Mastery of Life - Bill Ferguson

When you fight the way someone is, you destroy love, create opposition, and magnify whatever you are resisting. If you want to change your situation, change how you relate to the person. Instead of being critical and non-accepting, surrender to the truth of the way the person is. Then empower the person as a fellow human being. When you do this, you create love and change how the person responds to you.

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Here is an old photo of a young Captain Bill serving in the Marine Corps. It was taken many years ago. I am very thankful I had that experience.

Allow yourself to be human. When you do this, the ego loses power. Defensiveness and destructive behavior begin to dissolve. The circumstances of life lose relevance and you become very thankful for everything you have. This makes you very effective. Allowing yourself to be human is the key to creating a great life. So allow yourself to be human. Appreciate what you have and allow your love to come forth.

Difficult times are brought to us for our healing and growth.

They force us to look at things that we need to look at. They also put our issues in our face so we can heal them. They kick us out of the nest and get us ready for our future. Look at your life and notice the good that has come from your difficult times?

The steps for healing any relationship:

If you have a relationship that isn't working, there is a cycle of conflict that is creating the problem. Each of you are getting hurt, putting up your walls of protection, and giving it back to the other.

Fortunately, it's relatively easy to turn your situation around. This is because it takes two people to create a cycle of conflict. It only takes one person to end it. The cycle is like a tennis volley. It's back and forth, back and forth. As soon as someone refuses to return the serve, the volley is over.

You destroy love and fuel the conflict by being judgmental and critical: by fighting the truth of the way the person is. To end the cycle of conflict, do the opposite. Stop the resisting. Surrender to the truth of the way the person is and empower the person as a fellow human being. Then do whatever you need to do to have your life be great.

The steps

Use the following steps to heal your relationship, one human being to another:

1. - Find and heal the hurt that is being triggered by the other person. What do your circumstances say about you? Feel the hurt of what happened and the deeper hurt of your core issue. Feel it willingly because you choose to. This takes away the need to resist.

2. - Surrender to the truth of the way the person is and be willing for the person to never change. You don't have to like the way the person is, or stay with the person, just surrender to the truth.

3. - Let go of any resentment you have for the person. Ultimately, forgiveness is a choice. If it is hard for you to forgive, focus on healing your hurt. Remember that forgiveness is for you, not the other person.

4. - See your 100% responsibility for the conflict. Once you see your role in the problem, you have the power to do something about it.

5. - If you have been hanging on, let the person go. Hanging on forces the person to fight you. If you are willing to lose the person, the need to fight you disappears.

6. - See that you are just like the person. Any characteristic that you can't stand in another person is an aspect of you that you can't stand in yourself. Once you own this part of you, your resistance turns into compassion.

7. - Get with the person and clean up your relationship. Take full responsibility for what happened and ask the person to forgive you. Tell the person that you want your relationship to work.

8. - Follow it up with action. Every time you interact with the person, you will either create love or destroy it, and whatever you give will come right back. Make sure you always give love.

Letting go of resistance is nothing more than surrendering to the truth. That person is the way the person is whether you like it or not. When you surrender to the truth, you can see the truth. When you can see the truth, you can see what you need to do.

The steps for healing a relationship are relatively simple, but not easy. If you need support in healing a relationship, let me know. I can walk you through the healing process.

The opportunity of life

It is possible to have love in every relationship and every aspect of life, but you have to know how. There are concepts to learn, issues to heal, and action to take. I can walk you through the steps.

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Love is something you create.

You create the experience of love by giving the gift of acceptance and appreciation. Notice how you feel when someone genuinely accepts and appreciates you. It feels great. Now notice how you automatically give love in return. If you want a life of love, you have to give it. Every time you interact with someone, you will either create love or destroy it, and whatever you give will come right back.

The essence of spirituality

There are two domains of life. You can either live in the light or the darkness, the oneness or the separateness. When you are in the light, the circumstances of life have no power. You are happy, alive, and free. You are full of love and life works incredibly. When you are in the darkness, the circumstances of life have total power and life is painful.

In this state of darkness, we are convinced that happiness and upsets come from outside of ourselves. We then go through life trying to force people and life to be a certain way. We fight, resist, hang on, and withdraw. We destroy love and sabotage our lives. This is the realm of fear, upset, and suffering.

When we are in the light, the opposite happens. The circumstances of life are irrelevant. The only thing that matters is love. When we are in this state, the focus is on letting go, healing, and connecting with God. We are also very effective. This is the realm of love, joy, peace, happiness, and miracles.

The light and the darkness are both very real. They are opposite ways of being. You can also say that they are opposite directions. You can either have your life be about moving towards the circumstances or you can have it be about moving towards the light.

Go to the light

Take a moment and imagine a beautiful light and in this light, everything works. You can call this light God. You can call it source or you can call it love. I call it God. It doesn't matter what you call it, but something is there. It is very special and the closer you get to it, the more wonderful your life becomes.

The more you move away from this light, the more you enter the darkness. You become less able to flow with life and life becomes painful. Obviously, the opportunity of life is to move towards the light.

The path to the light is not difficult but you have to seek it. Learn to let go and trust. Live in the experience of love and seek a relationship with God. As you do this, you change the quality of your life and what happens around you.

Experience the presence of God

A while back, I was caught up in the circumstances of life. I had lost my happiness and was in a negative state of mind. Then I looked at the nature of God. In that state of separateness, God didn't exist. God was just a concept.

A few minutes later I saw an old friend and within moments, I was back in the light. I was happy, alive, and free. Then I looked at the nature of God again. In this new state, God was everywhere. All there is is God and nothing else exists. I felt connected and on top of life.

Nothing changed outside of me. The only change was inside, but with just a slight shift in awareness, I was in back in the light. I was back in the realm where I could experience the presence of God.

When you experience the presence of God, life is wonderful. You can also ask questions and get answers. You can be guided and shown what to do. As you develop this connection, you become the hands and feet of God. God can work through you and miracles can happen. As you develop the ability to live in the light and connect with God, you create a life more wonderful than you can imagine.

Stay connected

To help stay in the light and connect with God, find things you can do that pull you out of the realm of circumstances and put you back in the light. Then do them often. Some people get back in the light by doing yoga or being in nature. Others get restored by meditating, reading, or participating in religious services.

I make the connection by going to a chapel during the week. I go into a meditative state and get connected. I also go for long walks and listen to certain music. This restores my inner peace and my ability to see life clearly. I also get insights and direction. The more I do these things, the better my life works.

Another way to reconnect is to mediate. Get in a comfortable position and close your eyes. Then create the feelings of love and joy. With each breath, breathe in more joy and allow these feelings to gently radiate throughout your body. While you are in this state, create the experience of being in the presence of God. Then bask in the love and the peace. Do this five minutes a day and watch how it changes your life.

It is possible to live in the light most of the time, but remember, it's more a direction to go than a place to get to. When you go down this path, life gets better and better with each step. Showing people how to live in the light and create great lives is the purpose of our work.

The opportunity of life

You can create a life more wonderful than you can imagine, but you have to know how. There are concepts to learn, issues to heal, and action to take. I can walk you through the steps.

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Every area of life that doesn't work can be traced to a very specific hurt.

In the process of growing up, we got hurt and got hurt a lot. We then suppressed this hurt and spent the rest of our lives running from it. This hurt makes us defensive and creates a state of fear and upset. It destroys love and sabotages our lives. Every relationship and every area of life that doesn't work can be traced directly to this hurt. Finding and healing this hurt is one of the most important things you can ever do.

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Are you living your life purpose?

Everyone is created with a unique set of gifts, talents, and abilities. Life purpose is the full expression of these gifts. When you are living your life purpose you are expressing the very essence of who you are. You are good at what you do and you love doing it.

You also feel fulfilled and know that you make a difference. You are empowered by your work and couldn't imagine doing anything else. Until you find your purpose, there will always seem to be something missing.

Unfortunately, finding your life purpose is much easier said than done. You can't go to the Internet and look it up. Life purpose is something you create. It's something you bring forth out of your commitment and determination.

The first step in the search for life purpose is to find your passion. What do you love to do? What are you naturally good at? What turns you on? What could you throw your heart and soul into?

It can take months of active looking to find your passion, so be patient. Keep asking yourself the question, "What do I love to do? What is my passion?" Keep asking and keep looking.

While you are looking, find the contribution that you want to make. This adds fuel to your passion and gives it power. Do you want to teach people how to love? Do you want to show people how to have fun? How can your passion make a difference in people's lives?

When your passion makes a contribution that is important to you, it gains a power that can move mountains. The combination of passion and serving is an essential element of life purpose.

To help discover your life purpose, answer these questions.

The next step is to find a way to live your passion and still pay the bills. This may seem impossible, but it's not. There is a way to do what you love. Your job is to find it. Keep asking yourself, "How can I earn a living doing what I love?" Explore every possibility and turn over every stone.

The process of finding and living your life purpose can take years, but if you have the commitment and the determination, you will eventually find it. The key is to keep looking. Keep taking the next step and never quit.

Once you have found your life purpose, your life will never be the same. By doing what you love and finding how to serve, you will add a very special joy to your life.

It is possible to create a life more wonderful than you can imagine, but you have to know how. There are concepts to learn, issues to heal, and action to take. I can walk you through the steps.

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When you are willing to be vulnerable, your heart opens. You become very human and radiate love. This in turn dissolves opposition and resistance. If you are not willing to be vulnerable, you put up walls of protection. This destroys love and creates opposition and resistance. The willingness to be vulnerable is one of the keys to creating a great life.

To have any fear lose its power, do the opposite of what creates it. Instead of resisting the future event, be willing for the event to come true - Not in your actions, but in your heart. In your actions, do everything you can to make sure it doesn't come true, but in your heart, be willing. If it happens, it happens. This removes the fear and makes you very effective.

Most financial suffering comes from overspending.

Notice what your life would be like if you saved 10% of everything you earned since you were 18 years old. Notice the prosperity consciousness you would have and how much more abundance you would have. What can you do to reduce your expenses? Create a plan for how you will get your expenses to be at least 10% less than your income. The moment you create a plan and commit to it, you start getting power over this area of your life. In a very short time, you will start experiencing prosperity.

Do you have something special to go for?

When you have something special to go for, life becomes an exciting adventure. It also adds a tremendous amount of joy to life. It gives you direction and purpose, a reason to wake up in the morning. You feel better about yourself and better about life.

When you have nothing to go for, life becomes empty and meaningless. Instead of becoming a source of joy, life becomes something to endure, and a life to be endured is not much fun. It leads to depression and all sorts of suffering. If you want to create a great life, find something to go for that is important to you. Here are some examples from my life

One day I went for a walk and had a great idea. I decided to create the Mastery Course. This course would change people's lives. I was thrilled with the possibility. It took a long time to finish, but the anticipation of what was possible made life exciting.

Here's another example. Years ago I wanted to have a dream car, but I didn't know what it would be. So I went on a quest to find it. I went to all the car dealers and car shows, but never found it. Whenever I saw a car on the freeway that had possibility, I chased after it for a closer look. I keep looking and looking.

Finally I found it. The car was a black Chrysler Maserati convertible and I bought it. I was thrilled. Then one day I was driving my new car and I realized that something was missing from my life. I had my car, but my dream was gone. The quest for a dream car brought me lots of joy. Now it was over.

It's often more valuable to have something special to go for than it is to realize it. Go for your dreams, but after they come true, find something else to go for. It's the anticipation of something special that makes life exciting.

Here is another example on a smaller scale. My brother, sister, and I are very close, so I always have a trip scheduled to visit them. Knowing that I will see them brings me joy.

What can you go for? If you don't have something special to go for, find something. Find it as fast as you can.

What is possible for your life? What is your passion? What can you get excited about? If you don't see anything, start looking. Do some daydreaming. The process of looking is usually more valuable than a quick answer.

One way to find possibility is to describe your ideal life. How do you want your life to be? What do you want to accomplish? What do you want to have? What do you want to do? Then write down what you see. Describe your ideal life in detail. Let the words flow and be as specific and possible.

Look for what you want in the following categories: (1) Relationships, (2) Prosperity & finance, (3) Job & career, (4) Health and fitness, (5) Your environment, (6) Fun, and (7) Spirituality & personal growth.

While you are writing, notice the areas that get your attention. What possibility makes you smile. What do you want to go for? If you don't find anything, keep looking.

Once you get clear on what you want, the next step is to take action. Even if you are just taking small steps, that’s okay. Keep taking them. Small steps can make a big difference. When you know that you are moving forward, you feel better about yourself and better about your life.

It is possible to create a life more wonderful than you can imagine, but you have to know how. There are concepts to learn, issues to heal, and action to take. I can walk you through the steps.