One With You Relationship Coaching, LLC

09/23/2026

09/13/2026

Sometimes keeping the peace in your marriage means staying quiet.

09/12/2026

Winning a argument while losing your spouse is the worst victory.

09/04/2026

MARRIED MONEY

When you got married, did your income get married also? Many spouse’s in marriages do not have access to their spouse’s income and they do not know what their spouse’s are making monthly. Is that you?

When you get married everything about you gets married also. It’s not about what’s his is mine and what’s mine is mine and it’s not about the husband paying all the bills and the wife keeps her money without helping the husband maintain the household and vice versa. They are in the marriage together.

If you haven’t checked in while, check and see if your money is married…

08/28/2026

Create a culture in your marriage where you are not just hearing naturally, but you are listening intentionally.

08/27/2026

ARE YOU IN A ROOFTOP RELATIONSHIP?

Research indicates that roughly 25% (or 1 in 4) of Christian marriages experience some form of domestic abuse or intimate partner violence, mirroring or closely tracking general population statistics. Studies show that abuse inside religious communities frequently involves emotional, spiritual, and physical harm.

So every Sunday and Wednesday while couples are worshipping together in Church some of these same couples are at home experiencing domestic violence.

While the Bible does not give us a specific scripture to divorce our spouse because of domestic violence, it does give us wisdom if we are experiencing domestic violence in our marriages. Listen to what Proverbs 21:9 has to say.

Proverbs 21:9 It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.

The writer basically tells us that it is better for a man to live on the corner of the housetop exposed to the sun, wind and rain and live in peace, than to cohabit in a house with a contentious woman, that is ever brawling.

This Scripture puts a twist on today’s narrative where it is usually the woman getting abused by the man. This scripture is so true because I have had a few friends who have divorced their wives because their wives were fighting them.

As I close, let me give you a few practical points that you can apply to your marriage.

1. Never allow the love and admiration that you have for your spouse to turn to anger and violence during conflicting communication. Read James 1:20.

2. Never allow the enemy to use you to hurt who you are sent to help. Read Genesis 2:18.

3. Know when to stay and to know when to walk away. Read 1 Corinthians 10:13.

The Lord wants us to live above conflict in our homes that can produce domestic violence. If you are experiencing domestic violence call someone so you can get some help.

Domestic violence hotline number is
1-800-799-7233

Have a great day and week. 😃

08/26/2026

Never make permanent decisions during temporary emotions.

08/23/2026

A strong house isn’t determined by whether storms come—it is determined by what foundation the house is built upon.

Is your home and marriage built upon Jesus Christ?

Matthew 7:24-27

08/21/2026

THE BLAME GAME

Accountability and responsibility are very important parts of marriage. Whatever you are accountable for, you should be responsible for.

Accountability and responsibility says "I can admit when I'm wrong." It also does not blame other's for it's mistakes.

The moment you start to blame your spouse for your mistakes is evidence of sin in your life. The best thing to do is to repent and accept responsibility. Then the Lord and your spouse can cover you.

Don't play the blame game because nobody wins. Be true to your spouse and to yourself.

Genesis 3:12 And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.

08/19/2026

The tone of your voice

In your marriage communication a small thing like the tone of your voice when you respond to your spouse makes a big difference. It makes the difference between turning away wrath and stirring up anger.

So it’s not just about what we say to our spouses, but how we say it. The tone of your voice always makes a difference in communication.

In future, whether you are communicating in person, on a cell phone call or texting always check your tone. It can make the difference between walking in agreement and conflict.

Have a great day. 😃

Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.