Roaring Fork Valley Parenting

04/30/2022

If you could use a little parenting boost this is a great opportunity!

02/20/2022

Formula recall!

🚨🚨🚨 FORMULA RECALL — PLEASE CHECK YOUR FORMULA!! 🚨🚨🚨

Recall details in FDA link in previous FB post! Please see appropriate replacement formulas below:

02/17/2022

Yesterday I told my daughter that I couldn't play with her in silly voices while she patted my mouth making it sound even funnier. We did that for about 3 giggle filled minutes and then she let me make lunch without whining for me to come play with her. Tell us about a limit you set recently in a creative way....
Or ask for ideas for a limit you struggle with....

Science says that limits give a good framework for children to flourish. And setting limits is an integral part of Hand in Hand's empathetic, authoritative approach.

But if you fear tantrums after a limit, if you default to yelling (even when you vow not to!), if you fear limits may cause too much shame or discomfort for your child, you may hold back.

Hand in Hand's approach to limits is to set them as soon as behaviour begins to cycle off-track, in a calm, connecting and loving way.

How does this look?

Limits can be playful:

“Oh no!,” said with a nod of the head, a smile, and a gentle brush to move a child's hand from tipping his water. “I can't let you tip water.”

Limits can be fun:

“I caught a little growling tiger,” you say, swinging your little one up on your shoulders when he or she growls because you asked him to put his socks on. “This little growling tiger doesn't want to put his socks on, but we must if we want to go to the jungle gym. Come on little tiger. Lets put on the socks.”

Giggles naturally break the tension and can bring back harmony, off-setting mounting tension.

Limits can be understanding:

Move in, make eye contact, and state the limit calmly.

“We are going to go eat dinner now. I'll help you get to the table.”

“No. No more cookies tonight.”

Limits can be connecting:

"I know it's hard right now. That isn't what you wanted to hear right now. I'm be with you."

It's true that children might meltdown when you set limits. But when you know that tears can help children connect and your warmth and support help them through, you also know that you are giving children space they need to offload fears and worries.

Learn more about setting limits like this, plus 4 limits all kids absolutely need in this classic post. (There's a link in our bio).

You'll also get a framework on how to set limits.

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02/16/2022

Oh toddlers...

If Cezanne had had his 3 year old in the studio
🖼Still Life With Milk Jug and Fruit by Paul Cezanne 1900 (bites added by me😉)

02/10/2022

Little things matter. And some days they feel like big things!

Look at the amazing things you are doing every day 😍

02/08/2022

Yep!

Still waiting...

12/23/2021

Simple but powerful things you can do to build connection. Whick one will you do tomorrow? Just one, but put it in writing here.

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08/23/2021

For those with children who are heading back to school, here are a few tips that work under normal back to school circumstances and the current extreme circumstances. You can provide connection and a sense of safety to help bouy your children through the transition. You can be the safe harbor for their storms of big feelings. But don't forget to attend to your own feelings too!

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04/06/2021

Just in case I'm not the only one feeling this way 😉

A few ideas to recover from burnout, but of course the roadmap is different for each of us. What one person experiences as stress-reducing may have the opposite effect for another. 

03/25/2021

We all need to hear this.

So proud of you. 💜🐌

02/04/2021

Today is ! Grab a book off the shelf and read aloud to someone you love today. It’ll be the best way to spend 10 minutes all day. ❤️ (illustration from )

02/01/2021

It's not always easy, or possible, but when it is, it's powerful! Have you experienced this with crying?? Share your experience!

Remarkable, positive changes in a child's behavior can follow a long, deep cry about a toy that broke, or getting the "wrong" colored plate.
Hang on tight, this is how children shed their fearful, anxious feelings 😊