06/17/2026
I think the most important leadership feedback I ever gave... was to myself.
I had a team member. Talented. Self-directed. Producing excellent work by every measurable standard. BUT... I was micromanaging her anyway.
Not because the work wasn't good. Because I genuinely like to be involved, and honestly hadn't built the trust infrastructure that would have let me verify the work without being in the middle of it.
That's as honest a version of what micromanagement is that I can give: a trust problem disguised as a quality problem.
When I finally came around, and apologized for it, two things happened.
First, she visibly relaxed in a way I hadn't realized I'd been preventing.
Second, her work got better. Not because I got out of the way, because the relationship changed.
Awesome.
I now teach people trust dynamics in high-performing teams both in offsites, training, and keynotes... combining my research background with what I've seen firsthand in 25+ years of organizational work.
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