09/24/2026
Don’t get me wrong, I KNOW it’s hard.
Being married to a man who works long hours, comes home tired, works Saturdays, misses dinner sometimes, or is physically exhausted from providing for your family can be really hard.
But at some point, you have to choose your hard.
You promised each other “for better or for worse.”
What if this is the “worse”?
What if this is simply a hard season of marriage that requires more sacrifice, more grace, and more teamwork?
And yes, this goes both ways. A husband shouldn’t use “I’m the provider” as an excuse to completely check out of his home or marriage. Your wife and children still need you.
But if your husband is working hard to provide for your family, especially as the sole provider, constantly complaining about how much he works isn’t building him up.
Your husband should be able to come home and feel like his wife is on his team.
Because if the person who is supposed to be his greatest encouragement becomes the person constantly reminding him that his sacrifice isn’t enough… who is building him back up?
You can miss your husband without resenting him.
You can be tired without making him the villain.
You can need more help without tearing down the work he is doing.
Marriage is not “you do your part and I’ll do mine.”
It’s “we’re on the same team, and we’re going to carry this season together.”
So before you complain about how much your husband works, ask yourself:
Am I communicating a genuine need, or am I making his sacrifice something he has to apologize for?
I’m a firm believer in out serving your spouse.
