Misti Craig, CLC Coaching & Consulting

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🌿 Rebirth 🌿

As spring is rolling in we're seeing blossoming and the rebirth of our natural environments. The days are becoming longer and the sun is stronger. New life is emerging.

🌱 How is this time of year impactful in your life and your healing?

🌼 What small shifts are happening within you?

🪻 Are you intentionally shifting into this new season of rebirth and growth?

🌷 Where do you see, hear, or smell things that trigger joyful memories?

🌿 Take a moment today and consider what spring and Easter mean to you. Find a couple of small things that give you joy and happiness. Honor what this season means to you.

Setting boundaries is not about imposing demands but about fostering choice. When we clearly express our needs and wants, it's crucial to underscore the element of choice, ensuring our partners feel they're participating, not being coerced. This approach enhances mutual respect and understanding, leaving us feeling chosen rather than obliged. Emphasizing choice within boundaries cultivates a healthier, more engaged relationship dynamic. Source: The Connection Compass #regulation #love #recovery #healing #relationships

🌿 Invitation 🌿

🌿 You're invited to follow along on my page, to take what's useful for you. My intention is that it will move you towards personal agency and a healthier life. If you know someone who would benefit from the posts and prompts here, please share it with them.

🌿 I also offer a free weekly group in the Des Moines, Iowa Metro area. In this group we learn and discuss issues related to betrayal and abuse, how we're impacted, connect with others, and what we can do to empower ourselves towards the life we want.

🌿 I have individual appointments available where we can dig deeper into your personal safety, boundaries, and goals. These appointments are 90 minutes and are priced based on income and what you can afford.

🌿 I will meet with you and your partner to evaluate needs and find the appropriate resources towards healing your relationship.

🌿 I invite you to reach out to me on messenger to discuss what options would meet your needs.

Courage isn't always loud; sometimes it's found in the quiet moments of self-reflection. Admitting you need help takes strength. Don't let fear hold you back. 💭

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🦋 Reality 🦋

🦋 I believe that becoming grounded in reality is essential for healing from betrayal and abuse. As we are able to shift from what we thought we knew to what we know choices become clearer. It becomes more difficult to be manipulated and gaslit.

🦋 Reality is driven by facts rather than emotions. Oftentimes, we will consider emotions when making choices based in reality. Emotions become a factor, not a fact.

🖋️ Think of a time when you experienced gaslighting and manipulation. Write the facts and your feelings about it.

🦋 Do your options and potential choices become clearer?

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🥳 Celebrating 🥳

Many of us, myself included, are not always good at celebrating our healthy successes and accomplishments. We need to remind ourselves to do so, even when it's small. Providing a reward system for our growth will promote more growth.

⭐ These rewards don't have to be expensive or grandiose, they can be small and simple. It could be just taking a moment to acknowledge your success to yourself. Sometimes, I reward myself with a bubble bath.

⭐ There are also times that we can reward ourselves with something larger that will symbolize our hard work.

🖋️ I remember when I accomplished....

🖋️ 5 things I can do to reward myself are....

Today! Live at 5 (CST)!

⭐ March Giveaway ⭐

Book Choices for March! I'm working to get the completed packages together. We'll have a mug, a notebook, a pen, the book of your choice, and more! Like, follow, and tag a friend to be entered into the drawing!

Let me know in the comments which book you're interested in!

😵‍💫 Reflection of Who? 😵‍💫

When abuse and betrayal events occur the one who has been violated often carries shame around it. I call it internalized shame. It seems to be built into gender identity and culture. Internalized shame is painful and oftentimes hard to avoid.

When the actions of the other cause a response in us similar to:

🚩 "I'm such an idiot"
🚩 "Who knows about this"
🚩 "If I would have"
🚩 "If I looked like"
🚩 Avoiding people and places that you would normally want to see.

These red flags are clues that you're internalizing shame that isn't yours to carry.

It takes us out of our own reality, creates a situation where we devalue, and gaslight ourselves. It's as if we pick up the baton of our own abuse and run with it.

⭐ Notice when you are internalizing shame associated with others mistreatment of you.

⭐ Make an effort to reframe the statement that more properly reflects the truth.

⭐ If you're struggling with this find a trusted and caring friend or family member who is able to support you. Someone who values you and will help you deconstruct this shame.

🧐 Detective Work 🧐

There are so many terms for doing detective work in the discovery of betrayal. Some people call it rumination, pain shopping, safety seeking, codependency....the list is long and often pathological in definition.

I believe that it's a natural response to deception, safety seeking. I believe that it's part of the process towards becoming grounded in our reality. It can become an automated response to dishonesty, omission, and gaslighting from the other person.

⭐ I feel that knowing your why around detective work is far more important than if you're doing it or not. As you develop awareness around what's driving your need for safety you're going to become empowered to decide for yourself.

🖋️ Journaling Prompt 🖋️

I feel unsafe because...

🥺 It's not a big deal, everyone does it 🥺

It's a big deal and has heartbreaking consequences. It's been a couple of years since I've seen this information. I feel that it's valuable for all of us.

The great p**n experiment | Gary Wilson | TEDxGlasgow NOTE FROM TED: This talk contains several assertions that are not supported by academically respected studies in medicine and psychology. While some viewers ...