10/11/2026
Our horses are not machines. Sometimes we have to consider their perspective. Put yourself in their “hooves”.
This is a welfare conversation.
That’s why it’s happening on my page.
Im seeing this come up again in other channels that are not handling it with any kindness or empathy and that’s not a welfare discussion, sometimes that’s just bullying. So we are going to have the conversation here.
This isn’t about male vs female. This isn’t about shaming bodies.
This is about load.
There is a welfare limit when it comes to what a horse can comfortably and safely carry, and pretending that limit doesn’t exist doesn’t help anyone, especially not the horse.
If I could bold this line I would:
Horses don’t owe us riding.
And I think that’s where a lot of this gets blurred.
A number that gets thrown around a lot is the “20% rule”. That a horse can carry 20% of their body weight.
But what often gets left out is that this guideline is based on a fit, conditioned horse, with appropriate muscling, soundness, and management.
Not a deconditioned horse.
Not a young horse.
Not a horse coming back into work.
Not a horse with any limitations.
And it also includes EVERYTHING.
Rider, saddle, tack.
So even that number isn’t a “free pass”. It’s a BEST case scenario.
I say this as someone who was almost 100 lbs heavier and chose to stop riding at my heaviest.
This isn’t coming from judgment. It’s coming from experience and from having to look at things honestly.
There’s also this belief that if someone wants to ride, they should be able to. But horses aren’t equipment. They’re living beings with physical limits.
And those limits don’t change based on how much we want something.
I understand that horses can be incredibly important for people, including for therapeutic reasons.
But that does NOT have to involve riding.
Connection, groundwork, relationship building, time spent with them. Those things can be just as therapeutic as riding, bring around horses in itself is therapeutic.
This needs to be a conversation about welfare as a whole, not a targeted one about individuals.
Not an excuse to shame people.
Not something to turn into bullying.
But also not something we get to ignore because it’s uncomfortable.