10/21/2022
“The ability to communicate effectively is perhaps the single most important skill a person can develop.” "The level in communication any individual might achieve is directly related to the quality of communication the child is exposed to in early childhood.” These quotes are from the book, The Great Disconnect in Early Childhood Education: What We Know vs. What We Do, by Michael Gramling (2015).
Communication heard during a three-year-old’s recent visit to grandma’s house: Grandma (Mimi) and Papa were taking care of their 3-year-old grandson who verbalized the following in Papa’s workshop.
Grandson: “Mimi, don’t talk, Papa and me are working.” “Don’t laugh, this is serious, you need to pay attention.” “Mimi, stop, you are distracting my concentration.”
What a plethora of words coming from a three-year-old. How did he learn all of these words? How did he know to use them in the correct way? How do we get other children to use vocabulary like this?
The answer is simple. Talk to your children. Have everyday, ordinary conversations. Some people believe that you must instruct children in language. You have heard this before when a parent “instructs” the child instead of conversing with the child. It might sound something like this, “That is a deer.” “Can you say deer?” “A deer lives in the forest.” This child has been instructed in one noun, deer. There is no need to be in instructional mode. If the parent had simply talked with the child about a deer, the child would have heard thousands of words during the conversation.
Just like the story above, children will pick up many words used in everyday conversation and will begin to use them in their own talk. So, remember something my mother use to say, “Little ears are always listening.”