07/17/2026
In this recent article from Real Simple, Saybrook University professor Alfonso Ferguson, Ph.D., explains that what one person sees as a “green flag” is shaped by their own values, experiences, and relationship history. Instead of looking for someone who checks every box, he encourages people to focus on qualities that foster trust, respect, and genuine connection.
“Green flag” checklists are everywhere on dating apps and TikTok, but some therapists say they oversimplify what a healthy relationship actually looks like. Here’s what to look for instead.