and evidence will stand guard over your heart and mind in Christ Jesus.
Phillipians 4:16 (The Marcy Version)

I might not know what you’ve lost, but I know what it’s cost you. Grief will take you where you’ve never been. It will t...
12/23/2025

I might not know what you’ve lost,
but I know what it’s cost you.

Grief will take you where you’ve never been.

It will teach you what you never wanted to learn.

And it pays no mind to the calendar.

You’re not alone friend.

You’ll make it through this week.
….next week too.

Though it might not seem like it now, someday (soon I hope) you’ll feel like yourself again for a minute.

Then for an hour.

And someday, a whole day.

It’s ok if today isn’t that day.

Let today be what it is.

Grief is hard.
Fighting grief is harder.

Praying you can lay down the fight today, just for a moment. ♥️

People in the online space are more obnoxious than ever. People in the grocery store are angrier than ever. Case in poi...
11/20/2025

People in the online space are more obnoxious than ever.

People in the grocery store are angrier than ever.

Case in point: the 70-something woman raining her best Mommy Dearest over the head cashier in Kroger earlier this week.

But the indignant, bitter women on social media - yikes!

I’ve been there and from my experience I think it’s a 40’s situation.

I’m trying not to pass judgment because I remember what it’s like to find my voice, push back, and say ‘Nope, not today.’

But I also think the condescention shreds our kids into either angry adults who dare folks to cross them. Or anxious adults who shut down and can’t function.

Heading into the backside of my 50’s I’m more grateful every day for the grace to settle in and surrender to my small part in the story of life.

In my 40’s it was important for me to lean in and learn what my anger was telling me about myself.

But I’m humbled God met me at each stage and taught me how to receive the grace I didn’t know how to give.

It might not sound like it in the more vulnerable posts I share (see yesterday’s Substack post), but I’m so glad for the lessons I’ve learned from each broken dream.

If I hadn’t been humbled to the point of breaking, I would be just like the angry woman in the grocery or the condescending Influencer/author I just read.

I still see inconsistencies everywhere but I don’t want to shout about them anymore.

I want to counter the mess by allowing the peace and healing God has given me to spill out on people.

I want to give forgiveness and understanding to the degree I’ve received it.

I want to chase contentment more than I chase accomplishment.

And I want to remind every angry forty-something female activist on the internet that there is nothing new under the sun and this too shall pass.

Bless-it-all-in-Jesus-name-and-AMEN!

Sometimes life comes for you. The future looks blurry. Your prayers seem unanswered. And everything you thought you knew...
11/19/2025

Sometimes life comes for you.

The future looks blurry.
Your prayers seem unanswered.

And everything you thought you knew about how to keep going when the going gets tough,
just suddenly stops working.

When life comes for you,
you have a decision to make.

Trust yourself?
Or trust God.

Full post on Substack.

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