The Institute of Daily Communication for Families & Individuals

11/11/2024

I use to think it was comical to compare the inoperation of a device, a computer, a television, or an electronic game as an
emotion of grief. I know that we grieve over lost of love ones, jobs, friends and pets but in my mind that is a different kind of grief. Seriously. A few weeks ago, a friend shared with me that the power in her home was out for a week due to hurricane Helena. She thought it was sad how attached her husband is to the television. They are retired and by all purposes living the American dream. She said , “ Not only did the power go out but we actually couldn’t drive our cars because trees had fallen blocking the roads. My husband literally could not find anything to do with himself. I watched him eat and sleep and pout, and swear until the power came back on.” She revealed to me that it took her a few days to realize her husband was grieving. So she allowed him to grieve.
I no longer think it is comical when a person grieve over their attachments.
A few nights ago , as the election came to an end, I felt grief like I have never felt before.
I didn’t realize I was grieving . I truly felt like someone had died a sudden unexpected death. I was in shock. Sometime during the night, I fell a sleep. The next morning during my devotion, I was reminded that everything works for my good.For my good. It’s personal with me. It’s for my good. The Universal God is working things out for my Good. My choice is to concentrate on the faith that everything works for my Good. What about you? What is your choice? Will you give credence to the devil or will you get to work knowing everything works for your good. I hope this helps; it definitely helped me.
Peace and Love, forever and always.

05/15/2024

Hello Facebook, friends and family. My topic today is protecting your mental health. May is national mental health month. A time when we are reminded to check our selves, examine ourselves, communicate with our selves, about our selves. Ask our selves questions and don’t be afraid of the answers.
Am I being judgmental because I don’t understand a person or a situation. Am I angry and resentful, because a situation didn’t go my way. What is my gift, my goals, my purpose, my vision for myself and my family. Why can’t I have some of the things I want out of life?
Today my focus is not on the psychological aspects of mental health; ie, chemical, depression, bipolar, schizophrenia, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, and ideations, or the stigma of mental health treatment.
However, if you find that you have not been feeling like yourself for weeks and months. The first line of defense is to speak with your primary care physician and say, “ Doctor, I think I need someone to talk to . For months I just haven’t been feeling like myself.” Your doctor will take it from there.

But for those of us who are doing our best to protect our mental health. I say keep on keeping on with setting aside time for yourself, at least 15 minutes a day.
Taking deep breaths throughout the day. Creating
time for meditation, to walk, read a book, listen to audio tapes. Listen to music, study your Bible, visit a neighbor. Be Mindful to listen while other’s talk. Be in the present and bring joy to others, a neighbor, the elderly, a friend, especially yourself. Scripture tells us that “SELFLESS” acts of kindness makes the heart merry. Doctors and counselors tells us it is an excellent way to protect our mental health.
My name is Debra Jones, Lewis, President and CEO of the Institute of Daily communication ForFamilies and Individuals.

04/16/2023

11/25/2021

Communicate to Connect❤️🙂Listen so others will talk

11/24/2021

Would it surprise you you to learn that a loose sense of humor, sarcastic remarks, perfectionism, procrastination, and an upset stomach are signs of anger?
So why is this important to you? Because the quality of your life or your best friend life or your family member life may depend on it.
Join me Monday, November 29, for a complementary, master workshop on 'Never Anger.'
Come and learn about a topic that affects us all. If not for you , then for a friend or love one.
Zoom I D # 923 039 5460
Code xUY1F7

11/24/2021

On this Thanks Giving Day, and always , let's do something great!!! Communicate to Connect. Listen! Listen! and Listen some more! Tell your love ones how they make your life better.
Happy Thanks Giving from the institute of daily communication.

11/05/2021

Please join me via zoom November 10th
with 'Look within Coach ' Shelia Malcollm as we discuss "Never Anger".
I D #898 3305 9884
Code qw8Ztw

06/27/2021

Hi Facebook family and friends. Thank you for stopping by my page. Today we will end our discussion on “being stuck in a rut.“ Previously we have identified what a rut is; how being in a rut it impacts our health; and how we get stuck in a rut. Today we will identify four ways to get out of a rut.

1. If all you ever do is complain about what’s not right in your life ,shift your thoughts to what is right in your life , in other words take a deep breath and be grateful. We often get stuck in a rut when we think negative thoughts and take life for granted.

2. Do something!! Take action. Be creative. Create an event. Create a way to help others. Create some time for you to examine you, your wants , and your needs.

3.Take the reins. Learn something new. Enroll in that online course. Ask that new acquaintance over for tea or coffee. Take a cruise. Take the time to follow your dreams.

4. Ask yourself questions. Research indicates that we are too afraid to ask questions. Ask your self, how can I provide more meaning to my relationships? How can I provide more meaning to my life? Do my relationships provide meaningful fulfillment? What part of my life brings me joy? Ask yourself questions and don’t be afraid of the answers.

The universe is waiting on you to take action. Change your thoughts. Be creative. Take the reins. And ask yourself questions. If you are not creating emotional growth and development, You are stuck in a rut that can literally kill you.

06/16/2021

Hi Facebook family and friends. This week we will continue our discussion on ‘ a rut’. The question this week is how do we get into a rut? How many of these self defeating thoughts can you identify with :
1. I’m tired of struggling and fighting.
2.I don’t know what I want to do with my life.
3.I Hate my job.
4.Who would want me?
Continuous defeating thoughts, is what gets us into a rut.
What we think about, we bring about and what we focus on expands; if all you think about is what you don’t have , then that is all you will have, your thoughts on what you don’t have. It amazes me how we hide behind artificial entertainment and superficial excitement , while living in a rut with negative thoughts, praying to God for something to change and the only thing that we are willing to change, is our outside appearance.
Do you ever wonder why? Why aren’t things changing for me? Are you seriously praying to God to change things ? How is that working for you? I really don’t expect any one to reply to this post. My desire is to share with you knowledge that I have learned.
Next time I will discuss how to get out of a Rut?



06/12/2021

Hi Facebook family and friends, let’s begin our discussion on the topic, “What is a rut and how to get out of it?“ Many of us who are seniors are familiar with the term “being in a rut.“ Millenniums may not be familiar with the term. A rut is a habit or pattern of behaviors that is dull and unproductive but hard to change. You may be asking yourself, what does this have to do with me? The answer is very simple. Because being in a rut can literally kill you; it kills your joy; it breaks your heart and ultimately feels you with dis-ease. A rut is a behavior that we don’t like to talk about, if we did we would have to admit that we are unhappy and our life is a facade.
Many of us find this discussion difficult, especially women.

How do you know if You are in a rut? If you have ever thought to yourself “God, there has to be more to life than this” , you are in a rut. If you have convinced yourself that there is nothing left in your life to do, but grow old with your bad choices and poor decisions; you are in a rut. If you have given up on your dreams and aspirations, and constantly think to yourself , “I made this bed and I have to lie in it”, you are in a rut. At some point in our lives we all get into a rut. Unfortunately, social research indicates that many of us will spend the rest of our lives in a rut thinking this is the way it is supposed to be and never finding happiness with ourselves or others.

Our next discussion will be how we get into a rut.
What about you. Can you identify with any of the above statements? What is your story? Can you see yourself in a rut?
My name is Debra Jones Lewis, I help families and individuals make positive changes in their lives and gain personal and professional fulfillment and inner peace by enhancing their communication skills using non-violent communication.

02/25/2021

Hi facebook family and guest. Recently, it was brought to my attention that, "There is an affliction in our stubbornness, our pride, our ego, our lack of communication skills, that is more harrowing than homelessness, hunger, and disease. It is something that we share universally but is reluctant to talk about. My question to you is, what might this be?