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One of my biggest values as a parent is lead by example. Embodying that your appearance does not define who you are as a human. She gets it. She sees it. She values it too.
Children don’t hear our words as temporary comments.
They often internalize them as identity statements.
Developmental psychology calls this implicit belief formation.
Repeated messages from caregivers become subconscious scripts that can shape behavior for decades.
Instead of saying:
❌ “You’re messy.”
Try:
✔️ “Let’s learn how to keep things organized.”
Small shift.
Very different identity.
Revenge bedtime procrastination is real. The feeling when you work hard and you want to reward yourself with staying up late at night?
The term comes from Chinese. But English definitely should borrow it! It’s not about being lazy. It’s about reclaiming your agency.
How to avoid it? Claim your agency throughout the day. Do things that you love during the day.
Are you team “I don’t have time”
Or
“I make time”?
They say genetics load the gun, and lifestyle pulls the trigger.
But genetics are only probabilities, not destiny.
Your daily habits — how you breathe, move, recover, think, and manage stress — are constantly sending signals to your body.
Over time, those signals become biology.
The real question is:
What are you pulling the trigger on every day?
The “four burner theory” says you can’t win in all areas of life.
But that assumes energy is fixed.
It’s not.
Your nervous system generates and restores capacity.
Connection restores.
Purpose restores.
Movement restores.
When your life is aligned, energy circulates.
When it’s misaligned, everything feels like a drain.
The problem isn’t too many burners.
The problem is imbalance.
You are the placebo.
What you believe is possible becomes your ceiling.
02/23/2026
One of the biggest mistakes I see young professionals make when they’re trying to get into AI is:
They chase AI.
Not the problem, the impact or the question that keeps them up at night. Just… AI.
“I need to get into AI because that’s where the money is.”
“It’s the future.”
“Everyone’s doing it.”
That’s backwards. AI is not a destination. It’s a tool. The better question is:
What problem do you actually care about solving? What do you feel responsible for moving forward in the world?
Start there.
Find the intersection of your strengths, your curiosity, and the part of humanity you want to improve. Then ask: Where can AI meaningfully support that?
Let me give you two examples.
Example one:
A software engineer decides she needs to “get into AI.” She enrolls in a master’s program. Studies a bit of computer vision, some NLP, a bit of reinforcement learning. Graduates with a broad, general understanding. Applies to roles she’s not actually excited about. Six months in, she’s drained. A year in, she’s burned out. Eventually she takes a sabbatical to “figure herself out”, because she built a career on trend.
Example two:
Another engineer is deeply passionate about mindfulness and behavior change. She understands how habits shape lives. She sees how ML can detect patterns in user behavior, personalize interventions, surface blind spots. AI becomes a lever not the goal. Her work feels aligned. and meaningful.
Same technology. Completely different trajectory.
So here’s my recommendation:
Don’t study AI out of FOMO. Study AI because it amplifies a problem you genuinely care about solving. Because in the end, the question isn’t “How do I get into AI?” It’s “What am I here to build, and how can AI help me build it?”
When you start there, your career stops being reactive and becomes intentional.
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02/20/2026
Am I excited to share today that I’ve received my official Hudson Institute of Coaching Executive Coaching Certification..? No, I am not just excited, I am beyond ecstatic!!!
I’ve started this program back in May 2025, and what intended to be just a training to become a better coach, turned out into a journey of self discovery, a deeper inquiry into who I am beyond titles and achievements, and how I want to show up in this world for myself and others.
I will never forget my very first day in HCC1 in Santa Barbara. I drove from San Diego early in the morning to arrive promptly before our 8 am start. And when the long and exciting first day was over, I headed over to my Airbnb only to find out that I had left my luggage at home!
I spent two frantic hours piecing my life back together at a thrift store and Target. My roommate, Mary Davis, MBA, generously shared some of her essentials. And that night, once the panic settled, I finally sat down with myself and asked: What is the meaning of this?
And then this came through. I wasn’t meant to arrive with my usual armor. Or my well-curated identity. Or my mental and emotional baggage about who I thought I was as a coach. I was being invited, quite literally, to leave everything behind and to lead from behind.
That moment became the true beginning of my Hudson journey. From that point on, the program wasn’t about adding more techniques or polishing what I already knew. It was about unlearning. Slowing down. Learning to lead from behind. Trusting silence. Letting the coaching emerge through the relationship rather than forcing it through effort.
Hudson gave me something I didn’t even know how to name at the beginning: permission to coach from my whole body, not just my head. To listen beyond words. To be with what’s alive in the moment, without rushing to fix, rescue, or impress.
Looking back, forgetting my suitcase feels symbolic now. Hudson didn’t ask me to bring more. It asked me to arrive as I am, and let the coaching unfold from there.
Here is to what’s next!