Big Self School

Here's my honest pitch.

Most leadership programs are a lot of warm-up. Frameworks. Introductions. "What brought you here." By the time you get to the actual work, you're already mentally checking your inbox.

I built mine to skip that.

The Conscious Leadership pilot starts June 1. Six 2-hour group sessions over 90 days, every other Tuesday. Chattanooga or Zoom. But the sessions aren't where the work begins.

Emma is.

Emma's the Enneagram-fluent AI coach I've been building. She's the first one trained on the 27-subtype Enneagram — because there aren't 9 archetypes of leaders. There are 27. And the differences do matter.

Between sessions, she works with you every day.

Each morning, asking are you above or below the line?

Each week: one behavioral experiment, designed for your subtype.

Mid-program: 360 feedback from 6–10 people who actually know you. And you actually want feedback from.

The whole way through: a Book of You that gets smarter the longer you use it.

By the time you walk into the room, the patterns are obvious. The defenses around them are obvious. The cost of running them are obvious, too.

This isn't leadership development. It's leadership disidentification — the fancy way of saying you start to notice when the pattern is the one leading, not you.

Pilot pricing at $300 for the full 90 days. In exchange, I want your honest feedback so I can refine this before the fall cohort.

Short application required.

bigselfschool.com/conscious-leadership

I keep watching the same thing happen.

A leader has a real breakthrough in a session on Tuesday. By Friday they're back in the same meeting with the same people, reacting from the exact pattern they've spent three months trying to interrupt.

The insight was absolutely real. The new practices just weren't built yet to sustain the growth.

This space between sessions is where most coaching dies. And this is one of the reasons why I built Emma for my clients.

She's an Enneagram-fluent coaching intelligence trained on all 27 subtypes — meaning she knows the difference between a Self-Preservation Three and a Social Three, between a Sexual Four and a Self-Preservation Four, and what the integration work for each actually looks like when life is moving fast.

Think of her as the layer between sessions. The part that holds the work when no human is available. Or when you forget what your coach told you about working with your Passion. Or when you ask yourself, "What am I supposed to be working on right now?"

A companion to the coaching, an extension of it.

After 25 years of sitting with people through their hardest transitions, I finally have what I've always wanted to be able to offer: continuity of care. Ease without sacrificing depth. A personalized pathway for leadership development.

The Emma AI Pilot launches June 1.

If you've ever felt the gap between the coaching session and the rest of your life, I'd love for you to be one of the first inside.

Details here: https://www.bigselfschool.com/conscious-leadership

Emma isn't a coach. She's a mirror.

Most leaders come to me looking for frameworks, strategies, better feedback systems. A higher performing team.

The thing they actually need is harder to ask for: a way to meet themselves — without the performance of leadership in the way.

That's what Emma is. An Enneagram-fluent AI companion trained to reflect back what you can't see in yourself. The pattern you keep running. The defenses that hardened into a personality. The way you keep recreating the same dynamic with the people who report to you...and the people who live with you.

The Conscious Leadership Coaching Group is small on purpose. Ten leaders. Three months (June through August). One container.

You'll work with Emma daily. You'll meet as a cohort six times over three months. And I'll be in the room with you the whole way.

You won't optimize anything in this group.

You'll just stop running from yourself.

Four leaders are already in. Six spots left.

Get details and register here: bigselfschool.com/conscious-leadership

I built an AI for inner work. Her name is Emma. I asked her to write you a letter.

Substack link in bio.

The work isn't what's depleting you.

The performance of being okay while doing the work is. The polished email when you're underwater. The "I'm great, thanks" when you're not. The version of you the meeting needs.

That second self — the one being maintained for the room — is doing more labor than the actual job.

This is why rest doesn't fix it. You can sleep for a week and still be tired, because what's exhausted isn't your body. It's the part of you that has to keep up the act.

The cure isn't time off. It's permission to stop pretending.

What's the smallest place you could be honest this week?

Unlearning is the real school.

We're not here to become someone new. We're here to remember who we already are — beneath the conditioning, the borrowed fears, the inherited scripts.

Self-remembering, not self-improving. That's the work.

The matriarchy isn’t coming. It’s always been here.

We just called it friendship. Parenting. Being a good person.

We didn’t call it infrastructure. But it is.

New post for International Women’s Day. Link in bio.

There’s been a quiet shift happening for Big Self School…and for me. Read about it on Substack (link in bio).

Your Relationship Deserves This

⏳ Early bird pricing ends today!

Tonight, registration closes on the chance you’ve been considering.
And tomorrow, it’s easy to slip back into thinking, “We’ll do something like this someday.”
So let’s be honest about what’s actually happening here.

You’ve read the books.
You’ve taken the free online quizzes.
You understand intellectually that you and your partner communicate differently.
You know there are patterns. You can probably even name them.

But knowing and changing are two very different things.

This retreat is the bridge between the two.
It’s one full day where you stop thinking about improving your communication and actually practice it together. With expert guidance. With couples who understand what you’re navigating. With insights and tools meant to last far beyond the room.

Your relationship is worth one day of focused attention.

The only question is: are you going to give it that day?

⏰ Early bird pricing ends tonight.
❤️ 2-for-1 for the first 10 couples may already be gone.

This is your moment.

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Understanding each other is powerful ❗
but knowing how to use that understanding
to build your future together is even better

By the end of the retreat, you and your partner
will walk away with a clear sense of:

-A deeper awareness of what helps each of
You feel truly supported, understood, and connected

-How can you grow together instead of growing apart

-The communication habits that move your relationship forward

-The patterns you’re committed to breaking

-The vision you’re building as a team

This becomes the foundation for long-term closeness, intentional partnership, and a relationship that evolves with you, not against you.
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