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Your Enneagram Coach The Enneagram is a profound and comprehensive personality system for understanding yourself and other people in your life with new depth and clarity.

Learning the Enneagram is like having a pair of x-ray glasses that enables you to see yourself and others with startling new clarity. Other personality typologies focus on what you do, but the Enneagram explains why do what you do. It shows what your deep motivations are and what drives all of your feelings, thoughts, and behaviors. Because understanding yourself and others is so important, the Enneagram has the power to change your life. Once you’ve made the journey of self-discovery, you’ll be able to see yourself and all of your own fears and desires, your behaviors, and your typical reactions, your strengths and problem areas in a fresh and liberating way. You’ll be able to form a new relationship with yourself. One that is nonjudgmental, accepting, and compassionate. Your life will take a quantum leap forward toward obtaining lasting peace of mind, true wisdom, and joy. As a result, you’ll have a much easier time understanding the motivations and tendencies of others. You’ll have a stronger foundation or building relationships in every area of your life. Unlike other systems, the Enneagram doesn’t put you into a box; it shows you the way out of the box you are already in.

10/12/2026

“No one understands me… and honestly, I kind of like it that way.” 🌧️

Type Fours don’t run from heavy feelings. They marinate in them.

A Four’s core fear is being ordinary or fundamentally flawed, so the brain builds a survival strategy: uniqueness. Melancholy starts to feel like home because it feels real and distinct. To a Four, ordinary can feel like disappearing.

Here’s what most people miss: Fours aren’t being dramatic. They’re protecting their identity the only way they know how.

The growth edge: your feelings are valid, but they aren’t always facts. When the spiral starts, anchor in something real. Step outside, make something, do one small kind thing. Action brings your beautiful inner world into the real one.

👇 Type Fours, does this land a little too close to home? Tell me in the comments.

10/11/2026

“I’ll just watch one more episode and deal with it tomorrow.” 🛋️

Type 9s don’t fight overwhelm. They fog out.

Nines fear conflict and disconnection, so the brain built an escape hatch: numbing. And it rarely looks like doing nothing. It looks like scrolling for hours, snacking, or staying busy with tiny tasks so you never face the big one. Productive procrastination is still procrastination.

Here’s what I’ve learned as a Nine: motivation is a trap. You won’t feel like starting. Nines don’t need motivation. They need momentum. Set a timer for 10 minutes and start the thing you’re avoiding. Action comes first, energy follows.

👇 Fellow Nines, what’s your go-to way to check out when life gets heavy? Mine used to be scrolling. Tell me yours.

10/10/2026

Can “The Helper” actually be narcissistic? 👀

Short answer: yes. But the motive is completely different.

A narcissist helps to be admired. An unhealthy Type 2 helps to be loved. Underneath, a Two’s core fear is being unwanted, so helping becomes a way to make themselves impossible to leave. That’s the shadow side of the Two: pride, the quiet belief that everyone would fall apart without them.

Here’s the growth practice: help by invitation only. Before you jump in, pause and ask, “Did they actually ask for my help, or am I trying to prove my worth?” That one question breaks the pride cycle and gives your relationships room to breathe.

👇 Type Twos (and those who love them): does this hit a little too close to home? Tell me in the comments.

10/10/2026

“I’m all in… wait, can I back out if I want? Am I stuck with this decision or free to choose?” 🏃‍♂️💨

Type Sevens often get labeled as flaky or non-committal. But under the surface, their hesitation isn't about the person or job. It's rooted in fear.

A Seven’s core fear is being trapped in emotional pain, limitation, or boredom. Keeping their options open feels like pure survival, while a long-term commitment can feel like handcuffs. They aren't trying to run from you; their nervous system is trying to avoid misery with no escape route.

Here’s the growth reframe: a commitment you choose with total agency never feels like a cage. You aren’t surrendering your freedom. You’re actively using it to say, “Out of all the options, I choose this one.” A chosen adventure brings far deeper joy than endless open doors.

👇 Type Sevens, what has helped you stay grounded when your instinct was to run? Share your wisdom in the comments.

10/09/2026

Sometimes love looks like packing an extra charger. 🧡

Before a speaking engagement, a Type Six may think through what they need and what someone else might need, too. That preparation is one way they show care.

Sixes want security, safety, and support. They look ahead, notice possible needs, and help build a dependable safety net with people they trust.

I’ve experienced this with my husband, who’s a Six. When I forgot things for a speaking engagement, he remembered what I needed. His preparation was a beautiful way to love me.

Sixes, your discernment and loyalty are gifts. But constantly checking for what you might have missed can be exhausting for you and others.

Try this: make the backup plan, then let it go. You’ve prepared enough. Practice trusting yourself to handle what comes next, and give yourself room to enjoy the process.

👇 Type Sixes, does this feel like you? Tell me in the comments.

Have you ever recognized one of your patterns and immediately thought, “I should be past this by now”?I’ve been there. A...
10/08/2026

Have you ever recognized one of your patterns and immediately thought, “I should be past this by now”?

I’ve been there. As a Type Nine, I could see the ways I avoided tension and lost touch with myself. Knowing the pattern didn’t keep me from falling into the same cycle of trying harder and feeling ashamed.

Remembering that I was already God’s Beloved, even while I was still growing, changed how I approached what I was seeing.

I’m sharing that journey at the free Type·ish Spiritual Formation Summit, running from Oct 20, 2026 through Oct 23, 2026.

My session, “Spiritually Healthy & Unhealthy: The Growth Journey of Each Enneagram Type,” is available Wednesday, Oct 21, 2026. We’ll look at all nine Types and explore a question you can bring into everyday life: “What is my heart trusting right now, and what truth do I need to remember?”

I’ve created a free 16-page companion workbook for summit attendees, with a page for each Type. It’s a resource you can return to as you notice familiar patterns and remember the message your heart longs to hear.

I’ll be joining Suzanne Stabile, Ruth Haley Barton, Dan Allender, and Adam Young for conversations about faith and spiritual growth.

The summit presentations are prerecorded and on demand. Each day’s interviews and workshops are free for 30 hours, so you can choose what interests you.

I’d love for you to join me.

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10/08/2026

“Look what I did! (Do you admire me yet?)” 🏆💔

Type Threes are so good at achieving that they start performing their life instead of living it.

A Three’s core fear is being worthless without success. So the brain builds a survival strategy: become whoever wins the most applause in the room. The blind spot? You get so good at playing the successful person that you forget who you are under the trophies.

Hear this: your wins are not your worth. The people who love you don’t need the highlight reel. They just want you - simply you!

Try this: once a week, do something you’re bad at, with no audience and no scoreboard. It teaches your heart that you’re lovable even when you’re not impressive.

👇 Threes, what would you do with your time if nobody was watching? Tell me below.

10/07/2026

“No, really. It’s FINE.” (Narrator: it was not fine.) 😬

Type Ones don’t explode. They leak.

Because Ones fear being wrong or bad, anger itself feels like a character flaw. So it goes underground and comes back as resentment, or it slips out sideways as criticism over the dishwasher, the messy counter, the small stuff.

Here’s the truth: your anger isn’t proof you’re bad. It’s information. It’s telling you a boundary got crossed or you’re running on empty.

Try this: the next time you feel that tight smile coming, name it out loud. “I’m feeling angry right now.” Anger you name is anger you can work with. Anger you bury turns into resentment.

👇 Type Ones, what’s one thing you’re pretending is “totally fine” today? Be honest in the comments. And send this to the One in your life who needs to hear it.

10/06/2026

“I came. I saw. I checked my battery. I departed.” 🔋

Find the Type 5 at the party: by the snack table, watching, recharging.

Fives aren’t antisocial. They run on a limited reserve of social energy, and a crowded room drains it in real time. A Five’s core fear is being overwhelmed or incapable, so they guard their bandwidth like currency.

The strategy that actually works: give yourself a permitted exit plan before you arrive. Decide when you’re allowed to leave. Knowing you can go removes the trapped feeling, which is usually what makes it possible to stay and enjoy yourself.

👇 Fives, what’s your ultimate party survival tactic? Everyone else: tag your favorite Five who lives by the snack table.

10/05/2026

"You're too intense and blunt." "Tone it down."

Type 8 women have heard it their whole lives.

Let's call it what it is: a double standard. When a man is direct and decisive, we call it leadership. When a woman does the same, she's too intense, difficult, and worse.

Here's the insight behind the intensity. Type 8s value directness because at least they know what they're dealing with. No blindsiding, no manipulation. They'd rather face an unpleasant truth than discover it was kept from them. That's betrayal, and betrayal is their greatest fear.

So when she's blunt and honest to a fault, she's giving you what she wishes others would give her. It can land as harsh, but her honesty is really trust.

Type 8 women are deeply misunderstood. People don't see how fiercely they protect the people they love, how they make impossible things happen, or how they champion the underdog. They just see the intensity and label it harmful instead of getting curious.

Before you label a strong, decisive woman, notice how she plows a path for others and rallies people behind her as she clears the way.

Type 8 women, does this land? Tag a strong 8 who needs to hear this today. 🔥

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