Transforming Toddlerhood with Devon Kuntzman

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Devon Kuntzman, Toddler Parent Coach, empowers parents to embrace the toddler years through effective, positive, and respectful parenting strategies that nurtures toddler development and the parent-child relationship.

09/01/2026

Being hit by your child, especially when they laugh, can feel confusing and honestly upsetting. 😔

This is one of those moments where gentle parenting gets misunderstood.

Staying calm matters. Emotional safety matters. But calm without clear limits leaves toddlers confused about where the boundary actually is.

And that laugh? It's not disrespect. It's not your child thinking it's funny. For toddlers, laughter is often a nervous system response to being overwhelmed, overstimulated, or out of control. 🧠

This is why explaining alone doesn't stop hitting. Toddlers need clear limits plus follow-through, not lectures or shame.

We can take our child's feelings seriously and stop the behavior. We can be emotionally safe and set firm boundaries. That balance is what helps behavior change over time.

If moments like this feel familiar, you're not failing. You're parenting a toddler. 💛

Comment HITTING and I will send you my scripts so you know exactly what to say in the moment and what to teach after.

Follow for clear limits, calmer responses to big emotions, and effective discipline that supports real-life parenting ❤️

Thank you to for sharing such a raw, hard, and honest parenting moment. 💛

This may be an unpopular opinion, but I’m going to say it anyway…It’s time to normalize kids having a bad day. 😠Your chi...
08/16/2026

This may be an unpopular opinion, but I’m going to say it anyway…

It’s time to normalize kids having a bad day. 😠

Your child doesn’t need to be fixed or punished.

They are allowed to be grumpy, reactive, off, or just not okay, without a clear reason. Just like you are.

A bad day is not bad behavior, not a character flaw, and not a parenting failure.

Bad days do not define who we are. They make us human.

And sometimes, when our toddler is having a hard day, we lose our patience too. Because we’re human too.

➡ If you lost your patience when your toddler was having a hard time, comment REPAIR, and I’ll send you a simple script to help you reconnect and repair after a hard parenting moment.

06/18/2026

One thing many parents don’t realize is that by age 5, a child’s brain is already about 90% of its adult size.

These early years are a period of incredible growth and development, which is why nutrients like DHA matter so much.

The challenge? My toddler won’t eat fish. 😅

That’s why we’ve been using TruHeight Brain Growth Gummies. They contain DHA, Omega-3s, and Pine Bark Extract to support memory, focus, learning abilities, and healthy brain development.

It’s become one simple way I can support brain health in these early years, especially with a child who isn’t getting DHA from fish.

Comment BRAIN and I’ll send you the link plus a code for 10% off!.

Does your toddler eat fish, or is that a battle you’re not winning either? 😂

When a child says, “I don’t like fish,” and suddenly “beach chicken” gets a standing ovation… that is not manipulation. ...
06/04/2026

When a child says, “I don’t like fish,” and suddenly “beach chicken” gets a standing ovation… that is not manipulation. That is understanding your audience.

I have seen this over and over in toddlerhood.

“Time for bed” can feel like a loss of control.
🌟 “Let’s get ready for your bedtime party” feels like an invitation.

“Wash your hands” sounds like a demand.
🌟 “Let’s give your fingers a bubble bath” feels like play.

Tell me… what is the best “rebrand” you have used in your house? 👇

​​Follow for developmentally smart discipline, big emotion support, and guidance that actually makes parenting easier ❤️

Post credit: Nicole Ramirez


06/02/2026

Here are things that don’t help when your toddler hits:

❌ Causing emotional distress through guilt or blame
❌ Saying “Hands are not for hitting” (toddler brains often just hear “hands… hitting”)
❌ Saying “Be gentle” without giving context or modeling what that actually looks like

Blame, shame, guilt, judgment, and fear might stop behavior briefly…but they don’t build the skills kids actually need.

Toddlers need adults who can:
✔️ Stay steady
✔️ Set clear limits
✔️ Protect safety
✔️ Hold emotions without transferring them

We don’t need our kids to feel worse to behave better. What we need is to teach skills while staying emotionally safe. 💛

And if hitting is something you’re navigating right now, I have an entire section in my book Transforming Toddlerhood on the Physical Toddler, including what’s really going on when toddlers hit, kick, bite, throw, grab, or get rough, and how to respond in a way that protects safety without using shame, fear, or punishment.

The hardcover and Kindle editions are currently on major sale, making now a great time to grab your copy!

➡➡ Comment BOOK, and I’ll send you the link.

05/31/2026

Public tantrums can make even the most grounded parent want to disappear. 🛒

The stares, noise, and instant pressure to make it stop.

But these moments aren’t actually about “bad behavior.” They’re about a little nervous system that’s overwhelmed and needs support before it can learn.

That’s exactly why Part 3: The Emotional Toddler in my book is so helpful. 💛

It walks you through what to do when your toddler is having big reactions, how to respond without escalating the moment, and how to support emotions in a way that builds real long-term skills.
Inside, I break down practical tools for the moments that feel hardest, so you’re not left guessing when emotions are high.

And right now, my book is 49% off 📘

Comment BOOK, and I’ll send you the link.

Follow for healthy, effective discipline, support with big emotions, and tools that help your child listen without power struggles ❤️

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Here’s what you need to remember when you’re dealing with challenging toddler behavior 👇→ Your toddler’s behavior is NOT...
05/30/2026

Here’s what you need to remember when you’re dealing with challenging toddler behavior 👇

→ Your toddler’s behavior is NOT who they are at their core.
→ All behavior is communication.
→ It’s normal for toddlers to test limits because they’re in discovery mode and are exploring their surroundings and feelings for the first time.
→ It’s counterproductive to compare our toddler’s behavior to another’s.

And if you have yelled, lost your cool, or wish you had handled a moment differently, you are not a bad parent. You are human.

What matters most is what happens next.

💬 Comment REPAIR for my free mini guide on how to apologize to your toddler in a positive, respectful, developmentally appropriate way, release the guilt after yelling, and learn a simple 4-step process for making amends with scripts you can use in real life.

Because toddlerhood is challenging, but with the right support, it can also be incredibly rewarding.

Follow if you want your child to listen more, emotions to feel less overwhelming, and discipline that truly works ❤️

Stuck in the terrible twos?! Keep reading…I bet you’ve wondered what the secret is to making this developmental period 1...
05/29/2026

Stuck in the terrible twos?! Keep reading…

I bet you’ve wondered what the secret is to making this developmental period 10x easier…right? 😅

Here’s the secret…THERE IS NONE!
Parenting a toddler is hard, and NO ONE is perfect at it.

While there’s no loophole to parenting or magic trick to make your toddler listen, avoid messes, and never lose your patience…

➡️ Having realistic expectations and understanding that challenging behavior is your toddler’s way of communicating will help you transform it.

Practice putting aside disempowering thoughts like…

"Toddlerhood is terrible!"

"I’m failing as a parent."

"Is it only my toddler that behaves so badly?!"

❤️ Remember, patience and compassion go a long way in the toddler years (for your toddler and yourself!), and that's why it's vital to learn and use positive, respectful, developmentally appropriate parenting tools and strategies so you can set your child up for success emotionally, cognitively, and socially.

💬 Comment with your biggest toddler behavior struggle below, and let’s see if we can learn some new ways to navigate them from our peers! ⬇️

Some parenting advice needs to be retired immediately. ❎Because I get it. When your toddler is biting, screaming, hittin...
05/29/2026

Some parenting advice needs to be retired immediately. ❎

Because I get it. When your toddler is biting, screaming, hitting, refusing, or melting down in public, you want it to stop.

Hurting, shaming, scaring, or overpowering a toddler may stop the behavior in the moment, but at what expense?

👉 You can hold the limit, protect the relationship, stop the behavior, teach the skill, and remain warm, connected, and absolutely clear. ❤️

And if you were raised with “because I said so,” spanking, yelling, fear-based consequences, or being ignored when you cried, this might feel unfamiliar at first.
That does not mean you should be permissive. It means you need the tools and skills to set limits and follow through while still creating, connecting, and teaching skills.

That’s developmentally-smart discipline.

If you are trying to parent differently without letting your toddler run the house, you are my people.

✅ Comment LIMITS, and I’ll send you several scripts that show you how to set limits and follow through without yelling, threatening, or giving in when your toddler is melting down, pushing back, or not listening.

💬 What terrible parenting advice would you add to this list?

05/26/2026

When yelling is what gets results, kids aren't learning self-control. They're learning fear. And fear might create short-term compliance, but it doesn't build long-term cooperation. 🧠

I want you to know there is a more effective, emotionally healthy way to get your toddler to listen.

When we combine emotional safety with clear boundaries, kids listen more consistently over time. Not because they're scared, but because they understand what's expected and feel secure in the relationship.

And if you've ever felt stuck between yelling and feeling ignored, this is your sign that something needs to shift.

Not more patience. Not more threats. Just clearer limits delivered in a way your toddler's brain can actually follow.

Comment LIMITS and I will send you my free setting limits scripts so you know exactly what to say in the moment and how to follow through without the power struggle. 💛

Follow for developmentally smart discipline, big emotion support, and guidance that helps parenting feel calmer and more connected ❤️

Thank you to for sharing such a real and honest parenting moment. These are the conversations that help all of us grow. 💛

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