04/26/2018
Q: Am I missing moments of joy? Yes. Think of it like this: how many blue cars have you seen today? You probably passed several in traffic but were paying no attention to them. If you made a game out of it, you'd likely see them everywhere. Joy is really the same way, sometimes subtle & fleeting, and we often overlook it while our minds wander.
Some simple examples: waking up to a new day, hugging a loved one, holding hands, taking off shoes, really seeing nature, watching animals play, creative play of your own, smile from a stranger, hearing a song that connects with you, good conversation with a friend, when driving and someone let's you into the lane, feeling warm water touch your skin when you get into the shower, reclining on a comfortable couch/bed, first bite of meals, etc. [insert some from your own daily life].
The move is to simply notice these thin slices of joy as they're happening. The more you notice them, the more they appear to be everywhere, because they always are there and always have been. You just weren't necessarily inclined to notice, just like the blue cars. You can think of it as cultivating joy in a world where we are hard-wired to attend more vigorously to negative experiences. Knowing that our minds pass right by positive experiences all the time, we have to consciously choose to say 'hey wait brain, this is a nice moment right here. let's savor it. let's appreciate it.'
See, physical reality is always filtered through our perceptual mechanisms, and our minds are programmed to minimize 'noise' otherwise we would be inundated with too much raw data. The filtering is essential for survival, but it sometimes blocks out things we'd rather not be filtered. By noticing these little pockets of happiness in our daily existences, I think it can improve our time here.
And as I share this concept, it's a reminder for myself as well - the idea sparked by this book I'm currently reading by Tan Chade-Meng (of Google fame), called 'Joy On Demand'. Much love.
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