Learn Love Autism

Learn Love Autism BCBA/ ESDM/Autism Mom
Coaching parents of toddlers with autism or signs.

Connect, Play, & Co-Regulate
25 yrs|ESDM|Play Based ABA
FREE Confident Autism Parent👇

09/04/2026

What if “attention-seeking” isn’t always what you think, due to its name and society interpretation?

With my own son, his need for attention isn’t him being intentional to get a reaction or trying to bother me. I don’t say “he’s doing it for attention, ignore it”

Sometimes, it’s his best available way of communicating:

💬Hey, I think I need some co-regulation.”
💬“I want someone to play with me.”
💬I’m feeling overwhelmed and I need some help.”
💬I don’t know what to do with my body right now.”

He isn’t necessarily able to come up to me and say:

“Mom, my body feels bored and a little overwhelmed. Could you help me regulate, ?”

That takes a level of emotional awareness, regulation, and communication that he is still developing.

So sometimes, his way of communicating that need is…

being silly.
Getting in my space.
Making noises.
Throwing items
Climbing furniture
Spilling things
Actions I have Accidentally taught him that actually DO get me to come over there bc I can’t ignore

And that changes how I respond.

I don’t necessarily drop everything and immediately give him exactly what he’s asking for.

Instead, I might model the communication I want him to learn:

“Hey Mom, I need some help.”
“Mom, can you play with me?”
“Mom, I need you.”

Because I’m not just responding to the behavior.

I’m teaching him a more effective way to communicate the need underneath it.

And I want to be really clear:

This does NOT mean that every behavior has this component bc sometimes kids do want your reaction

Some kids absolutely learn that certain behaviors produce a reaction. Some seek a chase. Some are looking for a big response, a laugh, a look, or attention.

And if that’s what’s happening?

We can work on that too.

The point isn’t to assume:

“Every behavior means they need connection.” The point is to pause and ask:

“What might this behavior be telling me?”

“What is my child able to communicate right now?”

“And what skill can I teach them to communicate that need more effectively?”

And that distinction can completely change how we respond.

08/30/2026

I may not care about a home being very clean or organized, but if there is one thing I notice first when I walk into a home is how an autistic brain needs their learning space to be, so they can actually learn.

I won’t ask you to be perfect, I won’t shame you for a messy house,I’ll empathize with you, I’ll tell you how messy I am and it’s so hard!

But I’ll encourage you to understand how your home environment is probably the biggest support for learning communication and play and decreasing behaviors In Your child.

Your learning environment is key, the materials, the furniture, the placement, the use of preferred toys out and about and same the use of preferred toys put away so they can’t see, the use of visuals, the use of specific toys you need!

Your child’s brain is different so you have to set your stage a bit differently for them to learn,

I teach you this and so much more, inside a community that’s only $17 a month. Entrance is free, upgrade to learn more.
Comment “path” I’ll send to you.

08/26/2026

Wild. You need nothing but 15 minutes and some engaging activities to start teaching your child today.

You need a diagnosis, a referral, an insurance approval, and a six month wait to sit in somebody else’s therapy room. I am not against the therapy room.

I have worked inside it for 25 years and I will help you fight to get in.

I am against the idea that nothing counts until you are inside it.

Those months on the list are not dead time. They are the months his brain is changing fastest.

Comment PATH and I will send you the free room so those months do something.

The doctors forget to tell you that YOU, you are your child’s most important intervention, As a busy working mom, I didn...
04/11/2026

The doctors forget to tell you that YOU, you are your child’s most important intervention,

As a busy working mom, I didn’t think I had enough time to make a difference, I didnt have the energy, I didn’t have the motivation somedays.

Soon I realized I had 15 min

When I began to use my 15 minute method,everything change. Not only for my son, but for me.

In My own home. 15 min turned to 30/45/ 1 hour and before I knew it, our days were full of intentional routines that were supporting regulation and teaching skills

Comment “engage ” and I’ll send you my $17 Golden 15 play plan- your step by step games and skills to target in a a 15 min play routine!! ✨✨

04/11/2026

I got called into a school today to help with a boy

They described him as not wanting to do work, not really interested in any thing or anyone.

So I joined him exactly where he was at,
On the floor with a balloon filled with floss fidget…. And I stretched it…. And let go…

He laughed at me, he looked at med and that’s exactly how it started.

I then used my strategies to keep the game going, keep him connected to meX shaping gestures, shaping language, using my tone and presence to modulate his attention to me.

Within 30 seconds of engagement we had a 15-minute back and forth interaction that moved to a peer and then outside the classroom with 3 other boys.

He said two words he had never said to anyone in that building, “Get me” and he continued the script of the game.

Once a child feels safe with you, the work comes. It always comes. But you cannot skip this part. You cannot drill your way to a relationship.

Connection first. Always.

Comment ENHANCE and I’ll send you the exact steps I used with him.

I got called into a school today to help with a boyThey described him as not wanting to do work, not really interested i...
04/10/2026

I got called into a school today to help with a boy

They described him as not wanting to do work, not really interested in any thing or anyone.

So I joined him exactly where he was at,
On the floor with a balloon filled with floss fidget…. And I stretched it…. And let go…

He laughed at me, he looked at med and that’s exactly how it started.

I then used my strategies to keep the game going, keep him connected to meX shaping gestures, shaping language, using my tone and presence to modulate his attention to me.

Within 30 seconds of engagement we had a 15-minute back and forth interaction that moved to a peer and then outside the classroom with 3 other boys.

He said two words he had never said to anyone in that building, Get me and he continued the script of the game.

Once a child feels safe with you, the work comes. It always comes. But you cannot skip this part. You cannot drill your way to a relationship.

Connection first. Always.

Comment ENHANCE and I’ll send you the exact steps I used with him.

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