Life Coaching Goddess

It’s Friday … and time for some humor. These made me giggle 🤭 and also I felt every one of them 🤣🤣

Every time you silence your truth, ignore your intuition, betray your needs, or shrink yourself to keep others comfortable… a part of you disconnects from who you truly are.

That disconnection is what poisons the soul.
Not all at once, but slowly. Quietly.

It shows up as anxiety, exhaustion, resentment, numbness, people-pleasing, depression, toxic relationships, and feeling lost within your own life.

Because the soul was never designed to survive abandonment from the very person meant to protect it… YOU.

Healing begins the moment you stop abandoning yourself to earn love, approval, validation, or belonging.
The moment you choose to honor your emotions, trust your inner voice, set boundaries, and come home to yourself… your soul begins to breathe again.
Your soul doesn’t need perfection.
It needs your presence.
— Brooke Deanne

An abuser will tell you that you can’t live without them. Threaten you if you try to leave. Because they desire control.

An abusive, controlling community will do the same. FEAR all works in the same way. It’s used to keep within their grip.

And the sad thing is that you begin to believe it’s true. That maybe you won’t survive without them, that you’re weak, not capable and you doubt your own strength.

A perfect design to keep you stuck, despite suffering, unhappiness, or feeling something just feels off.

If you’re deconstructing from abuse, narcissistic predators, or high control religion - welcome 🤗

I am motherless. It’s not by choice but because she abandoned me. Not all have experienced a mother that loves unconditionally. Some of us have survived a cold, heartless mother, who could never show up. Who chose comfort over truth.

There is no excuse for this. As a mother myself, I know that I would never abandon my children EVER. It’s unnatural, it’s the opposite of love.

I used to justify my mother’s decisions, and bargain with why she does what she does. But that didn’t hold her accountable. She’s an abused woman, but she’s also abandoned me because of her belief system and because she hasn’t learned how to have a voice.

But harm is harm. She made a choice. And we both have had to pay the price of that choice.

The mother wound is the emotional pain we carry from not feeling fully loved, safe, seen, nurtured, or accepted by our mother or primary caregiver growing up. This can happen through criticism, emotional distance, control, neglect, inconsistency, or even a mother who was struggling with her own unresolved pain.

When these needs are not met in childhood, we often carry the wound into adulthood without realizing it. It can affect the way we see ourselves, the relationships we choose, how safe we feel in our body, and how much we trust ourselves.

Healing the mother wound is important because unhealed pain tends to repeat in patterns. It can show up as:
* People-pleasing
* Fear of rejection or abandonment
* Low self-worth
* Difficulty setting boundaries
* Anxiety in relationships
* Feeling emotionally “not enough”
* Constantly seeking validation from others
As we heal, we begin to feel more grounded, emotionally safe, confident, and connected to our authentic self. We stop looking outside ourselves for the love, approval, and safety we were missing and learn how to give that to ourselves instead. Healing the mother wound helps break generational cycles and allows us to create healthier relationships with ourselves, our children, and others.

Join us in the Returning Woman to heal these wounds, and reclaim your power. Link in the bio