08/20/2026
I'm not a doctor, and I haven't formally been diagnosed with ADHD, but that's just because the process seems annoying. It's pretty obvious. Here's what I've learned about my brain:
I have difficulty focusing on things that I'm not interested in. But give me something that I want to do and I can hyper fixate on it.
If there's something that might go wrong in my car or my house, I need to fix it right away or it will be something that I can't stop thinking about.
Not having a plan for something can be very stressful, specifically planning meals. A lot of times I'll wake up and start getting a little anxious about what I'm going to have for dinner that day.
This made choosing a career path, college, a car, or a lot of things difficult. My solution has now been "the first thing I see". When I'm ordering new appliances, when I'm ordering off of a menu at a restaurant, I'm going to order the first thing I see that fits my goals. I don't wanna look and look and look for the best possible option, if I see something that'll work I'm going to take it and stop thinking.
Exercise has always been an outlet for me, and it's part of what drove me to work out so intensely in my life. In my mind, I need to be so exhausted that I don't have the energy to overthink.
When I'm running long distance, I will either go without music and let my mind wander free like an off leash dog, or I'll put one song on and let it play on repeat, even Evyn for runs over three or four hours.
The main thing is, I've learned to give myself grace and I've learned to keep working on it. Understanding how my brain works has allowed me to use different tools, approach things differently, and it has been great for my relationship with my wife as well, so we can understand communication styles, and thought styles.
this is how I've learned that my brain works, but maybe it'll help you understand yours a little bit too.
