Steve Gundy Coaching, LLC

10/11/2026

Capture it. Don't carry it.
For young adults with ADHD, autism, and executive-functioning challenges, remembering everything they need to do can become overwhelming.
Appointments. Responsibilities. Ideas. Things someone asked them to do. Things they intended to finish.
And often, parents become the ones carrying all those reminders.
But what if we helped our young adults build a place where those thoughts could wait for them?
That's the idea behind Capture, Don't Carry.
Instead of relying on memory alone, we help young adults capture important information in an external system they can return to and eventually manage themselves.
The goal isn't simply remembering more.
It's helping your young adult become less dependent on you to remember for them.
Learn more about the Steve Gundy Coaching Method Parent Resource at SteveGundyCoaching.com.

10/09/2026

One question can change the conversation with your young adult.
When your young adult with ADHD or autism struggles to follow through, it's easy to ask:
“Why didn't you do it?”
But that question doesn't always help us understand what's happening.
Instead, try asking:
“What's one thing that happens right before you get stuck?”
Maybe they don't know where to begin. Maybe the task feels overwhelming. Maybe they're having trouble transitioning from something else.
The goal isn't to excuse the difficulty. It's to understand where the process is breaking down so we can identify what might actually help.
Get curious before getting corrective.
Learn more about the Steve Gundy Coaching Method Parent Resource at SteveGundyCoaching.com.

10/06/2026

Sometimes parents are working incredibly hard—on the wrong problem.
Your young adult keeps missing appointments, forgetting responsibilities, or struggling to follow through.
So you remind more. Explain more. Check more.
But what if remembering isn't actually the problem?
Maybe the breakdown happens when they have to estimate time, transition away from what they're doing, organize the steps, or get themselves started.
That's what I mean by finding the bottleneck.
Before adding another strategy, ask:
Where is the process actually breaking down?
Because when we identify the wrong problem, even a good strategy may not help.
Learn more about the Steve Gundy Coaching Method Parent Resource at SteveGundyCoaching.com.

10/04/2026

Sometimes what looks like a motivation problem isn’t really a motivation problem.

When a young adult with ADHD, autism, or executive-function challenges feels stuck, I want to know where the process is actually breaking down.

Is it getting started?
Feeling overwhelmed?
Not knowing the next step?
Difficulty organizing or prioritizing?
Losing track of what they intended to do?
Avoiding something that feels too difficult or uncertain?
Depending on someone else to provide the structure?

I call that point the bottleneck.

Instead of repeatedly addressing the behavior we can see, effective coaching looks underneath it:

What is preventing this young adult from moving forward as they intend?

Once we identify the bottleneck, we can build an action step that actually targets it.

That’s where meaningful movement can begin.

10/02/2026

Presume competence without assuming skill.
Those two ideas belong together.
Your young adult with ADHD or autism may be intelligent, capable, and able to understand far more than their performance sometimes suggests.
Presuming competence means we don't reduce our expectations of who they are because something is difficult.
But we also don't assume that because they understand something, they already possess every skill necessary to independently carry it out.
Instead, ask:
What does my young adult understand—and what skill might still need to be developed or supported?
That allows us to respect competence while still making room for learning.
Learn more about the Steve Gundy Coaching Method Parent Resource at SteveGundyCoaching.com.

09/27/2026

Knowing what to do and consistently being able to follow through are not the same thing.
For young adults with ADHD and autism, the challenge isn't always understanding what needs to be done. The challenge can be getting started, organizing the steps, staying with the task, and following through consistently.
That's an important distinction for parents.
Instead of repeatedly asking, “Why aren't they doing what they already know how to do?” we can start looking for where the follow-through is breaking down.
That gives us something we can actually work with.
Learn more about the Steve Gundy Coaching Method Parent Resource at SteveGundyCoaching.com.

09/24/2026

Steve Gundy is a behavior consultant and coach who works with young adults with ADHD and autism—and with the parents who love them.

The Steve Gundy Coaching Method helps parents understand where independence is breaking down, identify the bottleneck, build practical supports, and gradually help their young adult take greater ownership of their life.

Learn more about the Steve Gundy Coaching Method Parent Resource at SteveGundyCoaching.com.

09/07/2026

It’s official — the Steve Gundy Coaching Method Parent Resource is now live.

I created this resource to help parents of teens and young adults with ADHD, autism, and executive functioning challenges move toward greater independence, follow-through, and ownership.

I’m excited to finally share what I’ve been building.

Read the announcement and learn more here:

Steve Gundy Coaching Launches Parent Resource for Families of Neurodivergent Teens and Young Adults. The Steve Gundy Coaching Method Parent Resource gives parents a practical framework for helping teens and young adults with ADHD, autism, and executive functioning challenges build greater independen...

07/02/2025

The struggle to stand. What comes naturally to others requires intention. The same is true for launching young adults with ADHD and Autism.


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The struggle to stand—As a Parent and as a Person

After recent spinal surgery, I found myself in physical therapy facing a surprisingly difficult task: standing at a desk for 30 minutes while working on a puzzle. That’s it—just standing.

For years, I’ve stood at a desk in my home office to stay focused and productive. It’s part of how I do my best work. I never thought twice about it—my body simply adapted while my mind engaged with purpose.

But this time, I had to think about every moment. I shifted, sweated, and fought to stay upright. What once came automatically now demanded conscious effort and determination.

And that’s when it hit me:
This is exactly what life can feel like for a young adult with ADHD or Autism.

What looks “simple” from the outside—getting out of bed, planning a day, managing anxiety, following through—may feel like standing on a summit they’re not sure they can climb. What used to be guided for them now has to be practiced by them. The mental shift is real. The work is intense.

For parents, this also marks a turning point. Your role is changing—from trainer to guide. And just like I had to rediscover how to stand, your young adult must rediscover how to function—but this time, on their own terms. With your support, not your control. With your encouragement, not your step-by-step direction.

The journey back to strength requires empathy. The kind that remembers how hard it can be to do something that used to come easy.

Whether you’re standing for 30 minutes or stepping back to let your child take their next step—you’re doing courageous, sacred work.

One shift at a time. One conversation at a time. One launch at a time.

06/30/2025

🦋 Progress Is Grace in Motion 🦋

This past week, I’ve found myself walking slowly—literally—after unexpected spinal surgery. Every step forward feels like a miracle. Every breath, a reminder that healing is happening.

But the moment that moved me didn’t come from the doctor’s report.

It came from my adult son, Bryce.

Bryce is a young man living with Autism. I’ve spent much of my life walking alongside him, guiding, supporting, and standing in the gap when the world felt overwhelming.

And now… he’s standing with me.

He came to see me all on his own, and said, “Dad, you take care of so many. But now, you have to take care of yourself.”

That one sentence conveyed - Wisdom. Maturity. Compassion. All from the heart of the son I’ve fought so hard to advocate for.

In that moment, roles reversed. Bryce wasn’t just my son. He was my strength. He was grace in motion.

In the world of special needs parenting, it’s easy to focus on what’s hard, what’s delayed, or what’s uncertain.

But let me tell you—my son is everything to me. He is proof that love matures. That connection deepens. That purpose isn’t just in what we give… but what we receive, sometimes when we least expect it.

I’m learning that grace moves one step at a time—as Bryce now walks with me, just as I’ve walked with him.

To every parent out there, and to every coach, therapist, and caregiver: Don’t miss the miracles. They often whisper when we expect them to shout.