03/14/2026
❓What did our homeschool value that led to this moment?
We valued relationships over getting every worksheet done.
Did he finish what was necessary and get good grades? Yes! Did we stop whatever we were doing when his attitude, you know, left something to be desired? Absolutely.
We didn't do it every time, which would lead to him feeling like he was never good enough. Honestly, sometimes teenagers have no idea they are even being rude.😁 We did stop everything when he acted particularly abrasive, rude, critical, or disrespectful.
➡️The key was to come to him respectfully. Yes, even if he was not respectful to me. I'm the adult in this situation and if he wants to know how a respectful wise, kind adult acts, I'm going to need to be his example for that.
We also showed him the importance of certain relationships, for example, grandparents.
There were times we had to remind them what makes his particular grandparents interesting? We also want them to do things that they both enjoy together. For instance, when my son was a junior in high school he started singing with my dad. Sometimes my daughter and my mom or my mother-in-law really enjoy just talking together on the phone and so they will spend time doing that. A little, thoughtful, kind nudge has a big reward.
You have to remind your kids why it's important. What makes this special? Why you have to take the opportunity now and not wait.
Homeschooling gives us the opportunity to shape not just education, but character and relationships.
If you're trying to figure out how to build a homeschool that actually supports that, I help families walk through those decisions every day.
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