12/27/2025
Facts.
Emotional maturity is the ability to hold space for someone else’s feelings without being triggered, (getting offended, angry, sad). It means listening with presence instead of defensiveness, and remembering that 9/10 times, it’s not personal - it’s simply their inner world asking to be seen. It’s one of the most meaningful gifts you can offer another human.
Some phrases that can help:
“I’m here to listen — tell me what’s going on.”
“Your feelings do matter.”
“Thanks for trusting me with this.”
“I can see this is really important to you.”
“What are you feeling right now?”
“I hear you.”
“Your experience is valid, even if it’s different from mine.”
“What do you need in this moment?”
Drop a 💗 if any of these resonate…
12/27/2025
People often say “but we need obedience at times!” Hear me out… I know not everyone will believe this… it’s so far from what we have been taught BUT… when we lead with understanding, if “obedience” is necessary, we will be able to collaborate towards that goal, more easily. So what I’m saying is, if we take the time to understand what our child’s need is, we likely won’t need obedience because we’ll be able to collaborate towards a common goal. But that goal cannot be one-sided. We can’t just listen and then go-ahead and push our agenda (sometimes we have to) but when you do insist on obedience without understanding and collaboration, you will likely receive push-back because they know they are worthy of more. When obedience is expected without understanding or collaboration, respect and connection is lost, not gained.
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12/27/2025
These are fantastic vocabulary words for kids as well - push that language in so you can pull that language out.
What do animals do in the winter? How do they survive the cold weather? Are bears the only animals that hibernate? Wait -- do bears not actually hibernate?
Animal adaptations are fascinating!
Did any of these surprise you?
12/27/2025
The Pleasure of Being Left Alone
“An exquisite peace obtains: a drowsy, golden peace, flowing honey-sweet over my dwelling, soaking it, dripping like music from the walls… A peace for gods; a divine emptiness.”
12/27/2025
And an important reminder - do not try to pet or feed them - period. 😁
From epic migrations to season-shifting hooves, reindeer/caribou are built for life in some of the harshest places on Earth. These fun facts explore how they survive the Arctic cold—and why they’re one of the most remarkable mammals in the North.
01/12/2025
Seeing Setting Limits as an act of caring and connection can shift the way we think about them.
Children have such wonderful self-preservation instincts. From the start, they inherently know what they need and when, they just sometimes struggle to communicate or understand those needs.
Being able to view "off-track" behavior as a "help me" signal, shifts our gears into showing up with warmth and empathy and bringing Limits that help our children know that we will always keep them safe.
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01/12/2025
When our child is feeling sad or angry, they will look to us for cues that they are safe. We show them that they are safe with our eyes, our body and our tone of voice. If the cues they receive do not convey safety, it will be much harder for their nervous system to regulate.
Polyvagal theory explains why tantrums happen and why our responses are sometimes less than effective in creating a zone of safety. The other thing is, sometimes when we feel safe, we release emotions, emotions get bigger before they resolve. Often our emotions have to reach a peak before we start to regulate again. Co-regulation is the Sherpa, supporting you to climb that mountain, not the avalanche in your way. We can send cues of safety, that let our child know we are holding space for them.
Session 2 of the Emotionally Overwhelmed Workshop Series is all about cues of safety and danger and how they impact our ability to co-regulate and feel self-regulated. Getting to know how yours and everyone else’s nervous system works is like getting the cheat sheet for the exam on tantrums.
Emotionally Overwhelmed: Learning to listen to your nervous system
I am often asked “if you could only teach parents one thing, what would it be?” This is it. Understanding how our nervous system works is the key to understanding our children, ourselves and the people around us.
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