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THE HEALING POWER OF THE SHAME STORY

For many living with addiction, shame is intimately entwined with patterns of substance use. Guilt is tied to what we do, whereas shame stems from a deeper place: Who we are. If we are ashamed of who we are, hiding and pretending we are something else can seem like our only options. Some seek relief from intense shame through substances, and for these individuals, unveiling the origins of shame can confront addiction at its roots.

Jeff Georgi, expert addiction counselor with over 40 years in clinical practice and author of “Beyond Shame: Healing the Pain Beneath the Surface of Addiction,” often employs an intervention to illuminate deeply-rooted shame he calls the “shame story.” In Jeff’s experience, we will often repeat the same narrative of shame in different facets of our lives until we address it. The shame story is an effort to help a client share a narrative around the first time they remember experiencing shame, with the goals of helping the client understand their shame more deeply, cope with it more effectively, and hold themselves with greater compassion.

Shame is part of everyone’s life to varying degrees, and knowing our unique shame story can render shame more familiar and less powerful. Through addressing shame at the root, we can understand it as a part of ourselves from the past that is hurting. Making shame known can open new avenues for self-compassion and healing.

Much like therapy itself, the shame story is not some casual dialogue. Rather, it is an animated expression of our hopes, fears, and vulnerabilities. Addressing shame can profoundly support recovery from addiction.

Have you ever heard a primary care physician refer to a raspy cough and sore throat as an “infection of choice,” or an oncologist discuss a “cancer of choice?” The answer is, hopefully, no. Yet the term “drug of choice” is commonly used in medical circles to specify substances associated with addiction.

In his recently published book, “Beyond Shame: Healing the Pain Beneath the Surface of Addiction,” Jeff Georgi approaches addiction as a disease, much like an infection or cancer, rather than a voluntary moral failing. Over four decades of working with people struggling with substance use disorders (SUDs), Jeff has never encountered anyone who claimed, “I woke up one morning and decided alcohol addiction seemed like a good way to spend my adult years.” Thus, people living with addiction deserve just as much compassion, treatment, and love as those facing any other illness.

In “Beyond Shame,” Jeff defines the disease of addiction as dysfunction within five key domains of life: Biological, Psychological, Social, Spiritual, and Experiential.

Biological Domain

On a biological level, individuals have varied responses to substances. For certain individuals, the sense of relief that alcohol provides can be so profound that it leads to unhealthy patterns of use and increases their vulnerability to developing an alcohol use disorder. Recognizing these biological differences is essential for understanding and effectively treating addiction.

Psychological Domain

Emotional wounds can foster feelings of shame, fueling behaviors that contribute to the development of addictive disorders. Addressing and healing these areas of pain and shame can be a transformative part of the recovery journey, strengthening one’s path toward lasting well-being.

Social Domain

As humans, social rejection and isolation are among the most painful experiences we can have, and some use substances to cope with loneliness and disconnection. Addiction is isolating in and of itself, which can exacerbate shame and trap people in negative cycles of loneliness, pain, and substance misuse. Social connection can serve as a powerful healing force navigating the path to recovery.

Spiritual Domain

Addiction robs people of the capacity to be fully present in their lives. Mindfulness and other spiritual practices can support recovery through revitalizing one’s innate sense of connectedness to themselves and others.

Experiential Domain

In response to emotional pain stemming from challenging life experiences, individuals often seek relief, sometimes turning to substances to cope with or escape discomfort and distress.

Ultimately, when considering addiction through the lens of the Biological, Psychological, Social, Spiritual, and Experiential Model (BPSSEM), the take-home message is this: Recovery goes beyond mere abstinence. It is a process that involves strengthening resilience across all five domains and transforming our relationship with substances that undermine our overall well-being.

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