Your Morbid Friends

Dead parents club going virtual for these freezing-cold days. On a Wednesday this time, since some people can’t make Fridays work. Registration link in bio. DM with any questions.

When: Wed Dec 10, 6:30-8pm
Where: google meet link provided after registration
Register on Luma
$10-30 sliding scale

Collective grief is a type of grief not often discussed publicly, but comes up frequently in our work— we share so much more grief than can been seen on the surface.

Our company name, Your morbid FRIENDS, was a deliberate choice to serve as a reminder of how grief needs to be witnessed with compassion, with community, and a friendly acceptance of all that comes through.

We love to hear about how your communities process and support the grief transformation. Tag anyone in your circle who is practicing community care / offering support to collective grief.

Experimenting with first Fridays being the standing meeting time for the Dead Parents Club: everyone’s favorite club that nobody wanted to join.

In November we will meet in person but let us know if you are interested in a virtual meeting! (especially during these colder months)

📍Bed-Stuy, Brooklyn
📆 Friday Nov 7, 6:30-8pm
💌rsvp/info: Partiful/link in bio

We had such a blast at ! Big thanks to for putting on such a spectacular lineup for the first in person iteration. Great to learn from the speakers, from the city and all its magic, from our amazing chosen colleagues— the NYC community showed out & it was so good to hug our internet friends in real life! .towers .and.memory
🖤💀✨

POV: you’re in our locker after our first week of teaching the death doula course! Every single one of our students are the coolest people we’ve ever met and we’re so excited to have them as future chosen colleagues.

Another season, another iteration of Dead Parents Club: the club nobody ever wanted to join. But since we are here, it’s so much nicer to integrate in community.

This is a space to come as you are, however your grief shows up that day, and we will hold each other through that darkness and that light.

📍Bedstuy, Brooklyn, NY
📅 October 3, 630-8p
📬 RSVP/info: partiful/link in bio

This month we are talking about cumulative grief. This can refer to losing several loved ones in a short period of time, or it can refer to larger griefs. As a completely random example, imagine the cumulative grief of living through an ecological collapse and a societal collapse. That would be so much to carry!

And yet we do. Cumulative grief can be a huge burden, and can make it hard to imagine a lighter, brighter future. But that doesn’t mean it’s not possible.

Who says spooky season can’t be all seasons? As the weather starts to shift, we wanted to show you some of what got up to this summer:

1. Our Mortality Themed Game Night at with
2. Working day ice cream treat. We worked hard and had some big talks about money and taxes and only cried a little.
3. Picture at jungle cafe right after our Death cafe for Psychonauts event for
4. Book .b13 is reading. Complete with library rubber band from neighborhood branch of
5. Book is reading
6. Death literacy in the wild via bumper sticker.
7. YMF sticker at Rockaway Beach ✨
8. Candle lit at Catholic Church in Hudson, NY for upcoming Fall Death Doula Certification Program
9. Laszlo preventing work from happening at .b13’s home office
10. Our faces :)

Hope you’re making life spooky and morbid too. Tell us what you’ve been doing/reading to keep it morbid!

Masked grief may be a flatness of presenting at work or with family and friends. It may manifest as physical tension, nightmares or other sleep issues, or other physical/emotional issues that may not look like what we think of as grief, and may not seem connected even to the griever.

Masked grief is a generally involuntary response from the body or the mind, in an attempt to protect yourself. It is often connected to compounded or chronic losses.

There is nothing wrong with a body responding by masking. It’s just one of the MANY ways the brain and body respond to grief.

Supporting someone with masked grief can be nuanced, because as much as we might want to, we can’t “force the insight.” Instead, we can continue to provide presence and curiosity for the griever to process their loss.

Remember:
Grief isn’t a feeling; it’s a transformation.

Join us in a gentle, in-person space in Brooklyn for folx in the Dead Parents Club to gather, share, and be with others who get it.

This is a space to come as you are, however your grief shows up that day, and we will hold each other through that darkness and that light.

📍Bedstuy, Brooklyn, NY
📅 August 22 630-8p
📬 RSVP/info: partiful/link in bio

Going on a road trip with one of Your Morbid Friends means making at least one or two cemetery pit stops, whether small & neglected or huge & historical. These snaps are from SW Pennsylvania which makes the shells pressed into the concrete tombstone even more curious.

This month we are talking about absent grief.

This type of grief is an absence of the physical or mental processes that one would expect when grieving. This is not the same thing as denial; the acknowledgement of loss is there, the only thing missing is the expected depth of feeling.

For some, that might mean expecting tears but instead feeling angry. For others, it may be an overall numbness to life that can last weeks or months. And in others, the biggest impact is disrupted routines because of forgetfulness and brain fog.

A grieving brain is a brain working so hard. When you’re grieving you already feel bad enough— you don’t need to also feed bad about feeling bad “incorrectly.”

Take care of you. You deserve it.