BtoZ parenting

https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/the-sacred-life-of-a-mothers-mind

The Sacred Life of a Mother’s Mind Moms may feel like we can’t prioritize our own minds over the needs around us, but how we keep our minds will shape how we keep our homes.

HOW WE LOSE OUR KIDS
A small boy played quietly by the stream, watched silently by several men who hid in the cover of the dense jungle. As a leaf floated down the stream he bombarded it...

How We Lose Our Kids Originally posted December 2004. A small boy played quietly by the stream, watched silently by several men who hid in the cover of the dense jungle. As a leaf floated down the stream he bombarded...

Someone want to tell Canon? 😂 Stephen Curry

...And then there’s the nightly stuff: nursing, children falling out of bed, bathroom runs, dropped stuffed animals, and complaints of “I can’t sleep,” “I’m thirsty,” and “I’m scared.” We’ve even had them wake us up (“us” meaning “Kathleen”) just to say, “I love you.”...

http://www.btozparenting.com/blog/the-joy-of-parenting

This might be something your teens would get something out of. We've watched some Stephen Meyer DVDs in youth group, and although I don't agree with him on everything, he definitely shares some things that are super helpful.

Father/Son Book Review of Signature in the Cell, by Stephen Meyer - Pixels of Light Joel and his son discuss the book, Signature in the Cell, by Stephen C. Meyer. They talk through topics brought up by the author, including: Intelligent Des...

WHAT WERE YOU THINKING?

"...The same children who know more than me when it comes to English, music, history, and Scripture memory, are the same ones who can ride their bikes right into the neighbor’s mailbox. Or put a hole through the wall while wrestling over the door. Or bust out a window by trying to knock on it to scare another child..."

http://www.btozparenting.com/blog/what-were-you-thinking

Today I was thinking about the value of the verses we had our kids memorize and it reminded me of this thought from "Premeditated Parenting". I'm so glad we held to this philosophy as we raised our kids. It was one of the best things we did:

Worst Case Scenario

Sometimes when we see teens that are going through tough times it can be discouraging and we wonder if all our parenting efforts in the early years are really worth it. We’ve already looked at some reasons to believe that you can have a great deal of confidence in the fruit of your parenting. However, let’s take a look at it from a little bit of a different angle now. Suppose you could see into the future and you knew that when your child hit 15 he would rebel. This could take many different forms, but suppose you knew that your teen would do poorly in school, cheat on tests, participate in vandalism, swear profusely, not come home until four in the morning, if at all, and would refuse to go to church altogether. My guess is that we all know a teen or two that has gone through something like that—maybe a little better or maybe a little worse. I don’t expect our kids to rebel at that level, but I’ve seen it enough that it troubles me, and in my times of doubt I wonder if that could happen in my family. The question I have is this: If I knew that my kids would rebel at 15, what would I do differently now?
Another way to look at it is this: at that level of rebelliousness you’ve lost most of your input into your kid’s life. So I might ask myself: what would I want to pass on to my child to prepare him for life before I lose that place of influence?

I would want to make sure my child was educated enough to have a good paying job. I’d want him to be used to hard work so that he could handle the stress of the daily grind. If you can’t provide for yourself in life, it can be hard to dig yourself out of a hole. I’d also want him to know some other basic life skills, like financial management.

I’d want him to know the dangers of premarital s*x, drugs, and the abuse of alcohol.

If he knew at least 100 verses by heart, it would encourage me to know that God’s Word was continually available to guide and direct my child, and to chip away at his conscience. (Actually, I’d say 500 verses, but I don’t want to overwhelm you.) I’d also hope he would have a wealth of past sermons, Sunday school lessons, and teachings from his parents that the Holy Spirit could bring to his mind at the appropriate time.

I’d want him to know the principles that a man reaps what he sows, and if you sow the wind you reap the whirlwind. I’d want him to know that a good life is found when we pursue God’s will. If you sow good choices, you reap a good life.

It would be extremely important to me that he knew he was loved by his God, his parents, and his family. Although he could run from many things, I’d want that to always haunt him (in a sense) and to continually be a pull on his heart. I’d want him to know that, like they were for the prodigal son, forgiveness and restoration are always close at hand.

These are a few of the things that come to my mind. I’d want to do everything within my power to equip my child for his time of rebelliousness in hopes that it would be short-lived and not too destructive. That would take a large amount of energy and time, but in the end, hopefully, it would all be worthwhile to save my child.

Interestingly enough, when you think about it, that level of parenting is the same level I’d recommend to someone who wants to raise a champion for Christ. Even if I knew I was going to ‘lose’ my teenager, I’d still parent the same in the younger years. So maybe all this fear related to losing our children is just a distraction from the task at hand. I don’t know the future. I don’t know how my kids or your kids will turn out. I have certain hopes and expectations for the future, but those may be somewhat irrelevant. I do know for certain what God has called me to today, and I need to be faithful with that instead of frozen in the fear of the unknown.

Stay the course, Parent!

- Steve Nelson