Birth Hypnosis by Soulica

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Bell hooks spent her life studying how society molds children into unequal roles long before they
understand what those roles mean. Her line, “Stop raising girls to be liked and boys to be
excused,” cuts straight to a pattern that repeats in homes, classrooms, and communities
everywhere.
Girls are encouraged to be polite, patient, agreeable, and pleasing. They are told not to
interrupt, not to question, and not to make others uncomfortable. Their worth becomes tied to
how gently they exist. Boys, meanwhile, are often taught that misbehavior is natural, that
impulsiveness is expected, and that their mistakes are part of growing up. The result is a system
where girls are disciplined for wanting respect and boys are forgiven before they learn
accountability.
hooks understood the long-term cost of this imbalance. A girl who learns that being liked is her
priority grows into a woman who apologizes for taking up space. A boy who learns that he is
excused grows into a man who struggles to recognize the impact of his actions. Both are
harmed by the lesson, but only one pays the price openly.
Her words demand a different path. Raise girls to be brave, not palatable. Raise boys to be
responsible, not indulged. Replace approval with empowerment. Replace excuses with
accountability. The shift begins in the small moments — the way we correct a child, the freedom
we give them, the expectations we place on their shoulders.
hooks named a cycle many people inherited without question. Breaking it requires intention. It
requires seeing children not as roles to fill but as people capable of growth, compassion, and
integrity.
Her message remains a blueprint for healthier generations. Change the expectations, and you
change the future.

In Navajo culture, laughter is seen as a powerful symbol of connection. The moment a baby laughs for the first time, it is believed they are choosing to join the human community. Until then, the baby is viewed as still being in transition between the spiritual and physical worlds.
This tradition, known as the A’wee Chi’deedloh ceremony, is typically observed around three months of age. Family members pay close attention during this period, eager to be the one who makes the child laugh. Whoever succeeds earns the honor of hosting the celebration, often preparing a meal of salted food and gifts to mark the occasion.
The ceremony not only celebrates the baby’s first expression of joy, but also emphasizes generosity and community. Salt is symbolically offered to guests to encourage the child to grow up to be generous and kind. It’s one of the earliest social teachings given to a Navajo child—using joy as a path toward belonging and humanity.

A mother and child are bound together in ways that go far beyond what we can see. Even after birth, fragments of the baby’s DNA remain within the mother’s body—flowing in her bloodstream, settling in her brain, and living as a quiet reminder of their eternal bond. This extraordinary connection, known as fetal-maternal chimerism, means that a piece of her child stays with her always, shaping her in ways both seen and unseen. It is nature’s way of making sure that the love between mother and child is not just emotional, but also written into their very biology. A love that transcends time, distance, and even words—an unbreakable bond, always and forever.

“So I listened up when the psychologist Jonathan Haidt, the author of The Anxious Generation, told me during a recent interview that there’s one tech rule he “really” regrets not following with his kids: no screens in the bedroom, ever. Immediately, I was drawn to the simplicity. There were no apps to download, no timers to set, nothing to buy. And I was comforted by how widely endorsed the guidance is. The psychologist Lisa Damour, who specializes in adolescent development, has told parents that if they implement only one tech rule, this should be it. Michael Rich, a pediatrician and the founder of Boston Children’s Hospital’s Digital Wellness Lab, told me that he “strongly” recommends the same. It seemed like a holy grail—the rule to follow if you can follow only one rule.”

A Tech Rule That Will ‘Future-Proof’ Your Kids No screens in the bedroom. Ever.