Effortlessly Me

✨PELICAN’S SNOBALLS✨

is actually the cutest little space to cool down. So many flavours to choose from and add ons, plenty of seating and umbrellas and an awesome container filled with chalk boards, giant connect four and games for kids.

We are so spoilt for choice when it comes to waterways in Knoxville. This little gem is tucked off of Alcoa Highway, it would be easy to drive past the hidden driveway so proceed slowly. It really does have it all for nature seekers. Plenty of parking for shore & pier fishing. Only non motorized boats are allowed so perfectly flat for your kayak, canoe or stand up paddle board needs. Really nice trails! Easy to follow and not too many hills. Keep your eyes peeled for some mountain bikers and deer along your way.

Sometimes, in life, things don’t go the way you want them to.

This week I was reminded that it isn’t the end result that we want. We don’t want the job, the relationship, the money, the success (I mean we do) but it’s actually the feeling that comes from having the thing that we want. And how do we get that feeling? By enjoying the journey.

Because once you have achieved said thing, then what? You never want for anything else? Nonsense. The goal posts change again and you want something else. And the thing that you thought you wanted is no longer shiny and new.

So what do we do? We live in the moment. How do we do this? By getting more into our bodies and out of our heads.

Today we went to a trampoline park and honestly I can’t think of anything worse. I like to stand on the sidelines, away from the germs and watch my kids play. But today I was called to jump. We ran, we bounced and shot hoops, we laughed and we fell over and talked all afternoon.

Then my daughter asked me to name my ball, so I looked at it for inspiration and read “Vortex”. Wow! Get in the vortex. Get into that place where all your dreams are being held. Move your body and enjoy the ride because that is where the real delicious life is happening.

Todays journal entry✨

When you think about life, it’s usually a list of I want, I want, I want, I wants. Because having these things will make me feel a certain way.

So what do I have to do? I have to feel good first. I have to do things that light me up.

So I need to know what exactly lights me up. I need to create space and make the time to do the thing that lights me up.

I need to make this a priority. And do it often. When I do things for me. I don’t care what everyone else is doing. I feel good. Even though I can’t see the result yet.

I focus on feeling good and I no longer care if I get that thing I think I want because I’m already feeling good now. I slow down. I release expectations. I do it for me. Today I’m choosing to be in my body. I just need to be.

*Yes all inspiration comes near water*

Today was a reminder that sometimes there’s a better plan than your own. I wanted to go to the pool. But there was a 2:1 vote for the lake. I did not feel like going to the lake 😕 Alas the lake we went.

At the pool there would have been swimming and the fun police (which is what we have nicknamed the life guards). But at the lake there were new friends, creativity and imagination. Three groups of kids we didn’t know gathered together and made shelters and “worlds” from drift wood, pine cones, nuts and leaves. Onlookers would drag driftwood over and ask if they wanted it. I met Grayson who was 8 and apologised because he should have communicated with my daughter about what the plan was rather than just digging when he didn’t know what he was doing . His words! 😳 He also had a ham and pickle sandwich and his sister hates ham. He also had his Lego taken away for talking too much.

You’re not always defeated. You’re not always outnumbered. It’s not always someone else’s way. It could just be that there is a way better way. One you weren’t aware could exist❤️

So hubby and I have been getting into the survival series Alone on the History channel.

And the thing that has struck me the most is how sincerely grateful contestants are. When they catch a fish, they admire its beauty, they take a moment with the fish, they express deep appreciation, they eat every morsel and they thank the fish for their life.

They have good weather one day and they are so grateful.

They stumble on some mushrooms and they overflow appreciation.

A rope washes up on shore and they’re so thankful.

It really shows that when you are stripped of everything. Family. Food. Shelter. Power. There is still and always will be something to be grateful for.

Take a moment to lift your eyes from your screen and see where you are. Look around the room, space, car or outdoors and give thanks for everything in your line of sight. It could be clean air, a tree, a lamp, television, a sleeping pet, a work of art on your wall.

I am grateful for this comfy lounge, this quilt my Mum made hubby nearly 20 years ago and these cashews making their way into my belly.

What are you grateful for today?

Today I went ballistic (there’s no photos of that.)

Stop throwing sand, stop throwing sand, stop throwing sand. Get your shoes, get your shoes, get your shoes. Come put some sun cream on, put sun cream on, come get sun cream on!!

Hearing my own voice became sooo annoying.

But it was an opportunity for me to also apologize. It’s been something I have had to work on. Apologies taste like vinegar in my mouth I’m not gonna lie. So even though I was sick and tired of not being listened too my response was uncalled for.

We want our children to say please and thank you and sorry. So we have to model that too.

What do you do when you feel flat?

Sit down?
Lay down?
On your phone maybe?
And does it make you feel better?

Maybe.

If rest IS what you need.

But have you tried instead of scrolling- reading? Instead of sitting on the couch sitting by a river? Instead of laying in bed laying on the grass?

Often it’s the last thing you feel like doing that’ll make you feel ten times better. So chuck that phone on charge, go for a walk, go see a friend, listen to the sounds of nature. And let the universe do for you what you can not do for yourself 🌿

I received a beautiful surprise Tuesday from my sister in Australia. For no reason at all she sent me these stunning cards.

I’d had a rough morning after fainting that day for the first time in over 3 years (used to be very common) and couldn’t shake this nagging headache and head spins every time I stood.

So I made a tea and collected myself and the first card I pulled was exactly the right card for me.

When things don’t go my way I try to harden my heart. To protect myself from future hurt. And it pretty much said “don’t”. Don’t ever harden your heart, don’t stop being the way you naturally are, be patient as it IS unfolding the way you want.

If anyone would like a card please comment or message me 🙏✨

Everyday I am so thankful that we are 2 minutes away from the water where we can drop the kayak in and have a paddle.

Is this where I saw myself? Hell no.

What I would have been manifesting was ease, calm, rest, adventure. We don’t have to see or know the whole path. Simply know how we want to feel. So drop the specifics and just find how you want to feel ✨

You don’t have to accept all parts of you. Because what if you’ve got it all wrong. I remember first reading about what it was like to be an empath. And I felt like for the first time I have been accurately explained. I feel other peoples emotions deeply. Like they are my own. I can sense negative emotions even before any body language or words had given away someone else’s grief.

And then I wanted to be the helper, I wanted to be the healer and take away all their pain. And the only way I knew how to do that was to feel the feelings myself, as if they were my own and carry it with me. Heavy in my heart for them.

But over the last few years I’ve realised I can separate myself from others. I can notice the feeling and identify it as not my pain to weigh me down and let it go. I don’t need to fix everyone. I don’t need to relive them of their suffering. They need to do that. I can only relief me of my own.

I still feel deeply. I still love people and want their pain to be minimal but I can’t carry this weight any longer. I choose not to. So zip up that cloak of protection and redefine who you think you are ✨

The number one reason women fail to complete the Effortlessly Me Program is because they don’t have time. But honey that is the reason you signed up in the first place.

If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you always had.

Nothing changes unless something changes and only you can decide if that’s going to happen.

I used to think that personal development was the biggest load of bu****it I’d ever heard. Until I had to accept that the way I’d always done things wasn’t working for me. And I had to trust in something greater. If I wanted to see a change something big had to change.
But it’s not an overnight process. You are always changing and growing and adapting. Even when you’ve achieved that dream family, dream partner, dream car, dream house, dream career. You will still want more, better or different. We never stop evolving. Ever. You can want to live in a mansion and the next day want to live off grid. There are no rules.

But you have to get to know yourself, then in that day you have to know what it is that you desire and take inspired steps to feel good.

It’s a process. A lifetime process. But the important thing is you just start ❤️