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WithinU Coaching, LLC Beth Allison is a Certified Life Coach who is ready to help you maneuver through a career change or life transition to live a more fulfilled life.

By working together you'll uncover what's next!

I just got back from hosting my very first retreat.For months it lived in my head as a to-do list. Venue. Sign-ups. Menu...
10/14/2026

I just got back from hosting my very first retreat.

For months it lived in my head as a to-do list. Venue. Sign-ups. Menus. What if nobody comes.

Then the women walked through the door, and the list went quiet.

During a debrief, hearing that the coaching and the conversations flowed easily, was music to my ears as this is exacly how I want coaching to be experienced.

I went in thinking I was holding space for them.

I came home realizing it was everything I needed right now, too.

Still unpacking. Not just the suitcase.

A soft reminder for the weekend: you're allowed to turn off the porch light.It's the most widely understood "no" there i...
10/09/2026

A soft reminder for the weekend: you're allowed to turn off the porch light.

It's the most widely understood "no" there is. No note on the door. No apology. No explanation about why you ran out of candy or energy.

The light is off. Everyone gets it, and nobody takes it personally.

I've said for years that no is a complete sentence. The porch light proves it.

For the woman who's always home, always stocked, always answering, a dark porch can feel almost rude. I promise the neighborhood survives.

So this weekend, the light can go off on the business. On work. On the responsibilities you carry for everyone else.

The inbox will hold. The list will still be there Monday. The people who count on you will be fine for two days.

You don't have to earn it by finishing everything else first.

Porch light off. Enjoy your weekend.

The best part of Halloween was never the walking.It was getting home, dumping the whole bag on the living room floor, an...
10/08/2026

The best part of Halloween was never the walking.

It was getting home, dumping the whole bag on the living room floor, and sorting.

Keep pile. Trade pile. And the pile you handed to your dad without a second thought, because you never liked those anyway.

No guilt. No "but someone gave this to me." You knew what you wanted.

Most of the women I work with haven't sorted their own bag in years. They're carrying everything anyone ever handed them, and what they want is somewhere at the bottom.

Imagine dumping out your Q4 like that. Every yes, on the floor where you can see it. Some to keep. Some to hand to someone else. Some you never wanted in the first place.

I'd guess your keep pile is smaller than your calendar suggests.

I'd love to know what's in it.

Some of what's on your list this quarter is wearing a costume.Someone else's deadline, dressed up as your emergency.A fa...
10/07/2026

Some of what's on your list this quarter is wearing a costume.

Someone else's deadline, dressed up as your emergency.

A favor, dressed up as "it'll only take a minute."

A tradition nobody enjoys anymore, dressed up as "but we always do it."

The costumes work best on capable women. You can handle it, so it lands with you. You're fast, so it's easier to do it than to question it. And you answer the door every time, because what if it's real?

Sometimes it is.

But being highly responsible doesn't mean everything deserves your attention at the exact same time. Some of it isn't even yours.

And answering every knock costs something, even when you're good at it. Especially when you're good at it.

That's what we'll be talking about on October 21 in my free workshop, "The Hidden Cost of Being the Responsible One." It's on Zoom, at 10amMT/12pmET. Link in comments to register.

What's one thing on your list right now that might be in costume?

A woman told me recently on a connect, that her thoughts were "bouncing all over the place like a rubber ball."I knew ex...
10/06/2026

A woman told me recently on a connect, that her thoughts were "bouncing all over the place like a rubber ball."

I knew exactly what she meant, because mine were doing the same thing.

A leadership conference presentation to prepare. The Permission Slip Weekend to plan. A business to run. Family, friends, a life.

I was doing lots of things and finishing none of them. All over the place and nowhere at the same time.

So one day last week I sat down at a desk covered in all of it and told myself: One. Just one thing. At a time.

I didn't buy a new planner or build a better system. I stopped trying to stand on five porches at once.

Here's what that looked like in practice, in case it's useful:

❇️ I wrote down everything that was bouncing. All of it, on one page, so it was out of my head and somewhere I could see it.

❇️Then I asked one question: what is the one thing that deserves my attention right now?

Not the loudest thing. Not the thing someone else was waiting on. The one that mattered most that day.

❇️I circled it, turned the page over, and gave it my attention until it was done.

The rest of the list was still there when I flipped the page back. But it had been sitting still instead of bouncing, and so had I.

If your mind has been bouncing lately, you're in good company. Mine was too.

You don't have to hit every houseNo 9-year-old hits every house on the block.She knows the night is short and her bag on...
10/05/2026

You don't have to hit every house

No 9-year-old hits every house on the block.

She knows the night is short and her bag only holds so much. So she skips the dark porch. She skips the house that hands out toothbrushes. She heads straight for the one with full-size candy bars.

Nobody calls her selfish. Nobody asks her to explain.

Then we grow up and become the one everyone counts on. And every stop starts to feel required.

The year-end project. The committee nobody else will chair. The friend group gathering... The "can you just."

There are about twelve weeks left in this year. That's a short night too.

When you're highly responsible, skipping a house can feel like letting someone down. But that 9-year-old wasn't letting anyone down. She just knew what she wanted in her bag.

You still get to choose your houses.

Which ones are worth the walk for you between now and December 31?

I like getting older. I'll say it out loud.Last month I took a whole weekend off.No laptop. No alarms. Nobody else's to-...
10/02/2026

I like getting older. I'll say it out loud.

Last month I took a whole weekend off.

No laptop. No alarms. Nobody else's to-do list. Just 48 hours of doing whatever Beth wanted to do.

Dinner with friends. Slow morning walks, sipping my Dunkin. A glass of red w**e on the porch at 4pm.

Somewhere between the walk and the w**e, it hit me. Ten years ago I wouldn't have given myself that weekend. Twenty years ago I wouldn't have known how to enjoy it.

Nobody tells you midlife can be the time you finally get to be a beginner again. You get to try new things and learn what you actually like.

A lot of the women I talk to believe it's too late to pivot.

Seven years ago I left corporate America. Then I decided to write a book.

Nobody handed me a permission slip for either one. I just stopped waiting for the right age to show up.

"Too late" is a story. I believed it for a while too.

It's never too late.

People talk about their best years like they're in the rearview mirror.

I think mine are still ahead of me.

What's something you want to try that you've told yourself you're too old for?

You don’t need a “good enough reason” to want something.Read that again.Because somehow we’ve decided that everything we...
10/01/2026

You don’t need a “good enough reason” to want something.

Read that again.

Because somehow we’ve decided that everything we do for ourselves needs to be justified.

A new car?

It has to be falling apart.

A vacation?

You have to desperately need a break.

A new outfit?

You need an event to wear it to.

A day off?

You have to be exhausted.

A class?

It needs to somehow make you more productive.

And God forbid you say:

“I just want to.”

Suddenly your brain starts presenting evidence against you.

Can I afford it?

Is this responsible?

Should I be doing something else?

What will people think?

Have I earned it?

Meanwhile…

You don’t ask yourself those questions when the house needs fixing.

Or your job needs something.

Or your family needs help.

You simply handle it.

Because it needs to be done.

Here’s the shift:

You don’t have to choose yourself over everyone else.

But you also don’t have to automatically choose everyone else over yourself.

Your wants deserve consideration, too.

Not because you’re selfish.

Because you’re a person in the equation.

And sometimes “I want to” really is a good enough reason.

If this hit you, send it to the woman who always puts herself last. ❤️

The Monday after Permission Slip Weekend is going to look different for every woman there.One woman will drive home know...
09/30/2026

The Monday after Permission Slip Weekend is going to look different for every woman there.

One woman will drive home knowing what her next career move is. She's been circling it for two years, and somewhere between the lake and the second cup of coffee, she'll finally hear herself say it out loud.

Another will remember who she was before twenty years of packing lunches, managing prescriptions, and being everyone's emergency contact. She'll find her spark again, maybe in the middle of a conversation she didn't expect to have.

Another will just rest. A real nap at 2pm. Forty-eight hours where nobody asks her what's for dinner.

None of those is the "right" outcome. You'll leave with whatever you came needing, even if you can't name it yet.

October 8–11. Lake Norman. Eight women total.

2 spots left.

If one of those Mondays sounds like yours, book a Clarity Call and let's talk: https://calendly.com/beth-withinu/psw-clarity-call

The car needs tires. The house needs a repair. Someone in the family needs help. You don't spend much time questioning a...
09/29/2026

The car needs tires. The house needs a repair. Someone in the family needs help. You don't spend much time questioning any of it. It needs to be done, end of discussion.

But the second the reason becomes I want to, suddenly there's a whole discussion. Can I afford it. Is this the right time. Have I earned it yet.

Apparently wanting something for ourselves needs supporting documentation.

In my new blog post I'm digging into why we treat everyone else's needs as automatic and our own as something to justify, and why "I want to" is allowed to be a good enough reason on its own.

You don't have to put yourself at the top of the list every time. You just have to stop leaving yourself off of it.

Read the full post below 👇🏻

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