Mastery of Life - Bill Ferguson

Here is a powerful quote from my brother. Make sure you read it. It will be worth your time.

Notice how you feel when someone genuinely accepts and appreciates you. Then notice how you respond. Now notice how you feel when someone is judgmental or critical of you and notice how you respond. We tend to respond based on how we are treated. Others do the same thing. If you want to have love in your life, you have to give it. Make sure the people in your life feel loved, accepted, and appreciated just the way they are. Tip 63

I love this image. On the outside we put up walls of protection and act destructively, but on the inside, we just want to love and be loved. This is true for all of us.

As a child, we experienced painful losses of love. We suppressed this hurt and then spent the rest of our lives running from it. Anything that triggers this hurt is perceived as a threat. To avoid this threat we fight, resist, hang on, and withdraw. We destroy love and sabotage our lives. If you could heal this hurt, the destructive behavior would dissolve and you would return to the love that you were created to be. Tip 62

As long as we attempt to get happiness from outside of ourselves, we will live in a state of fear and upset. We will fight, resist, hang on, and withdraw. We act this way in an automatic, subconscious attempt to avoid our hurt, but instead of avoiding it, we create more of it. This is actually good news. Life is forever bringing us the hurt that we need to heal. The more you heal this hurt, the more you flow with life, and the better your life will be. Tip 61

The natural state of who you are is pure love, pure creation, and pure possibility. When you let go of the resisting and hanging on, the ego loses power. Fear and upset disappear and the essence of who you are comes forth. Solutions appear and problem areas start clearing up. Tip 60

Years ago, I wrote a book called, How To Heal A Painful Relationship. The producer of the Oprah Winfrey Show read it and said it changed her life. The next thing I knew, I was on their show and was Oprah’s only guest. When the show was over, they gave me this cup. Priceless. This happened a long time ago, but it was one of the highlights of my life.

When you were young, you were pure love, but you got hurt in the process of growing up. You lost sight of who you are and entered the realm of fear, upset, and suffering. You didn't lose the love, you just lost the experience of it. The love is still there. It's buried under the hurt. Now it's time to get it back. As you heal your hurt and allow the love that you are to come forth, you create an incredible life. Tip 59

When you have love and inner peace, our cells rebuild and our body heals. When you are in a state of fear, upset, and stress, the opposite happens. Our bodies begin to self-destruct. Love is truly the best medicine.

When we get upset, we close down inside. We get defensive and lose our ability to see clearly. All we can do is fight, resist, hang on, and withdraw. We destroy love and make our situation worse. Upsets are very destructive.

If you could be free of your upset, you would be very effective. You would see clearly and could see what needs to be done. The first step in accomplishing this is to discover that upsets are not caused by what happens. They are caused by fighting what happens.

To see this in your life, find a time when you were upset. Didn't something happen? Yes, it happened, and didn't it happen no matter how you felt about it? Notice how totally irrelevant your feelings were. It still happened.

Now notice what would happen to the upset if somehow, you were at peace with what happened. There would be no upset. The moment you take away the resisting, the upset disappears.

Upsets are not caused by what happens. Upsets are a state of mind and can only exist if we fight what happens.

Here is another example. Notice what would happen if I spilled a glass of water on you. You would be wet and you would be wet whether you liked it or not. Being wet is like the circumstances of your life. Something happens and your feelings about it don't change a thing. You are still wet.

If you are at peace with the truth of being wet, you will have peace of mind and will be very effective in handling your situation. If you fight the truth of being wet, you will be upset, and the more you fight being wet, the more upset you will be.

Whether you have peace or upset, you are still wet. Your state of mind has nothing to do with your circumstances. Your state of mind depends solely on whether you are at peace with the truth or fighting it.

So why do we fight the truth? We fight the truth because the truth hurts. It strikes a nerve. It reactivates a suppressed hurt from the past. We'll talk more about this later.

You can create a great life, but this won't happen by itself. There are concepts to learn, issues to heal, and specific action to take. Fortunately, the process of transforming your life is relatively simple. You just need to know how.

The purpose of our work is to walk you through the steps. To learn more, go to the first comment.

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