Leif Stringer, Relationships / Communication / Mediation

04/23/2022

I'm offering a virtual 6-week group focused on adult love relationships grouped by folks with the same attachment style.

Two groups of eight people plus me will meet weekly for five weeks, and then both groups meet all together in class six!

You’ll learn what attachment is and how it has everything to do with your life. I will detail different coping styles for emotional hurt.

We'll make sense of the unique way that your group members naturally protect themselves in relationships that unfortunately creates barriers to intimacy.

You'll get tips and tricks, and we'll walk through what secure couples do. I will teach through demonstration, direction, Q & A, and more.

One group meets weekly on Wednesdays at 4 EST.
One group meets weekly on Thursdays at 4 EST.

The cost is $375.
Details and registration at

When love requires revising old coping strategies. A six-week game changer Week 1 We’ll make personal introductions and meet your shipmates. You’ll hear about my personal relationship journey, I’ll lay out group guidelines, and you’ll get to share your basic challenges with folks who can rel...

10/02/2020

A Dad's Bedroom Battle

Imagine an eleven-year old's bedroom so messy that the floor can't be seen, furniture is scattered about, and the clean clothes are indistinct from the dirty ones. As a dad who strongly enjoys things organized, minimized, and clean, the opportunity to navigate our differences with my son is ever-present.

My mind is most functional when my environment is in a particular arrangement. I'm not easy to live with. Then again, neither is he. He feels most happy when he doesn't have to think about details that are insignificant to him, which in turn allows him to focus on playing creatively.

The old battle involved me nagging and criticizing him for days and eventually ended at a forced cleanup. Each week - the transition from a clean home to a disaster area, from pleased to aggravated, from connected to separate - became a predictably stressful merry-go-round for us.

What was going on and where were the exit ramps from our pattern? I knew we could do better.

continued at:
www.leifstringer.com/blog/2020/10/1/a-dads-bedroom-battle

04/02/2020

Anger is the flip side of helplessness. Can you let your anger be an acceptable ally?

If you've witnessed or experienced hurt when someone was angry, then understandably anger got put in the "bad box".

Have you seen anger channeled into a love-sword for protection and sturdy legs?

03/27/2020

A research experiment at the University of Virginia showed that people who have a backpack on perceive the slope to be much steeper than without wearing any weight on their backs. Does the new Covid-19 reality that you find yourself in feel like you're wearing additional weight? Does your day have a different, odd, or disoriented feel to it lately, leaving your slopes to feel steeper?

I'm feeling some of that, and I'm here for support if you need it. Because the economy is shifting in challenging ways, I'm offering a lower sliding scale temporarily if needed. Make a bold request based on the situation you find yourself in, and I'll meet you there.

Remember, in relationships we all use our learned attachment style to regulate our emotions and preserve the relationship the best we can. So if you're finding yourself stuck in a cycle, you're not alone, and we can untangle the knots together by creating safety, organizing your inner experience, distilling down the feelings, and finding brave new ways to express yourself.

May your whole home smell like lavender, and may dinner cook itself. May all your people speak your exact love language. May all the good things come knocking on your doorstep. And if this doesn't happen ... reach out to me!

03/06/2020

I LOVE WHAT I DO. I enable my clients to have conversations that they're not having. To use brave new words.

I help them see anger as an ally, as one person's attempt to recover their fleeting needs, and from an attachment style that is innocently acquired, yet foreign and disorienting to those around them.

From a different angle, I help illuminate how talking from the head up is a different strategy that also seeks to ease their own difficult emotions.

Ultimately, together we search for the meaning/purpose for the pain they're going through, and then dig for softer stuff beneath the existing karate moves.

A result of this work is that you're able to identify specifically what happened in conflict and why, and then identify it before it happens again in the future.

01/12/2020

I am often repeating thy habits!