Debra Kiva, Certified Grief Educator/Support/Grief Movement Guide

Debra Kiva, Certified Grief Educator/Support/Grief Movement Guide Certified Grief Movement Guide

A Certified Grief Educator and Coach who is committed to providing the highest level of grief support through education, experience, and insights into the often unacknowledged rocky terrain of grief.

08/31/2026
07/09/2026

Untranslatable

The language of grief is silence.
—Maggie Anderson, “What Grief Does”

No one can translate the language of grief.
No verbs properly express how it collapses
past, present and future into a single tense
in which all becomes unswimmable wave
and at the same time immovable stone.
No way to explain how in my grief lexicon
the word cello can only be spoken in sob.
How the single word shadow is somehow
an entire prayer, equal parts praise and lament.
How there are as many translations for loss
as there are losses, and each phrase mutates
into infinite local dialects spoken fluently only
by the individual who grieves. So perhaps
it is true, the language of grief is silence—
a mother tongue we are all gifted from birth.
Though sometimes the language of grief is wail.
Sometimes sniffle. Howl. Murmur. Hum.
So different, this language, for everyone.
And every moment, a new nuance unfolds.
It’s a wonder we understand each other at all.
Except we do. We share it, this language
we can’t possibly translate and yet we know its
expressions by heart. For this, we offer each other
our ears, knowing full well we can never
wholly understand, knowing full well it matters
that we listen anyway to gurgle, moan, silence, cry.


—Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer

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