07/27/2026
What’s one of the best parts of an intimate, responsive, and character-driven environment?
For me, it’s knowing that conflict, tension, and relational issues can be addressed rather than overlooked or ignored. We have the space to pause, have honest conversations, and help students work through challenges in a healthy and constructive way.
As someone who is around middle schoolers a LOT, there is no way to guarantee that there won’t be arguments, ugliness, or tension, even in a small group setting, but what’s important is that we have the opportunity to know each student personally, and to be aware of what is going on with our students and their relationships.
Unfortunately, teasing, exclusion, and bullying are common challenges during the middle school years. Sometimes they are subtle; other times they are direct. Either way, they rarely disappear without intentional guidance and intervention.
How do we approach this?
For one, we prioritize learning how to handle conflicts and work through disagreements. We have conversations on how to explain how something made you feel, how to apologize properly, and how to communicate your frustrations in a way that isn’t just attacking the other person. And we’re not afraid to pause academic time to have these conversations, call out behavior, or mediate disputes.
Conflict is inevitable, but having the space to meet with a student one on one and talk through what’s going on, or address a group in exactly what sort of behavior is acceptable or not—it’s not only invaluable, it’s necessary.
Our goal at Cephas is that EVERY student finds a safe place. A place where they don’t have to be afraid to go to school or feel like they’re not wanted. This isn’t something easy to create, but it’s important that we’re emphasizing, and putting into practice, what it truly means to have a behavior that demonstrates Christ-like love.
This little video may be silly, but I like it in the sense that it brings attention to the importance of healthy relationships, a safe environment, and a character that treats others with respect, honor, and dignity.