Understanding the Female

What is it like to be a beautiful girl?

Understanding the “experience” of a beautiful girl can build up a man’s confidence.

Beautiful women get gawked at everywhere they go. Men stare, whistle, holler, and do other things that make her uncomfortable. She knows how much power her beauty has over guys and she does not like it. Why? Because she knows her beauty makes most men insecure. Her interactions with men consist of the “nice guy” trying to win her affection or the “douche bag” running “game” on her. Or she doesn’t get approached at all!

The beautiful girl is hoping to meet a guy that approaches her in a quality manner. A guy that is not intimated by her beauty and will NOT do ANYTHING to please her, but will also not be a DICK about it. She longs for a guy that will approach her in loving way that will make her FEEL beautiful.

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3 steps to initiate a conversation with a group of girls.

1). Observe the girls and notice something about the group.

Note: Most girls (when together) are out to have a good time so you will always see them laughing.

2). Approach the group and say the following VERY SLOWLY:

“HEY! (pause). You girls (pause and then generate a smile as you continue) have been laughing ever since you got here.”

Note: 9 of our 10 times, this will generate a laugh from the girls. Then continue saying:

“That is a good thing. My name is Ricardo. What’s your name?

Note: Introduce yourself to all the girls and shake their hands with a nice genuine smile. Be sure to look each one in their eye as you meet them. If you have a target girl in mind, remember her name and direct the next question to her. Say:

“(Her name), are you celebrating something or just out for a good time?”

Note: Continue a brief conversation with her for a few minutes (see my other posts regarding conversation topics if you need ideas)

3). Excuse yourself.

Note: You don’t want to stick around too long unless you sense she is TOTALLY into you. If this is the case, stick around and see where it goes. If the conversation is nice but she still seems a bit reserve, you want to leave the conversation on a high note. Say:

“I should get back to my friends but I would like to learn more about you.” (Take out your phone, go to “add contact” and give her your phone). Say, “Put your number in my phone and I’ll send you a text later.” After she gives you her number, shake her hand again (remember to look her in the eye) and say with a grin, “I will see you later.” Then excuse yourself from the group by saying, “ladies it was nice meeting you, enjoy the rest of your evening.”

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Am I too old to get the women I want?

The answer to this question is up to you. If you have a limiting belief that you are too old to get the women you want then this will be the future you live into and your actions (or inactions) will align with this belief. If this is your belief start by asking yourself the following question:

Is this true or false?

And before you answer, do some research. Do a Google search, make observations, ask experts. Are there men dating women much younger (10, 15, 20 years younger)? Luckily, I’ve already done plenty of research on this topic and the answer is YES. Men in their 40s are dating women in their 20s (even 18 & 19). Men in their 50s are dating women in the 20s and 30s. There are even men in their 60s dating these younger women; however, the later cases are less often and usually require additional work.

If you are an older man (35+) wanting to date younger women, know that this is totally possible and probable if you have the right mindset.

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How to avoid the dreaded “friend -zone?”

A good way to start a relationship with a women is to befriend her. This can relieve the pressure from you to immediately become the object of her sexual desire.

You build connection (key for women) with the intention of having her become romantically interested in you. You do this by remembering the important details of her life, making her laugh, and enjoying time together.

The KEY is to befriend her without becoming too available. You don’t want to be there whenever she wants (especially if she is calling to complain about other guys). You need to put YOURSELF FIRST! Your career/school/recreation are your top priorities.

You also need to be actively talking with other women. In your conversations you can share about funny stories of you and other women (even if they are platonic).

The above sends a subliminal signal that you are a man of value and not easily attainable.

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How women and men talk differently…

Women talk for one main reason: to connect. When you see a group of girls talking, they are most likely sharing with each other, strengthening their connection. In many cases, there is no point to the conversation. The act of conversing IS the point as it’s a bonding experience.

Men talk to communicate, to get a point across or solve a problem. The act of talking is just a means to an end.

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How to Approach Women? (part 4)

Many beautiful women complain that men do not approach them. Beautiful women usually only get approached by drunk or sleazy guys, which doesn’t count as a real approach in the woman’s mind. Women feel the luckiest when they get approached by a confident guy who is easy-going and who believes in himself. Again, women are more attracted to confidence than looks, so grow a pair of balls and approach her!

Don’t ever think you are doing a bad thing when you approach women. You are literally doing the woman a FAVOR by approaching. Regardless how it ends, if you make her smile during your interaction, you have made her night a little brighter and that is a win!

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How to Approach Women? (part 3)

You approaches her and introduced yourself… what next? Again, keep it simple.

Two topics to talk about:

1. The Environment
2. Her

Whatever you decide to talk about, keep it positive and keep it authentic. Don’t say something you don’t mean. Women can smell bu****it a mile away so just keep it real.

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How to Approach Women? (part 2)

You approach her but what do you say? Keep it simple. “Hey, I’m Ricardo. I thought I’d come over and be social. What’s your name?” Whatever you say, be sure to say it slowly. The slower, the better as it shows confidence and as I mentioned before, women are more attracted to your confidence than your physical appearance.

Be sure to shake her hand when you introduce yourself. Women are sensitive to touch and you will hold her attention with a simple handshake.

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How to Approach Women?

There’s a whole in-depth process for “approach” as a whole, but we’re going to focus on YOU first.

The best way is to use a natural, direct style. Women respect and feel attracted to guys who are confident enough to relax and be their true self. Women are more attracted to a guy’s confidence than his looks so the more you allow her to “experience” confident you, the more she will be attracted to you.

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Why do women play with their hair?

Women often communicate through non-verbal cues, so I she is playing with her hair, she may be indicating her romantic interest in a person. On the other hand; however, this could just be a sign that a woman is fidgety or nervous. A woman playing with her hair has to be understood in the context of her overall body language.

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10. Use touch to make her melt.

Non-sexual touch is very important for women and is something you should play into every time you see one another.

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9. Get in touch with your own thoughts and feelings.

Understanding yourself can make it easier for you to understand her. Take time each day to mindfully pay attention to your own emotions, thoughts, and physical sensations.

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