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Wear purple this Wednesday to show your support and bring awareness to Domestic Violence!

At One Love💙, they believe two things:

▪️No one is perfect. Everyone does unhealthy things sometimes.

▪️Healthy love is a skill.

With so little education on relationships during our early years, it’s hard to know what a healthy relationship looks like. Yet we’ve all had experiences that forced us to rethink 🤔and improve the way we were being treated or treating someone else in a relationship.

👉When was the last time you worked on your healthy love skills?

11 Common Signs of Verbal Abuse:

1. Name Calling.
2. Sarcasm.
3. Manipulation.
4. Criticism.
5. Demeaning Comments.
6. Threats.
7. Blame.
8. Accusations.
9. Withholding.
10. Gaslighting.
11. Circular Arguments.

Verbal abuse happens out of nowhere in a relationship. It’s a lot more calculating and insidious, causing people on the receiving end to question themselves, wonder if they are overreacting, or even blame themselves. Verbal abuse usually happens in private where no one else can intervene and eventually becomes a regular form of communication within a relationship. For people experiencing it, verbal abuse is often isolating since it chips away at your self-esteem making it more difficult to reach out to a friend.

If you would like more information on how to leave an unhealthy relationship, please check the link in our bio for our Campus Title IX Office or call the National Domestic Violence hotline at 1-800-799-7233 to get advice.

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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. To help bring awareness to this issue, the It’s On Us Action Team partnered with Facilities, Operatiins and Services to install purple lights in front of the the Cortland entrance signage on campus. Pictured below is the 281 entrance.

Domestic and relationship violence can affect anyone. The pandemic has forced many people to live in varying levels of isolation, making it more important than ever to bring awareness to the issue.

If you or someone you know has been affected by domestic or relationship violence, resources and support are available. Please do not hesistste to contact the Title IX coordinator, Maggie Wetter, if you would like to discuss options.

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Today is National Day of Silence.

Established in 1996, it has become the largest single student-led action towards creating safer schools for all, regardless of s*xual orientation, gender identity or gender expression. Day of Silence brings attention to the silence faced by LGBTQIA people and their allies caused by bullying, name-calling and harassment. Day of Silence believes that ending the silence is the first step toward building awareness and making a commitment to address these injustices. Think about the voices you ARE NOT hearing today.

If you don’t feel you can participate in a full day of silence, can you pledge to be silent for just 1 hour on today? Try ceasing all communication, including electronic! Not only will you help raise awareness, you may get a glimpse into the “silence” that many LGBTQIA people experience in their communities, middle schools, high schools, colleges and universities.

Your deliberate silence echoes the silence caused by subtle homophobia and blatant anti-LGBTQIA bullying, name-calling and harassment. Thank you for being an ally!

Join us tonight, beginning at 7:40 p.m. via Zoom for a moment of silence in honor of those impacted by s*xual violence.
Zoom info below:
Topic: Take Back The Night 2020
Time: Apr 23, 2020 07:40 PM Eastern Time (US and Canada)
https://zoom.us/j/95995673365
Meeting ID: 959 9567 3365

Sexual violence often occurs at greater rates among our unrepresented populations and often these individuals have a harder time accessing support and resources. We must do a better job supporting ALL individuals impacted by s*xual violence!

Consent is something that you must continuously work on with your partner(s). Asking for consent may differ from person-to-person or even day-to-day. So be sure to communicate and ask! Remember, assuming is not consent.

The most common question asked about domestic violence is, "Why would anyone stay with someone who beats them?". If you every wondered this, listen to this Ted Talk by Leslie Morgan Steiner who does a fantastic job answering this question.
Caution: this video may not be suitable for all audiences.

Why domestic violence victims don't leave Leslie Morgan Steiner was in "crazy love" -- that is, madly in love with a man who routinely abused her and threatened her life. Steiner tells the story of her relationship, correcting misconceptions many people hold about victims of domestic violence, and explaining how we can all help break the si...