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I made a discovery this week that I need to "restart" all of my horses. I'm going back to basics of literally standing s...
08/04/2026

I made a discovery this week that I need to "restart" all of my horses. I'm going back to basics of literally standing still calmly, following a soft feel, and some subtle weight shifting
I've been so preoccupied with lessons and getting forward movements, that I now have to revisit standing still and retrain it!

Well trained horses do not stay well trained without regular tune ups on the basics and resolidifying the foundation

AGREE OR DISAGREE? Too many riders train hard for their discipline and skip the fundamentals every horse should know. Share your thoughts in the comments below and give us some examples.

08/03/2026

One of the biggest challenges in teaching riding is helping students understand that the horse is not a piece of equipment waiting to be operated correctly. It is a living partner with its own responses, its own preferences, its own good days and difficult ones and that every single thing it does during a lesson is information worth paying attention to.

Most students come to riding with a task based mindset. Get the horse to trot. Make it go straight. Get it to stop. The horse either does the thing or it does not and if it does not something is wrong with the horse. That mindset produces riders who tune out the horse's feedback in pursuit of the outcome and horses that gradually stop offering feedback because nobody is listening anyway.

The shift that changes everything is moving from operating to communicating. It starts with the language we use at the rail. There is a meaningful difference between telling a student to make the horse trot and asking them to ask the horse to trot. "Make" sets up a pass or fail scenario. Ask opens up a conversation. If the horse does not respond to the ask, the question becomes what was unclear about that communication and how do we make it easier for the horse to understand... not what is wrong with this horse. That single shift in framing changes how a student thinks about every interaction they have with every horse they will ever ride.

Teach your students to read the response before they repeat the aid. A horse that pins its ears when asked to move forward is telling you something completely different from a horse that steps out willingly with ears relaxed and forward. A horse that rushes off at the lightest touch of the leg is having a different conversation than one that needs escalating pressure before it responds at all. These responses are not random. They are specific and they are worth reading before the next aid is given.

None of this requires a student to spend hours in the pasture observing horses although that would help. It requires them to be genuinely present and curious about the animal beneath them for the duration of whatever time they have. A rider who arrives at every lesson asking what kind of rider does this horse need me to be today rather than how do I get this horse to do what I need it to do is already a fundamentally different rider than one who never thought to ask the question.

Horses think. Horses feel. They communicate constantly and honestly through their bodies, their responses, and their behavior. Teaching riders to listen to that communication and to make it the foundation of everything they do in the saddle rather than an afterthought is one of the most important things an instructor can do. It produces riders who can build a genuine working partnership with any horse they sit on regardless of how much time they have with it.

The horse has been trying to tell us everything all along. We just have to teach our riders to listen.

How do you teach your riders to listen to their horse rather than just ride at it?

08/01/2026

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Shoutout to Lilli and Aubri for all the hard work they put in! They do a ton of extra work feeding, mucking, exercising,...
08/01/2026

Shoutout to Lilli and Aubri for all the hard work they put in!
They do a ton of extra work feeding, mucking, exercising, etc and it's so great watching their horsemanship grow ❤

Pics from last week washing and clipping to prepare for the horse show

07/31/2026
AI can't magically give you horse skills, you still have to actually go out and work at it!
07/31/2026

AI can't magically give you horse skills, you still have to actually go out and work at it!

Lately it feels like I see more people selling skills for Claude than for humans.

I hate the advice, “Get AI to do what you don't want to do".
It’s more like, “Get AI to do what you don't want to LEARN”.

If it's something you never wanted to learn (admin, low-lift stuff), it’s one thing.

But if it's something you actually want to be good at, and you're offloading it because it's hard, you have to have an honest conversation with yourself.

We like doing the things we're already good at.
We don’t like doing things that make us uncomfortable.
And it's uncomfortable because we’re not good at it yet.

For the monkey mind, the path of least resistance always wins.
Irony being the very thing that makes you most human compels you to use AI.

We want the rep without the lift. But learning and discomfort go together like "Ramma lamma lamma ka dinga da dinga d**g" (sorry, my mom made me watch "Grease" as a kid too many times).

Take this post for example.

I’ve been writing and rewriting it for over an hour now.
Trying to get the logic and flow to sizzle a little, so someone who isn't in my head can follow it.

It doesn't come naturally. I have to work at it.
But that’s the only way anyone’s ever gotten good at anything.

Illustration by me (a human 😊 )

By the way if you're new here, I'm PJ Milani |

I've made hundreds of visual metaphors like this as friendly reminders to live a more creative life.

I strive to be THIS kind of instructor, not just someone who yells commands!
07/29/2026

I strive to be THIS kind of instructor, not just someone who yells commands!

Almost anyone can advertise riding lessons. They can create a page, put a few horses into a program, set an hourly rate, and begin calling themselves a riding instructor. In much of the United States, there is no universal licensing system or mandatory qualification required before someone starts teaching.

That means professionalism cannot be judged by a title alone. It also cannot be judged solely by how many ribbons an instructor has won, how expensive the facility looks, or how advanced their best students are. The real difference often shows up in the ordinary decisions an instructor makes every day. Here are skills that separate a good riding instructor from a bad one:

1. They have a reason for what they are teaching. A professional lesson should not feel like 45 minutes of trotting around while the instructor occasionally calls out, “Heels down,” “Shorten your reins,” or “Use more leg.”

There should be a purpose behind the exercises. What skill is the student developing? Why was this particular exercise selected? What should improve by the end of the lesson? How does today’s work connect to what the rider learned last week? Horses, riders, weather, confidence, and unexpected circumstances can quickly require a change. However, there should still be intention behind the teaching because saying “Go around again” is not a lesson plan. A professional instructor watches the rider, identifies the most important problem, and chooses an exercise that helps address it.

2. They can explain an aid instead of merely naming it. Many riders have experienced an instructor repeatedly calling out something like, “Half halt! Half halt! Half halt!” Eventually, the rider works up the courage to ask, “How do I do that?” and the instructor should be able to answer. It is not enough to recognize that a half halt is needed. The instructor must be able to break the skill down into understandable parts. What should the rider do with their seat, leg, hand, and body? What response are they trying to create? What should the rider feel when it works?

The same applies to instructions such as “ride him forward”, “use your outside rein”, “sit deeper”, "get her round”, and "support the shoulder”. These phrases may make perfect sense to an experienced horseperson but they mean very little to a student who has never been taught how to produce the result. Professional instruction turns equestrian language into specific actions the student can understand and repeat.

3. They correct the cause, not just the visible mistake. A rider’s lower leg may be swinging, but repeatedly telling them to keep it still will likely not solve anything. Perhaps the stirrups are too long. Maybe the rider is pinching with the knee, bracing through the hip, tipping forward or trying to grip because they feel insecure. The moving leg is the symptom and it is the instructor’s job is to determine the cause.

The same principle applies when a horse cuts corners, falls through a shoulder, rushes toward a jump, ignores a downward transition, or struggles to maintain rhythm. A professional instructor does not simply announce everything that looks wrong. They decide which correction will create the greatest improvement and help the rider understand the connection. Students cannot process five unrelated corrections at once so more commentary does not always equal more teaching.

4. They know that progress is not measured only by speed or height. The horse industry often treats advancement as a race. When will the student canter? When will they start jumping? When will the jumps go higher? When will they lease or buy a horse? When will they compete?

A professional instructor understands that genuine progress may look much less dramatic. It may be a nervous rider learning to breathe instead of freeze. Maybe a student completing an accurate transition without pulling or a child learning to lead a horse safely. It may be an adult rider finally recognizing the correct diagonal without being reminded or it might be a student choosing to circle rather than continuing toward a jump from a dangerous approach.
These accomplishments may not produce impressive videos, but they create safer and more capable riders. Good instruction builds skills that last, it does not rush students through milestones to make the program appear successful.

5. They are willing to disappoint a client. Students may beg to jump higher, canter before they are secure, ride a more difficult horse, or participate in an activity they are not ready to handle. Parents may also compare their child with another student and question why someone else appears to be progressing faster but a professional instructor must learn to sometimes say no. Not because they are trying to hold a student back, but because they can see risks the student or parent may not understand. “I know you want to jump, but your position is not secure enough yet. We need to strengthen your foundation first.” That may not be the answer the client wants and the client may even leave for another program that promises faster progress. The instructor is still responsible for making the safest decision. Professional judgment means accepting that the correct answer will not always be the most profitable or popular one.

6. They do not use students as sales opportunities. Instructors are often involved in horse purchases, leases, saddle fittings, equipment recommendations, show arrangements, and other financial decisions. There is nothing wrong with being paid for professional assistance or receiving an appropriately disclosed commission. The problem begins when the instructor’s financial interest becomes more important than the student’s best interest. The horse an instructor owns is not automatically the perfect horse for the student. The saddle brand that offers the instructor a benefit is not automatically the best option for the horse. The most expensive solution is not always the correct one. Professional instructors should disclose conflicts of interest, recommend suitable options, and are willing to advise against a purchase even when they could profit from it. Trust is worth more than one commission.

7. They protect the lesson horses from the program. Lesson horses make instruction possible and as such they should not be treated as unlimited business equipment. A professional instructor pays attention to workload, soundness, fitness, weight, tack fit, behavior, recovery time, turnout, and mental fatigue.

They notice when a horse has carried too many unbalanced riders, needs an easier day, is becoming sour about a particular exercise, or is no longer appropriate for the job being asked of it. They also make honest horse and rider matches. A student may love a particular horse but that does not mean the pairing is safe or productive. The horse may be too strong, too sensitive, physically uncomfortable, or simply poorly suited to the rider’s current ability.

8. A good instructor respects goals that are different from their own. Not every student wants to show, jump, own a horse, ride several times a week, or become an advanced equestrian. Some people want a safe and enjoyable weekly lesson and some want to build confidence. Some are interested primarily in horse care. Others are perfectly happy riding at the walk and trot and those goals are still valid.

Professional instructors help students make appropriate progress toward what the student actually wants. They do not treat recreational riders as less valuable or pressure every family toward showing, leasing, or horse ownership. An instructor may choose to run a competitive program intended for ambitious riders, but that should be communicated honestly. Students whose goals do not match the program can then be referred elsewhere rather than repeatedly made to feel inadequate.

9. Great instructors teach students to function without them. A student who can only ride effectively while receiving continuous instructions has not yet become independent. Professional instructors gradually teach riders to observe, evaluate, and make decisions. They ask questions such as what did you feel in that transition? Why did the horse fall through the turn? Was that approach balanced? What could you change next time? This requires more than giving commands. It requires allowing students to think, make small mistakes, try solutions, and reflect on the results. The instructor’s goal should not be to remain the student’s external control system forever, it should be to develop a rider who can eventually recognize problems and respond appropriately.

10. They teach horsemanship beyond the mounted lesson. A student may be able to jump a course and still know very little about horses. Can they lead safely? Can they groom properly? Can they recognize obvious soreness, swelling, heat, or lameness? Do they understand basic horse behavior? Can they identify incorrectly fitted or twisted tack? Do they understand how their actions affect the horse? Professional instruction should produce more than riders who can perform exercises, it should develop responsible equestrians who understand that riding is only one part of horsemanship.

11. They run the program like a real business and professionalism should also be visible outside the arena. Clients should have clear information about pricing, payment, scheduling, cancellations, attire, weather policies, barn rules, and communication expectations. Policies should not change depending on which client complains the loudest. Messages should be answered within a reasonable timeframe. Schedule changes should be communicated promptly. Instructors should generally begin lessons on time and provide the service clients have paid to receive.

12. Boundaries matter too. An instructor can be warm, friendly, and supportive without being available around the clock. Clients do not need unrestricted access to an instructor’s personal phone and personal life. Clear boundaries protect the business and reduce the resentment that eventually leads to burnout.

13. Good instructors create the culture they expect everyone else to follow as barn culture does not develop by accident. If gossip, bullying, favoritism, disrespect, or constant conflict are allowed to continue, they become part of the program. Professional instructors address problems before they infect the entire barn. They establish expectations for how students, parents, employees, volunteers, and visitors treat one another. They do not participate in gossip and then complain that the barn is dramatic. They do not ignore cruel behavior because the difficult client pays a large bill. They understand that occasionally losing one disruptive client may be necessary to protect every other person in the program.

14. Good instructors continue examining their own work. Experience is valuable but years spent teaching do not automatically guarantee quality. An instructor can repeat the same ineffective habits for 20 years. Professionals continue taking lessons, attending clinics, learning from other instructors, studying horse welfare, improving their business practices, and reconsidering methods that are no longer working.

A good instructor can admit when they do not know something. They can also refer a student to another professional when the student’s goals or needs exceed their expertise. They do not interpret every question as disrespect or every new idea as criticism. Professionalism is not pretending to know everything but it is taking responsibility for continuing to learn.

Being a professional riding instructor is not about possessing the fanciest facility, producing the most show winners, or being the loudest person in the arena. It is reflected in how you teach, how you make decisions, how you treat your horses, how you manage your business, and what kind of equestrian your students eventually become.

07/28/2026

Oooo I like this demo, "reach" I usually call a 'soft feel' and "cue" is where we engage the bit

Saturday I showed two red mares and came out placing in 7 of 12 classes!Pepper (client training horse) won her halter cl...
07/27/2026

Saturday I showed two red mares and came out placing in 7 of 12 classes!

Pepper (client training horse) won her halter class and a walk trot class! She's still pretty green so most of her classes was more for exposure and experience, but I'm very proud of her despite some ups and downs throughout the day

Rosie won english pleasure, 4th in showmanship, and although we completely bombed the pattern in the equitation class, we placed 3rd (of 3 lmao). But she took very good care of my kiddo in leadline and barrels so she's still my ol trusty steed 🥰

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