04/19/2024
RIP David The Legend Lives On
The spiritual teacher Ram Dass once said that the bhakti path (the way of love), isn’t about who you love, it’s about who you don’t love.
I have always taken this principal to heart, and focused on transforming those relationships in my life, that for whatever reason, seem to lack love.
One of these relationships was with my brother, Jonathan. As we matured into adulthood, we didn’t have a contentious relationship, but our connection was lukewarm. There was very little emotional closeness between us, and our bond as brothers just didn’t feel strong.
I had wondered why, with all the non-blood related “brothers” I had in my life, this man had incarnated as my only sibling. It had aways remained a mystery to me.
I decided to take this inquiry to “the altar”. I worked on releasing whatever blocks I was holding onto around him, and prayed to find healing. In my meditations, I surrounded him in light, and practiced keeping my heart open around our relationship.
Some time later, I received a call from him. He said it was urgent and to call him back as soon as possible. I immediately got concerned that something had happened with our mother. So, I called him back as soon as I could.
We got on the phone, and I asked him what was up. There was a pause on the line, and then he said to me: “I called to apologize for our entire childhood. I was a tough older brother, and I could have definitely been more gentle and kind.” My heart immediately welled up and tears flowed down my cheeks. In that moment, I felt that my prayers had been answered. We chatted for a bit, and connected during that conversation in a way that we never had. I hung up the phone and felt so much love… for him.
Ever since that moment, we have been extremely close. Meeting for meals, spending time at each others homes, and just enjoying life together. He has also been a loving and consistent uncle for my daughter, Tulsi. A few years back, he lost a son, and it was my honor to be there for him, in the deepest way I know how. Nowadays, a week does not go by that we don’t speak at least a few times.
This is an example of what happens when you keep your heart open, and insist on keeping the flow of love alive between you and another, even when you feel tremendous resistance. If there is one thing that I have learned on this journey, it is that love heals all wounds, and I mean… ALL!
Jonathan is a wine conniesieur, and owns a company called Newman Wine and Spirits. I tell him that we are both in the intoxication business! 🤣🍷🕉 Sending Love, David ❤️