Intimacy from the Inside Out

10/09/2026

Are you an IFS level 1 graduate? And looking to expand your couple therapist skills to include IFIO? - or, know someone? Come join Kim Bolling and Maya Hanelin for our hybrid training. The in person will take place at the Wylie Center in Beverly, MA. First module begins online February 5-7, 2027. Link is in the comments.

10/08/2026

📖 We have some wonderful news to share!

Toni Herbine-Blank, founder of Intimacy from the Inside Out™ (IFIO), has written a new book!

The Myth of Unlovability, published by Simon & Schuster, will be released on March 3, 2027, and has been selected as a lead self-help title for Spring 2027!

For more than two decades, Toni has worked with couples and individuals navigating the complexities of love and relationships. Again and again, beneath the ways we protect ourselves, she has encountered a deeply human fear: Maybe there is something about me that makes me unlovable.

Drawing on her work with Internal Family Systems (IFS), IFIO™, and her own life experiences, Toni explores why we sometimes do the very things that push love away, even when connection is what we most deeply desire.

The Myth of Unlovability offers a compassionate invitation to better understand ourselves, our protective patterns, and the possibilities for deeper connection with ourselves and others.

With a foreword by Richard C. Schwartz, PhD, founder of IFS and author of No Bad Parts, this book brings these insights to a much wider audience—both within and beyond the therapy community.

We couldn't be more excited to celebrate Toni and share this work with the world!

✨ Preorders are now available!

And there's an added opportunity! Target has included The Myth of Unlovability in its Buy 2, Get 1 Free books and music promotion, which includes preorders. If you're thinking of purchasing a copy for yourself or sharing it with friends, family, or colleagues, this is a wonderful time to order!

Preorder your copy today! Link in the comments.

Please join us in celebrating Toni and this exciting milestone!

09/17/2026

Attn IFIO Basic Graduates! This is the first of 3 advanced trainings in 2027. We have limited spots available for this 💥 popular training. Perfect way to spend a January weekend! Link in comments to apply. See you there!

08/20/2026

08/11/2026

IFIO is delighted to share with you 2 in person opportunities: an in person IFIO Basic Training in Austin, TX and an IFIO Retreat in San Juan Bautista, CA. Click link in comments to locate these experiences. We would love to see you!

06/02/2026

Join us for a sacred and special workshop on the impact of sexual harm. This is a first time workshop with a stellar host of facilitators. Click on link below ⬇️ and scroll down to the workshop to sign up. We look forward to seeing you 🪷

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Nancy Wonder

03/25/2026

An incredibly powerful opportunity to join Akilah on Thursday March 26. Copy and paste link or find 🔗 in our stories. https://go.therapywisdom.com/t?orid=204798&opid=185

02/27/2026

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Love, Autism, and ADHD is an immersive 5-day training designed to equip therapists with the knowledge and skills essential for supporting couples in mixed-neurotype relationships. Rooted in the foundational principles of Intimacy from the Inside Out, this training offers a deepened understanding of how neurobiological differences impact relational dynamics, while providing practical, compassionate interventions that foster connection and healing.

Participants will learn how to apply IFIO protocols through a neurodiversity-affirming lens, exploring how to support couples to find greater connection through the adapted use of unblending, affect regulation and courageous communication. Through a combination of didactic teaching, live demonstrations, and experiential practice, participants will leave this training with greater confidence and competence in working with the complexities of mixed-neurotype partnerships, equipped with concrete strategies that foster deeper connection, resilience, and relational growth.

02/27/2026

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Elevate your skills with our 3-day IFIO Advanced Training. Designed to focus on the artistry of the model, this training aims to solidify your understanding of IFIO theory and sharpen your practical skills through a review of the protocols, an exploration of the art and craft of the model, live demonstrations, and supervised practice. Participants will be invited to share their challenging cases for group consultation. In this training, we will revisit and deepen into the following protocols:

Tracking Sequences: Surfacing the protector dance and the Exiles that drive it
Courageous Communication: Fostering authentic and brave connection
Transitioning from one protocol to another: Integrating techniques for seamless practice

This three-day immersion will give you the skills to help your clients to transform their relationships from the inside out. Prior to the training, participants will complete a needs assessment to identify their areas of confidence as well as skills in need of further development.

02/10/2026

Is this the sign you’ve been looking for? Spending time with your parts? Come join us at the healing respite of Wind Horse Hill in Spicewood, TX (just outside of Austin). We have 1 SPOT left in this exclusive retreat mixed with couples and individuals. You do not need to be trained in IFS! Send a DM if you would like to learn more!