Roots of Wonder

It's a big journey! Go easy on yourself ❣️

Thanks, Shelly Robinson - Raising Yourself

What You're Doing When You Yell At Your Kid The psychological effects of yelling at a child make it ineffective. Here's how to stop yelling at your kids, according to a psychologist.

Very helpful! Thanks to GoZen: Anxiety Relief for Children

Via W. Miner - Rants from Mommyland

The greatest damage done by neglect, trauma, or emotional loss is not the immediate pain they inflict but the long-term distortions they induce in the way a developing child will continue to interpret the world and her situation in it.

All too often these ill-conditioned implicit beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies in our lives. We create meanings from our unconscious interpretation of early events, and then we forge our present experiences from the meaning we’ve created.

Unwittingly, we write the story of our future from narratives based on the past…Mindful awareness can bring into consciousness those hidden, past-based perspectives so that they no longer frame our worldview.

Choice begins the moment you disidentify from the mind and its conditioned patterns, the moment you become present…Until you reach that point, you are unconscious.’ …In present awareness we are liberated from the past.― Gabor Maté

Typical or divergent?

Our environment shapes us.

The single greatest predictor of a person's future wellbeing can be found in their childhood Attachment experiences. Specifically, in the first seven years, while Social-Emotional Learning development is peaking, important cognitive 'pathways' are being laid for 'higher learning'. And before the prefrontal cortex comes 'on-line' enabling a person to filter information and access Integrated Brain Function skills freely. And again, in the adolescent years, when the prefrontal cortex 'shuts down' for pruning, a time when the Learner requires independence and connection with trusted adults.

This is no secret. The literature on Secure Attachment has been around for a long time. Yet, for some reason, this has not reached the mainstream model of education, where young children are separated (in many cases by force and bribes) from their primary caregiver, placed into a setting where there is no 'stronger, older and wiser' adult to meet their Basic Human "nurturing" Needs for wellbeing and healthy development.

Imagine an education model with a Trusted Adult attachment figure who can meet the Basic Human Needs of each Learner.