06/29/2026
Thirty years of marriage today.
People often congratulate you on the milestone, but they rarely talk about what it takes to get there.
Thirty years isn’t built on grand gestures. It’s built on ordinary Tuesdays. It’s choosing commitment when feelings fluctuate. It’s learning when to speak, when to listen, and when to apologize. It’s giving grace on the days your spouse isn’t at their best and accepting it when you aren’t either.
One thing that has made the journey easier has been understanding each other through Real Colors. Learning our personality styles gave us a common language. We began to understand that our differences weren’t flaws to fix but they were strengths to appreciate. We learned how each of us prefers to communicate, when one of us needs space to process, and what helps each of us feel heard instead of misunderstood. It didn’t eliminate conflict, but it certainly reduced unnecessary conflict.
Ironically, I spend much of my career helping teams and leaders communicate better, yet one of the greatest places those lessons have mattered has been at home.
Marriage has taught me something that applies just as much to leadership, careers, and life: the best things are rarely the easiest things. They require consistency over intensity. They require humility over pride. They require choosing “us” over “me.”
In a world that often celebrates what’s new, I’m grateful for something that’s been built over time.
Thirty years doesn’t mean we’ve had a perfect marriage. It means we’ve had a resilient one.
Here’s to continuing to do the work, extending grace, communicating with intention, and trusting God with the years ahead.
Happy 30th Anniversary to us. ❤️
