01/08/2024
As a parent of two teenagers who are neurodivergent and as a piano teacher of students who are neurodivergent, here are a few tips on how to talk with a potential student’s parents.
1. “What do you love about your child?” We parents are continually advocating for our child and typically have many conversations about their symptoms, diagnoses, and next steps. We often encounter judgment and misinformation and it is exhausting. My first question is to ask them about what they love about their child! What are their gifts, talents, and special interests? Who are they as a person? What makes them laugh and smile? This is a bright spot to us parents - when someone wants to truly know my child. As a teacher, take notes! This information will be vitally helpful in future lessons!
2. “What should I know about your child that would help me teach them better?” Credit to for this gem! Often parents will not mention nor have pursued a diagnosis. I do not ask nor judge their individual choices. I can adapt to a student as I get to know them. It is a very difficult thing to do as a parent to pursue a diagnosis, and it can be difficult to accept, and a grieving process can be involved. Every parent’s journey through this process is different. I leave it to the medical professionals to diagnose. Instead, a beautifully-worded, open-ended question such as this invites the parent to share what will help you as a teacher to teach their student.
3. I tell parents that it is important that they interview ME as much as I interview them. Neurodivergent learners are often going to many appointment with doctors and therapists and tutors. One of my priorities is that they have a good rapport with me and vice versa. I want my studio to be a place of creating music with joy, a respite from the work of navigating what can be a challenging world to them. It is more than ok if I am not the right teacher for the student and their family!
What has helped YOU talk with parents of students who learn and experience the world differently?