Kid Advice with Tanisha Henderson

09/03/2026

When your friends are not conscious parents, BE A CONSCIOUS PARENT AROUND THEM!!!

All of my friends are not conscious parents. They still punish BUT none of them s***k anymore.
All of them are increasingly more patient with their kids and way less reactive and stern.

All of them now go to their children when their child needs help doing what they are being asked to do. No "couch parenting." No "if you don't do it, then ..." No threats. No annoyance that they are needed.

But also, no judgement on themselves or their kids. Now, that is the big one.

And what I have seen is that since we know each other's kids so well, we easily step in and make the situation so much easier.

Example. When it was time to go home yesterday, 1 sweet girl was on the edge of an emotional overload. Just as my friend was going over to offer co-regulation, I said, "I bet if I get my daughter to come, yours will come right away and with less sadness." She nodded. I asked my daughter to get ready to go and BOOM, just like that, my friend's daugher followed behind with no problem.

No one thought, she was trying to manipulate the situation.

No one said, she is too old for that kind of a reaction.

No one said anything, except for hugs goodbye and wishing each other joy as we would deeply miss each other.

Conscious KIDS make for conscious friendships!!

Conscious Parents affect and infect every relationship for the better!!!

09/03/2026

What are your teen dating rules?
My answer : none.
If they are interested in dating, then we'll talk about what rules support their successful entry into this adventure that protects them and others.
How would you answer that question?

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08/28/2026

if you've broken the trust your child had in you and they're lying alot...
Scripts to use after you've apologized for s***king, punishing, yelling and shaming him/her in the past.

"This isn't true and I know because....
I understand why it's scary to tell me the truth. I'm working on being a person you can trust. Let's fix this together. " Then help her fix what she lied about.

Don't ask if you know the answer. Don't test to see if she'll lie. Be direct.
"The toothbrush isn't wet so I know you didn't brush. Let's go do it together."

"Show me your homework." Instead of "did you finish your homework?"

When you see she's hesitating say

"I can see you're afraid to tell me this. Thank you for not lying immediately. Do you want to say it on my phone and I record it and listen to it later? Is it easier to give me a note? Would it help if look the other way as you say it? "

Also you can write a note that says "if you're scared to tell me the truth, get this note and I will know to stay quiet as you talk."

08/27/2026

Imagine hitting someone and then being shocked that they don't feel safe being truthful with you.

These babies get a raw deal.

08/22/2026

I read a post where a lady said that her mom taught her to treat people how she wanted to be treated and that it got her no where. So now she is teaching her daughter to treat people the way they treat her. If a person is mean to her, she told her daughter to be mean back to them.
Then like all things, I consider what is the conscious way to guide children in this matter.
For me, I have always told my children to treat everyone in a way that feels good to them.
So if they hit back or say a mean thing back after a person hit or said something mean to them, I would simply ask "did you feel good when you hit/said something mean back or did you feel worse?"
This was the driving force for what they would do the next time any situation came up.
I have taught them and tried to live by it as well,
People teach us one of two lessons. Either they teach us how we want to treat others or how we never want to treat others.

08/19/2026

Completely opposite of the stories that get broadcasted about toddlers, I saw a grandma with her 1 year old /maybe early 2 year old grandson at the library. He only communicated through whines and grunts. She was his words. She was so attuned into him, she knew what every sound communicated. She spoke to him clearly and with love dripping off of every word. And it was evident that he rested in that undeniable care. Her commitment to understand him and meet his needs was not taxing on her though. It was her mission. She moved with ease and joy. And I just was moved to grand awe. She explained to the librarians how she had read him 5 books that day and how that qualified him for a library reward. As he picked it out, she patiently waited and oohed and aaahed over the many choices. Not one ounce of "we gotta go so hurry up." She then went on to brag on him more to the librarians and you know what the toddler did. Waited patiently as his grandma had just done with him. As they proceeded to leave, baby boy gave a grunt. She instantly replied "oh you wanna go to the kid section? Ok. There are no other kids to play with back here since this isn't story time, but we can go look around. Sure. Let's go."

And after 5 minutes of looking around, they walked out hand in hand for their next shared mutual moment of encouragement and satisfaction.

Oh my goodness. It was like a wonderful performance that leaves you wanting more. Only it was real.

And I thought, how blessed they both are.
And oh what a wonderful world if all or at the least most adults saw what this grandma saw.

A child's full worth!!!!!

08/18/2026

My twin 3 year old cousins came over yesterday. Such a delight to see my kids give conscious care.
When they couldn't figure out how to help the preschoolers do the safe thing, they would not use force or stern voice or commands. They chose curiosity questions and patience and encouragement. I was learning so much from them!!!

08/14/2026

One thing about my third born son, when he says "I'll never do that again," he means it.

Meanwhile I just pray he chooses the safest of the worse bad choices so the bounce back is bounce-backable.

My goodness.