Amy Kotha, Life & Parent Coach

If you’re already bracing yourself for holiday comments, side-eyes, or “advice”… you’re not alone!⁣
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PDA families get hit with extra pressure this time of year:⁣
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❄️ overstimulation⁣
❄️ routines disrupted⁣
❄️ social expectations⁣
❄️ family judgment⁣
❄️ “good mom” pressure⁣
❄️ nervous systems in full survival mode⁣
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So Maya and I decided to bust a few myths - because NONE of this is about “behavior,” “attitude,” or “willpower.”⁣
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It’s the nervous system.⁣
Every. Single. Time.⁣
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And when your child’s nervous system is overwhelmed?⁣
Yours gets overwhelmed too.⁣
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That doesn’t make you a bad parent - it makes you a human one.⁣
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If you want these holidays to feel less like crisis-management and more like connection,⁣
✨ join me on 𝗗𝗲𝗰 𝟱 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝘆 𝗙𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗡𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗦𝘆𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗺 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸𝘀𝗵𝗼𝗽:⁣
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Friday, 12/5 @ 12 pm ET | $25⁣
Recording will be available ⁣
40-page ebook + completion certificate included!⁣
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We’re going to unpack WHY things get so hard this time of year and WHAT actually helps — for your child and for you.⁣
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🔗 link in bio!!⁣
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You don’t have to white-knuckle your way through this season.💙⁣
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Many parents of PDA kids tell me they feel blindsided by their child’s reactions - the intensity, the suddenness, the bigness of it all.⁣
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But here’s the truth:⁣
𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗼𝗿𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻’𝘁 𝗿𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗼𝗺, 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹, 𝗼𝗿 “𝗯𝗮𝗱.”⁣
They’re 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝘀𝘆𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗺 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗲𝘀 from a child who feels overwhelmed, unsafe, or out of control in that moment.⁣
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When you can see the 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘦 under the behavior, everything changes - for them and for you.⁣
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That’s why I created 𝗦𝗢𝗢𝗧𝗛𝗘, my framework for helping PDA parents understand: ⁣
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✨ how to respond without losing themselves.⁣
✨ how to rebuild connection after the storm⁣
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If you want to go deeper into supporting your child’s nervous system:⁣
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✨ 𝗗𝗲𝗰 𝟱: 𝗙𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗡𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗦𝘆𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗺 ($25 Workshop)⁣
A gentle, practical introduction to state shifts, co-regulation, and why your PDA child reacts the way they do.⁣
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✨ 𝗝𝗮𝗻𝘂𝗮𝗿𝘆 𝟭𝟮, 𝟮𝟬𝟮𝟲 - 𝟭𝟮-𝗪𝗲𝗲𝗸 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗺: 𝗥𝗮𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗞𝗶𝗱𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗕𝗶𝗴, 𝗕𝗮𝗳𝗳𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗕𝗲𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗼𝗿𝘀: 𝗔 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗖𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲⁣
Based on Robyn Gobbel’s brilliant model, adapted by me for PDA families who need a different approach - one centered on autonomy, safety, and connection.⁣
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Your child’s behaviors are protective.⁣
Your response can be, too. ⁣
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➡️ Want to understand your child’s nervous system? ⁣
The Dec 5 workshop is the best place to start. Drop a 💛 and I’ll DM the details!⁣
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𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱’𝘀 𝗻𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝘀𝘆𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗺 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗶𝗱𝗮𝘆𝘀.⁣
And honestly? Neither does yours.⁣
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December is a sensory + emotional pressure-cooker for PDA families:⁣
🎄 disrupted routines⁣
🎄 family expectations⁣
🎄 more demands⁣
🎄 more social pressure⁣
🎄 more noise, smells, and stimulation⁣
🎄 more unpredictability⁣
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So if you’re seeing more meltdowns, shutdowns, avoidance, rigidity, or emotional volatility starting even now…⁣
you’re not doing anything wrong!⁣
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This is the 𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘰𝘶𝘴 𝘴𝘺𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘮 𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳 𝘩𝘪𝘨𝘩 𝘭𝘰𝘢𝘥. 💥⁣
Not misbehavior. Not defiance. Not bad parenting.⁣
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If you want to understand the REAL patterns underneath your child’s reactions - and learn what you can do to support both their system and yours - join me for my 𝗗𝗲𝗰𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿 𝟱𝘁𝗵 “𝗙𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗢𝗻 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗡𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗦𝘆𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗺” 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸𝘀𝗵𝗼𝗽.⁣
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𝗧𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗣𝗗𝗔 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝘀.⁣
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➡️ Link in bio!⁣
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Big truths land in the body long before they land in the mind.

If you’ve ever felt nervous sharing adoption, trauma, or diagnostic info with your child… your nervous system feels it too. It makes so much sense!

🎧 The full episode is out today.

And if this resonates, you’ll love my Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior workshop (created by Robyn Gobbel) - where we go deeper into why safety drives everything, including conversations like this.

Save your spot through the link in my bio!